Child Adoption

Die, sorry 2 hear that. Don't dwell on it ok?

Blesswbb, she has bn standing in the bath since abt a mth ago n I use thst opportunity 2 wash her bottom! otherwise now that they sit in the tub, itz hard 2 wash their bottom, haha. Initially when she was wobbly, it was dangerous standing in the bath so I got bath toys 2 distract her n maKe her stay still! Now she still slips n lands with a thud in the water but she's not bothered.

I practiced disclosure with bb when she was abt 3-4mths old. It was a quiet moment betwn us n she was lying so sweetly in bed n i juz thot I'll practice. Anyway, I found myself crying as well! I surprised myself actually. I didn't realise how strong the emotions were. Anyway, juz shows i gotta practice more!

Anyone went to the Taka baby fair? I hvnt had the time.
 


die,
It's not easy to tell them that they are not ours but adopted. Sometimes when i think of the reason her parents have to give up on her will also make me heartache for her. So i wonder if 1 day when she ask me y her parents doesnt want her i really cant tell as i know she will be too hurt to hear what she's going to listen from us. My part that i'm going to disclose is only that she is adopted and not our biological child.
If u choose to forgive him...then move on...all these stories with bring back bad memories...but since is already a past look at the future with happiness...;)

Yuli,
Thanks for the advise...think i got to get bath toys to distract her...oh i have been washing her bottom since she's with us...so her bottom still smell very nice...haha

Everywhere is having baby fair...even OG having offer on babies stuff.
 
Hapimint,
If those couples are going thru the legal way...that means they have to go thru the Home study then it makes no sense that the couples are avoiding your mum...as end of it they still need to disclose it to the child.
 
About Jack Neo, I think very little of it. Because it's the entertainment industry and there are alot of temptations. I think he is human after all and I don't want to judge him. THe most important thing is that he repent and work harder on his marriage. Everyone should move on. In marriage, we have to work on it, for better or worst.
Men are weak but there are women who tempt the men. So, if we can look at it in that angle, it helps to forgive.
 
Die,
Please try not to dwell on it. Instead, focus on the present and look forward to the future.

Hapimint,
I am sure all the adoptive parents would never forget you and what your mum has done for them. I think most of them are not ready to disclose the adoption to their children and that's why they may have lost touch with you and your mum.

Yuli and Blesswbb,
I know how you feel. It is not easy and may be should try by reading books instead.
 
Hi ladies

Feeling very down lately. There is still no news of any baby available and I'm wondering whether this is going to be a very long wait.

Yuli and BlessBB

I agree with what Dream suggested. Disclosure is never going to be easy!Sometimes, I pretend that I already have a baby and I try to practise telling him/her about his adoption and just like BlessBB and Yuli, I'm already in tears!

Die

It's not easy, is it? I have a close friend who was in a similar position and she is always in doubt though she has forgiven her husband. But I always tell her to put the past behind her and move on.
 
Janella,
I wanted to PM you, but that's not allowed. Could you email me? You have my email add right? I really would like to 'talk' to you.

Yuli, Blesswbb, Dream,
Disclosing is a hard topic, and sometimes, I do tear, just because i have the same sentiments as Blesswbb. It will be a tough time for us and also for them. Hopefully by the time they can comprehend, we would be able to control our emotions, and be there for them.
 
Janella, I understand how you feel and is hard to be patience. Sometimes when you hear the phone rings you wonder if this is from the agent. Have you call Alice or other agents ? For me now, I am glad work is keeping me 100% occupy. Still at work now.

Die, sorry to hear this. Glad you have moved forward together with your hubby as this will strength your relationship together.

Attending the disclosure is one thing and actually doing the disclosure must be hard. I pray I will be strong when it comes to me. Hugs to you.
 
Elle,
I have talked to Alice and she told me she is working on your case and hope to get good news for you this week. Try to finish your work!

The waiting is a really tough time and it is good that work keeps you busy,

Janella,
I also try to ask for you but Alice was not sure who I was referring to. I guess she has lots of clients.

But looking on the bright side, it means you are ready to be a mom! It is really great and just be patient. Your hubby has been waiting for even a longer time! Your time will come very soon.

Babylove,
I am really interested to have a look at the books you bought about adoption when we meet.

Ladies,
I found Avent pacifier that are BPA free in Kiddy Palace in Jurong Point...I know it is far but just thought I'll let you know, I tried to look for some in Robinson last week but could not find any. Otherwise, like Blesswbb, also bought a training water bottle (BPA free)...yep, obsessed with getting BPA free stuffs,,,so, Janella and Elle..don't do my mistakes...As i did not know about the side effects of BPA, I bought normal bottles and once I found out about BPA, had to buy new BPA free bottles...waste my hard earned money!
 
dream,
Kiddy Palace in Jurong Point has been my hot shopping area since my girl with us. I can be there for an hour just shopping there. My girl has been using Avent pacifier since the news abt a toddler got choke by pacifier.

