Anyone has CL to recommend ? my edd is on July.
I need a CL who can share room with my husband(he will be slping on the floor), me and my baby .
She doesn't need to wash my clothes/baby clothes, doesn't have to cook for my husband, doesn't have to mop/sweep the floor. Her duties only to help cook my confinement food and take care of the baby as i already have a maid at home.
May I know which agency is she from?I had a very bad experience with a confinement nanny. I hope my review would help other mummies so that you would not suffer as I did.
Her name is Hua Jie花姐 and she was from a confinement agency. I terminated her services after 15 days after discovering that she has bronchitis. Initially she claimed that she merely had a bad cough and that it was not contagious. However, she coughed very frequently and sometimes into my baby’s face. It was only later that she confessed she had bronchitis. My paediatrician advised that she should have no further contact with my baby as there was no guarantee that it would not have adverse effects on the child. However, that was not the only reason why I terminated her services. The other reasons are as follows:
1. She was not supportive of breast-feeding which I had intended to do because this meant she had to keep waking at night to pass baby to me. Hence, she often discouraged me by saying I did not have enough breastmilk for the baby.
2. She gave my 1-week old baby the Large-hole teat when feeding him formula from the bottle. This resulted in my baby choking.
3. She ignored my request to NOT use the cotton buds (the adult kind which are sharp and hard) to clean baby’s ears, claiming, in her many years of experience, that she knows how to do so.
4. She applied a lot of 如意油 onto my barely 1-week old baby which made the area around his belly very hot. And she applied it directly onto his skin, instead of applying it on her hands and rubbing his belly with it which should be the correct way (as bb’s skin is very soft and sensitive).
5. She would cradle my baby to sleep the entire night because she claimed that he kept waking up at night and disturbed her rest. When she cradled him to sleep the whole night, she could sleep through without waking. When we reminded her that it would be difficult to adjust after she left, she was very smug and claimed that baby would ‘look for her’ when she left and would cry for her.
6. Instead of focusing on cooking confinement food for me, she was more concerned about what she was eating everyday. 1) She insisted that my family eat brown rice instead of white because she wanted to eat that – we ignored her. 2) She would request that we buy breakfast for her, such as chwee kuey and so on. 3) She often said that when she worked for rich families, they would have avocado for breakfast, or buy her favourite Subway sandwiches (my family is not rich and we usually have bread for breakfast). To accommodate her, we did buy a variety of food for her for breakfast and tea.
7. She always boasted that she could cook a variety of confinement food, but in actual fact, she would cook eggs for me to eat for 3 meals a day. This was NOT food you would serve during confinement to help boost the mother’s energy and health.
8. She did not wash the ingredients properly before preparing food for me. She would cut up ingredients and store them in plastic containers for a few days instead of preparing them fresh and cooking them immediately. When my mother pointed this out, she argued with her.
9. She frequently forgot to boil enough 红枣茶for me to drink through the night (when I woke up to pump) till morning, hence, my mother needed to top up by preparing 米水.
10. She would add tap water to my herbal bath everyday to cool it – the correct way to do so would have been to leave the boiled water to cool by itself.
11. I have a helper (to take care of my 2 kids and help with housework as I am a full-time working mom). We are very happy with her as she has a lot of initiative and does her work well. However, the nanny would often scold my helper and criticise her cooking, so my helper was very unhappy and broke down many times while the nanny was here.
12. She frequently left the bottles and flanges I used for pumping at the sink for my helper to wash.
13. The nanny would also leave all the washing up for my helper to do when in fact it was her job to clean up after cooking confinement meals. She would often push work to my helper to do whenever she could.
Honestly, I tried very hard to remain objective in this review. It may be possible that some other mummies have received better services from her. However, this was truthfully my experience and I am sharing it in the hope that this description of her services will be helpful should any of you be wondering whether to engage her.
Hi, My mother is a Malaysian confinement lady and she cooks really well. She hasn't tried taking care of twins before but she has >20 yrs exp doing confinement. She was referred to me by my friend. She gave good advice & well verse in herbs. She even share some of her recipe with us so that we can continue to take care after ourselves after confinement period. If you are keen, you can reach her at:anyone know of experienced confinement ladies? im giving birth soon
I had a very bad experience with a confinement nanny. I hope my review would help other mummies so that you would not suffer as I did.