Elle/Janella,
Don't feel so hard with baby not arriving...i believed that sometimes God is still selecting the right baby for you. So pls be patience.
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Thanks for all ur comforting words..It's true that my marriage became even stronger aft that episode and im glad that i did not make the wrong decision by choosing to forgive him..problem is i cannot forget..sigh..sometimes i still bring it up n nag at him..

jus to share, actually i neglected him during that time due to working full time n studying part time..n he jus started a new business venture..I was too busy to help him and someone else did..n they became close..at first i only felt anger at him cuz i was the victim..but now 4 yrs later looking back..i realised how lonely and neglected he was when i kept pushing him away emotionally as i was in survival mode trying to cope with job n study..

New mummies,
Do shower more love n attention on ur hubbies..dont ever take dem for granted,ok..In a way, they are like big babies..dey want attention too although they r too proud to ask for it..

BlesswBB,
U r rite..I never thot of how hurt a child will be when find out dat biological parents dont want them..how to soothe that hurt? Will our love be enough? Teenager time will be the worst..i tink.
 
BlesswBB,

Its ok if u dont answer my question if its too personal, but wat was the reason the biological parents didnt want her? Again, sorry..so direct..

iwantitvmuch,
u r rite..men r weak n some women really tempt them..terrible b@#$%^! but at the same time, i also reflected on myself that during that time, i didnt put my hubby n marriage 1st on the priority list..also my mistake too..of course still not an excuse for him la..

anyways, thanks ladies
i will try my best to put all these bad memories behind..the present is good n future will be even better ;)
 
Dream

Thanks so much for alerting Alice. I'm actually using a different name so that's why she doesn't know who you are referring to. But I am also widening my search so that's ok.

Elle & BlessBB

Thanks for your kind words. I just have to be patient. Elle, I'm glad that work is keeping you busy.

It's true, Elle. Whenever my mobile rings, I rush to answer it hoping that it's the agent.

Babylove

Did you get my message? I've forgotten how this PM system works.
 
die,
i will answer yr qn in FB...think this will be too sensitive qn.

Janella,
Did u try calling Joy adoption Service? Think they are good too. If not..u may wan to consider PM Hapmint to check whether her mum is still doing adoption.
 
Blesswbb,
I guess we are the only one shopping in Jurong point. This is only my third time there as it is a bit far from my place. I usually like to go imm, Vivo or suntec.

Die
thanks for sharing your story and advice. I think sometimes we get too caught up in our "own" life that we forget the other half. and you are right that with baby, there is even less time for us. It is lots of adjustments as well and there will be new conflicts too. But once new balance is found, it is ok but sometimes, it is really hard to find that balance! Anyway, Will try to pay more attention to my hubby! Thanks for the reminder

Janella
Don't hesitate to call Alice to ask her for updates. As she has lots of cases, it is good to call her once in a while. I used to call her almost everyday!
 
Die
I've got so many close friends who hv husbs that strayed, n i'm really proud of u for making that effort to forgive. It's hard to forget but i know yr unconditional love will transform yr marriage including yourself as u strive to work thru the process. Keep going strong n yr kids will be moved by yr courage n gd role-modelling.

Janella
U can call Francis of Joyful Adoption. That's how I got my precious. Francis has many babies who r nursed by his sister-in-law, also called Alice. Suddenly the name Alice pops up everywhere haha.

Dream
So nice to know your boy is progressing so fast!! Turning on both sides is a feat, but gd thing boys tend to advance more quickly in psycho-motor skills than the girls tho they tend to lag behind them in language acquisition. Can't wait to hear your boy experiment with standing n walking. I've to keep a close watch over my boy all the time now as he moves around thinking he can fly n walk all on his own, altho I've been there to catch him when he falls!! V scary...

iwantitvmuch
Have been looking out for baby recipe bks too, n found a host of them at the public community libraries. Might want to chk them out instead of buying, as u can compare notes, n tailor them to suit the asian appetite... since angmo babies r genetically more lactose-tolerant than asian babies. Also find many of the western recipes too heavy-laden with sugars, usually a combi of various fruits like banana, berries n other stuff with porridge, mixed with cream or milk. Think we can cut down the proportions accordingly to get our kids to appreciate the natural tastes of various foods.
 
hi all, i am new to this forum. I wld like to find out more about adoption here. How do i start, who do I contact? Any contacts to recommend? My DH and I hv been trying v long to conceive but its not happen. Maybe God has another plan for us...
 