Her name is Hua Jie花姐 and she was from a confinement agency. I terminated her services after 15 days after discovering that she has bronchitis. Initially she claimed that she merely had a bad cough and that it was not contagious. However, she coughed very frequently and sometimes into my baby’s face. It was only later that she confessed she had bronchitis. My paediatrician advised that she should have no further contact with my baby as there was no guarantee that it would not have adverse effects on the child. However, that was not the only reason why I terminated her services. The other reasons are as follows:
1. She was not supportive of breast-feeding which I had intended to do because this meant she had to keep waking at night to pass baby to me. Hence, she often discouraged me by saying I did not have enough breastmilk for the baby.
2. She gave my 1-week old baby the Large-hole teat when feeding him formula from the bottle. This resulted in my baby choking.
3. She ignored my request to NOT use the cotton buds (the adult kind which are sharp and hard) to clean baby’s ears, claiming, in her many years of experience, that she knows how to do so.
4. She applied a lot of 如意油 onto my barely 1-week old baby which made the area around his belly very hot. And she applied it directly onto his skin, instead of applying it on her hands and rubbing his belly with it which should be the correct way (as bb’s skin is very soft and sensitive).
5. She would cradle my baby to sleep the entire night because she claimed that he kept waking up at night and disturbed her rest. When she cradled him to sleep the whole night, she could sleep through without waking. When we reminded her that it would be difficult to adjust after she left, she was very smug and claimed that baby would ‘look for her’ when she left and would cry for her.
6. Instead of focusing on cooking confinement food for me, she was more concerned about what she was eating everyday. 1) She insisted that my family eat brown rice instead of white because she wanted to eat that – we ignored her. 2) She would request that we buy breakfast for her, such as chwee kuey and so on. 3) She often said that when she worked for rich families, they would have avocado for breakfast, or buy her favourite Subway sandwiches (my family is not rich and we usually have bread for breakfast). To accommodate her, we did buy a variety of food for her for breakfast and tea.
7. She always boasted that she could cook a variety of confinement food, but in actual fact, she would cook eggs for me to eat for 3 meals a day. This was NOT food you would serve during confinement to help boost the mother’s energy and health.
8. She did not wash the ingredients properly before preparing food for me. She would cut up ingredients and store them in plastic containers for a few days instead of preparing them fresh and cooking them immediately. When my mother pointed this out, she argued with her.
9. She frequently forgot to boil enough 红枣茶for me to drink through the night (when I woke up to pump) till morning, hence, my mother needed to top up by preparing 米水.
10. She would add tap water to my herbal bath everyday to cool it – the correct way to do so would have been to leave the boiled water to cool by itself.
11. I have a helper (to take care of my 2 kids and help with housework as I am a full-time working mom). We are very happy with her as she has a lot of initiative and does her work well. However, the nanny would often scold my helper and criticise her cooking, so my helper was very unhappy and broke down many times while the nanny was here.
12. She frequently left the bottles and flanges I used for pumping at the sink for my helper to wash.
13. The nanny would also leave all the washing up for my helper to do when in fact it was her job to clean up after cooking confinement meals. She would often push work to my helper to do whenever she could.
Honestly, I tried very hard to remain objective in this review. It may be possible that some other mummies have received better services from her. However, this was truthfully my experience and I am sharing it in the hope that this description of her services will be helpful should any of you be wondering whether to engage her.
Hi yh30,
Emphatise with you. seem there are more "bad" CLs nowadays.
The problem is that this "CL industry" is not regulated at all.
Wonder if the CLs know that there are many forums like this out there that will publish their names.
should not let them get their way around- at 2.8k-3.2K, their salary is very high, not to mention that they use and eat everything in the house.
Hi i just give birth on 3 feb 2017, I'm currently using Star confinement agency.....my current nanny Fong jie is very good. The 1st one not good i change her at 4th day, i feel that I'm safe because if I'm unhappy with the nanny i can change to a better the. If i use private the they can don't come in the last min.....which i experience at dec 2016 and suddenly tell me cannot come during my birth at feb 2017.anyone know of experienced confinement ladies? im giving birth soon
Highly recommend my Confinement nanny~ KamLan, around 50+.. very experienced, patient & clean. Taking well care for me &my baby.hi,may i know from which agency. Im also looking for a reliable confinement nanny .
Highly recommend my Confinement nanny~ KamLan, around 50+.. very experienced, patient & clean. Taking well care for me &my baby.anyone know of experienced confinement ladies? im giving birth soon
Hi,Dear all mummies,
My sister in law is giving birth in May soon! Are there any confinement nannies contacts to recommend? I'd prefer nannies with experiences more than 5 years, and can stay in. Mandarin/English speaking! TIA!
Just wondering what are the additional.cost other than paying the cl?
The cost of having one person to stay in (utilities, water etc)
Yes, it's like having a live in helper.
If she buy groceries, does she do the buying?
This I'm not sure cos my MIL does the buying. So maybe you could call the CLs you shortlisted and ask.
Cos is there any way to ensure she dont just anyhow buy cos not her money. End up buying all expensive stuff and claim its good but end up she eat?
If she is the one doing the buying and she come back from the market, you can see what she buy and comment from there also.
What are the things we need to buy? Herbal pack? Red dates and herbs? Those things can we ask her in advance what is needed and we get them ourselves?
I bought EYS herbal package, because I was prepared to deliver early and I didn't want any last minute scrambling to buy herbs. The EYS herbal package only includes x number (depends on how thick you cook) of days of red date tea, so Aunty Kim Lan asked my MIL to buy more ingredients for red date tea to last until 28 days. After 28 days (I engaged her for two months), she asked my MIL to buy ingredients to make lemongrass drink. I must say this lemongrass drink gives my milk production a boost on days when I drink it.
After she arrived, she advised my MIL on what to buy on a weekly basis.
I sound like i got trust issue la, maybe i do but i just feel some ppl out to take advantage. And sometimes with recommendation also gotta take with pinch of salt
I tot the herb pack was also to shower other than the red date tea?My replies in line in your quoted post above.
It's good you are so sceptical, to prevent being conned. I suggest you call up the CLs you shortlisted, chat with them to have a feel before committing. That's what I did previously.
I tot the herb pack was also to shower other than the red date tea?
Other than the usual groceries, cost of stay in person, for the herbs, any special herbs that we need to get that is pricey?
What about bathing? where do you get those from? or can just bath in normal hot water? hahhaNo in the herbal packages I bought (with PEM during my first child and EYS recently for my second), none was for bathing. All for soups to be drunk.
The herbs are not pricey if you want to go to a medicinal hall and ask them to compile for you than use the pre compiled packages from PEM or EYS etc.
During my first confinement the PEM CL boil hot water with some herbs. Now that you mention it, that must have been part of the PEM herbal package. But seems like only enough for 2 times. After that she ask me to use white wine mix in hot water to wipe down. For the first 2 weeks I didn't wash my hair. Just wipe body only. After 2 weeks I secretly wash hair and blow dry in my room. I also had the CL for two months with my first child. But the aunty was strict and told me not to wash my hair.What about bathing? where do you get those from? or can just bath in normal hot water? hahha
During my first confinement the PEM CL boil hot water with some herbs. Now that you mention it, that must have been part of the PEM herbal package. But seems like only enough for 2 times. After that she ask me to use white wine mix in hot water to wipe down. For the first 2 weeks I didn't wash my hair. Just wipe body only. After 2 weeks I secretly wash hair and blow dry in my room. I also had the CL for two months with my first child. But the aunty was strict and told me not to wash my hair.
For my second confinement I couldn't be bothered. I took hot shower as per normal since I delivered in hospital and then just blow dry my hair after shower that's all. Aunty Kim Lan was not super traditional. She just say remember to blow dry hair can already, and don't shower too late at night.
DEfinitely can shower! We are not in the olden days or living in Siberia where there is no heating and it is winter outside. Hygiene is most important especially if you are breastfeeding, not to mention mummy's comfort is key!Ok as long as i can shower.