Mummyportia,
Must be stressful looking after him as he is learning how to walk and stand. I guess you have to baby proof your house as well. Once he learns to walk, he would learn running and jumping! I remember my elder daughter was fascinated about walking backwards as well! Otherwise, he still has not "talked". Just learning to scream for our attention. Hope he gets there too. How old was your boy when he managed to say mama or papa? Does your boy have stranger anxiety? Otherwise, I guess he must be enjoying going to the park. About baby food, I guess we are giving them fusion food! The best of both worlds. My boy loves pumpkin purée. Will try green vegetable this week.

Working wife
welcome to the thread. I think most of us have experienced what you are going thru and are now happy and proud mothers. A good start is to check mcys website and give them a call. You also need to contact touch which is in charge of home study report and also organises talk on adoption. You may want to start there.
 
Working wife!!
Welcome. Hope we can help you here. If you click on 'Archive through January 20', look for a message by babylove(to strawberryusu) on the 7th of January 2010. You will have some details there on how to start.

We all have tried conceiving for very long. If you back track the threads to as early as April last year, you will see the journey of BlesswBB, Yuli, Babylove, iwantitvmuch(myself), Dream, SweetCl05, rehdeer,mummyportia,sorry if I miss anyone(our list getting longer!!!). We each have a story and and I have find support through each of the adoptive mothers here. I hope you will find a resolution and be a parent soon!!

Mummyportia ah, check your fb lately??
 
Hi ladies,
Thanks so much for your advice. Lately, I've being quite busy and don't have time to come in..Now Lunch time, just drop by to see the thread, it's moving so fast.

Wow, there're a few new members, welcome!

Dream,
I've bought MAM's BPA stuffs, they're selling at Mothercare. Marina Sq mothercare got quite alot of baby's stuffs, you can go there and shop.
 
working wife,
Welcome to the thread.

iwantitvmuch,
U back in S'pore? So did u managed to catch up with Yuli?

Me having been very tired lately teaching my new helper and bring her up and down to the hospital for caregiver training...i really hope this going to end soon...otherwise think i'm going to fall sick.
 
No, I didn't have time to see Yuli. It was a short trip as I'm rushing back to see baby. But I was at Pavilion for dinner with colleagues and I saw so many shops for baby! But no time to shop.
Don't train the helper too much at a time. U will get frustrated if she can't remember. If information overload, she can't remember. If she's stress, worst.

I have a freiend moving to Canada and she is helping her helper find an employer. If anyone is interested, let me know. She's filippina and hv experiences w baby.
 
thanks to all for your advise. Very useful. I hope that one day, I can be a proud parent too
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Just a question, how long did it take you to adopt your children (from the point that you started checking out agencies, attending talks etc)? I have heard that it takes very long (even up to few years)... but it must be worth the wait!
 
BlessBB,Mummyportia

I've already contacted another agency.I'm still waiting. I think I just have to be more patient.Thanks for the tip! I'm worried that I will grow old waiting. Ha!Ha!

Working Wife

A warm welcome to you! Just to let you know, I heard from the adoption agent that it is better to do the HSR with SBL as it is faster than TOUCH.
You might just want to check both out first.
 
Hi Janella,

you can try calling ronnie tan from kids & tot adoption agency, hp 91999949. I think a few weeks ago he told me he has a malaysian baby girl for adoption. I didn't do my HSR so I can't adopt her. Good luck to you!
 
dear ladies,

I've been reading through every post in this thread. I never knew there are many families into adopting children till I chance upon this thread.

Married for 7 years. DH diagnosed of have zero sperm. But over the 7 years, we tried eastern to western, in search of miracle. Although 4 years back, doc told us, we only have 2 options. Donor sperm or adoption. DH took the matter quite well, but not me. We loved children, however DH told me he is fine, and I comforted him and repied...we still have each other, we can travel without worries.

Years passed. Each time when we went shopping, lookinf at baby clothings, looking at babies of others and own relatives, how i wish, i had one of my own. But I hide it, cos I just don't wanna let DH feel bad. Yet in the meantime, I still have relatives who will suggest this cure,and that doc, and I still ask DH to go for the treatment.

FInally, Dh told me, why am I still insisiting when we know the results will still be the same? Treatments are not cheap. If I really want a baby, then get a donor sperm and go thru ivf. At that point, I was speechless. I knew what he is going through. But I try to ignore and hide the fact. I still hope for miracle. But his words, I woke up. I knew he had enough. Treatments wasnt cheap. and to him it was time consuming cos I was the one who couldnt accept the fact, and kept hoping for miracle.

But alas, he told me to wake up. There, I ggogled about donor sperm, and chanced upon this thread. I thought, and knew ivf was not a guaranteed pregnancy. weighing the pros n cons, I told myself, why not adopt.
Cost of adoption is not cheap either. But I know the chance of having a baby is higher.

Discussed with DH. I guessed somehow he felt happier for me. that I'm accepting the fact. Although he still don't understand why I must have a baby? Why can't we just have each other till the end...