Ya cannot dont shower. Whoever stops me i will fight that person hahahahaDEfinitely can shower! We are not in the olden days or living in Siberia where there is no heating and it is winter outside. Hygiene is most important especially if you are breastfeeding, not to mention mummy's comfort is key!
My CL told me that those who dont allow people to shower must be joking especially with these heat. They also advocate AC and not fans.![]()
Thumbs up for my confinement lady. She really relieved me of all my worries. That's why I want to share this to all the moms-to-be out there. All your concerns will be gone if you engaged her. She's from Malaysia with 8 to 9 years experienced as a CL. Some CL are relatively cheap but I go for quality rather than cost. For more information of my CL, here's her WhatsApp or call to +601136539563 .Anyone has CL to recommend ? my edd is on July.
I need a CL who can share room with my husband(he will be slping on the floor), me and my baby .
She doesn't need to wash my clothes/baby clothes, doesn't have to cook for my husband, doesn't have to mop/sweep the floor. Her duties only to help cook my confinement food and take care of the baby as i already have a maid at home.
Dear all mummies,
My sister in law is giving birth in May soon! Are there any confinement nannies contacts to recommend? I'd prefer nannies with experiences more than 5 years, and can stay in. Mandarin/English speaking! TIA!
Hey there I am currently doing my confinement. I would like to recommend my confinement lady! So far so great she have been such a great help of mine. My baby is also in safe hand.i can tell she love baby and she really treat my baby with care and patient. She's also cheerful in spirit. My cl is very encouraging toward breastfeeding. Keep telling me not to give up when I almost. She always want me to rest as much as possible. Basically really just eat sleep breastfeeding is my routine now hahaa. She cook nice confinement food too ! She will also boil bu pin for me before I go to bed at night. I am so Glad to have her and I just extended her another 12 days. As she really a great help! Highly recommended
Yan Jie: +60172869959
Hi Daisyyflower,
I've just contacted Yan Jie as my edd is this July 16 and she is available. Can you share with me her daily jobscope as a CL please? Bcos it is my first baby, I have zero ideas on going about to engage a good CLAppreciated your reply!
Hi Daisyyflower,
I've just contacted Yan Jie as my edd is this July 16 and she is available. Can you share with me her daily jobscope as a CL please? Bcos it is my first baby, I have zero ideas on going about to engage a good CLAppreciated your reply!
Im a FTM as well and have been scouring the forums for more information on confinement nannies. One thing that I realize is there are many ‘new members’ who post recommendations (only 1 or 2 in their lifetime) and become inactive afterwards. I would take these recommendations with a pinch of salt and focus more on the recommendations posted by active members. Just sharing!
Anyone has CL to recommend ? my edd is on July.
I need a CL who can share room with my husband(he will be slping on the floor), me and my baby .
She doesn't need to wash my clothes/baby clothes, doesn't have to cook for my husband, doesn't have to mop/sweep the floor. Her duties only to help cook my confinement food and take care of the baby as i already have a maid at home.
May I know how much is the charges?I'll like to share my personal experience with my confinement nanny i've engaged, with all mummies and mummies to be here.
My confinement nanny is a godsend and i cannot be grateful enough to have met her in this baby journey. She is a teochew and she can communicate in Mandarin and teochew/hokkien. She's a malaysian but she often stays with her daughter in Singapore.
I'm a first time mum, ending my 28 days confinement soon and i'm super super glad to be able to engage aunty for another 28 days of daytime help.
Aunty plans her daily routine well. She wakes up early to brew fresh red date tea, prepare ingredients for lunch, sun baby at 8.30am( as my LO has jaundice) and then bathe baby. It will be just in time that i'll wake up and Aunty always wait patiently till i wake and make me milo, so that i can have it while it's hot. After lunch she will do the dishes, wash baby and my laundry, multitasking to attend to baby if he cries, while i rest, and then prepare ingredients for dinner. It works for me as i love to have a system in place.
I'm breastfeeding my baby and prefer to bath daily. Aunty will prepare herb bath for me, all ready in my bathroom before i wake up. As she's an experience nanny, she will give me valuable advices, however she never nags nor force any of them on me.
Being a confinement nanny is never easy, she doesn't take it just a job, she does it with passion and always put interest of me and baby first.
Aunty is very motherly and has the biggest heart for babies. As a mum herself, she is zen and full of patience when baby fuss and cries for long hours. Sometimes, fusses from 1 feeding time to another, which is approx 3 hrs. Once, i can no longer tolerate the cries and cried myself while feeding baby, i'm worried and stress what to do when nanny goes back after this. Aunty consoled me and encouraged me to be strong for baby. She will burp my baby after every feed and comfort him to sleep, so that i can rest. She is always full of smiles and that calms me well. She is one angel that i cannot ask for more. Her love and passion for babies is real.
Aunty's cooking is superb and she will check with me on what kind of food i eat and don't( i'm a fussy eater). She is a talented cook and all reflects in her food! I must admit she had increased the list of food that i eat now, as she made all food taste really nice. My hubby and i will finish them all. Plus point, she's very flexible and not calculative, if my mum is joining for meal, she will cook bigger portion to accommodate all, even though it's not her job to start with. She always waits for me to have meals together, if i were taking a nap, she will wait patiently and not wake me up. I've told her to go ahead first but she waits. Her well-mannered made me feel so bad!
She's very hygienic, another PLUS for me as i'm very particular. She bathes twice a day and always clean up the kitchen and laundry area after every use. She never fails to sanitise her hands before carrying baby as she observed me doing so myself on DAY 1.
I'm relocating to HONG KONG soon and already asking her for her interest of traveling to HK to do confinement for me , if i'm having my 2nd baby there.
Aunty accepts full confinement service, as well as day time service which is 10am-7pm or 9am-6pm.
I am in no way related to aunty at all and actually found her contact through motherhood forum as the nannies that my friends recommended were all taken then.
If you are interested in engaging aunty's service, you may reach her daughter Denise @98801042 to check for her availability schedules.
i repeat, i'm no way related to aunty at all, this is through my personal experience and to share contact with all mummies that needs help, as there are a number of bad sheep nannies circulating. All the best in finding your confinement aunty and i hope all mummies engage one as good as mine
I saw good review for Peggy from a mummy in facebook. Just wondering if it is the same person. Is her ID (CA086)? Wearing spec?Hi all, I would recommend my confinement lady Peggy from Confinement Angels
Our baby’s first month nanny Peggy is dedicated, hardworking and respectful towards my wish to have baby latch directly instead of bottle feeding. My baby had problems latching on, it took more time and effort yet nanny Peggy assist willingly. She also encourages me when my milk supply was low. Out of concern, she advice mixed feeding to decrease baby’s jaundice level
Nanny Peggy rarely take breaks. When the baby is awake, she is always beside him. While I breastfeed in the middle of the night, she will prepare me snacks and prop pillows around me to make sure we are comfortable. Through her gentle interaction with my baby, I can tell she truly loves babies. She gets along well with everybody too including my helper.
Thank You Peggy, we will not forget you. An awesome Nanny.
Hi Daisyyflower,
I've just contacted Yan Jie as my edd is this July 16 and she is available. Can you share with me her daily jobscope as a CL please? Bcos it is my first baby, I have zero ideas on going about to engage a good CLAppreciated your reply!
Hi Geraldine, just wanna check is aunty peggy what? Her surname u have? Confinement Angel say they have a few peggy.Hi all, I would recommend my confinement lady Peggy from Confinement Angels
Our baby’s first month nanny Peggy is dedicated, hardworking and respectful towards my wish to have baby latch directly instead of bottle feeding. My baby had problems latching on, it took more time and effort yet nanny Peggy assist willingly. She also encourages me when my milk supply was low. Out of concern, she advice mixed feeding to decrease baby’s jaundice level
Nanny Peggy rarely take breaks. When the baby is awake, she is always beside him. While I breastfeed in the middle of the night, she will prepare me snacks and prop pillows around me to make sure we are comfortable. Through her gentle interaction with my baby, I can tell she truly loves babies. She gets along well with everybody too including my helper.
Thank You Peggy, we will not forget you. An awesome Nanny.