I told him. Mother instinct. WOmen Instinct. SOmething is missing and I guess he understood. He told me, if i want to adopt, he will support my decision. I think he is able to foresee that we will have another big row again over babies, treatments, etc., if we continue to ignore the problem.

I read about the cost, ranging from 25k - 30k.
I read about the great help Alice gave. There's mention of MCYS, Lotus and Touch. Do help me clarify my doubts. Alice is in Lotus? but lotus min age is 40. So I would be left with Touch? As we are both 31.
 
Ineedmiracle,
welcome and I am sure your miracle will find you! It must have taken you hours to go thru the thread. That s what I did too before I joined the thread but at that time, it was much shorter! Most of us have gone thru what you are going thru and I know it is not easy. But I guess it makes us stronger and once you will hold your prince or princess in your arm, you will feel complete. And life would never be the same !

To answer your questions, you need to get a home study report. That s a requirement from mcys and if I am not wrong, there are three agencies accredited by mcys to conduct hsr and one of them is touch. You can go thru touch website and download their form. Mcys website will also spelt out the requirements. Once you get your HSR approved, you can then contact adoption agency. Touch is also an adoption
agency for china. Most of us have gone thru lotus but there
are other adoption agencies as well. As for the age, most of us are below 40 and have adopted thru lotus.

Touch also organises seminar on adoption which you would need to attend for your hsr. Can't wait to read the rest of your journey!
 
dream,

thanks for the help. will definitely give Alice a call. Her number can be found on the Lotus website right? I guess after hearing all the successful stories, I also wanna leave my miracle in Alice's hand...

But the next hurdle we need to overcome, is to bring this matter up to our parents. Will talk to my parents tml and see their reactions. My parents are always supportive in my decision. Perhaps they will be easier as they knew about DH's condition.

But DH's parents are not aware of the head and tail, so not sure how they will react.. but DH assured me that no problem. He told me that baby is ours, no one makes the decision for us. =)

I've waited for 7 years....waiting for miracles to take place..
 
Can I check, on average, how long did all mummies waited for your little ones to choose you upon submitting the HSR?

Also, did any of you have preferences that you need Alice to look out for when looking for a baby? Would it be faster if no preferences?

I read from Lotus website...
- Applicants of adoption have to be at least 35 years old to adopt.
(not 40 as mentioned earlier)
but hor...we are below 35...will Alice help us?
 
ideedmiracle, Sorry to hear that you can't conceive.
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I was like you, almost thought that we don't have to have children if we can't have any. But my hubby and I don't live eventful life and sometimes, we get really bored and feel that something is really missing in our marriage(amidst our trying). I gave up trying when I reached the timeline to stop and never looked back!
You don't have to be 40 yrs old. But you must be ready. Think carefully and I say, be ready to accept any babies. With adoption, better to think 'I want to bless a child'.
I was very very lucky for not having to wait for my little one. My little one waited 3 weeks for me! I didn't have a chance to tell Alice of my preferences. Luckily, I didn't have a chance or else, I can't imagine what stupid criterias I would have given her. She told me I can visit the baby when I called her.
Alice is very kind and the babies she handled are babies she will want to adopt herself. So, I say, no need to have criteria.

You can always go for the pre-adoption class before your final decision. Do go to touch website now . Janella said that SBL might be faster than Touch. u might want to try.
 
iwantitvmuch,
thanks a lot. Really agree with u, sometimes leave our miracle to hands of god. Our little miracle will find us.
We decided to let her Alice knw the gender. The rest will leave it to god to decide for us.

I called Alice today. She advised me to get my HSR from tanjong fsc, much faster than touch. Was looking thru touch's HSR, i almost faint answering halfway thru. Really so much to answer.

Can i check of all HSR are the same? The questions and the things they need us to submit
 
dear ladies,

today, full of enthusiasm, i told my mum my plans. Expecting that she will support me, but no. She didn't. Went on to tell me the disadvantage of being an adoptive parent. went on to tell me that i will have lots of problem with the child. I'm very upset. At that point, I wanted to breakdown and cry, but i controlled my tears. swallowed it till I was alone with my DH.

I took years to pluck up the courage to opt for adoption. It wasn't easy for me to convince myself that I can do it. It wasn't easy for me to take this step...and now, i just feel so difficult.

ladies, how did you convince your parents and parents-in-law? what was their first reaction when they knew about your decision? worst scenario, will i still get to adopt, if my parents are not supportive?

greatly appreciate all advices....thank you
 
Ineedmiracle,
hugs to you. I know it is not easy but may be you have to give her some time. You have been thinking about adoption for some time but for her, it is a new topic.

Otherwise, I have the same views as your hubby. If it feels right for both of you, just go ahead. You live for yourself and not for others. And you don't want to live life with regrets. I am sure you know what is best for you and your hubby. And I would think that your mum's heart would melt when she sees your little one.
 
ineedmiracle,
A warm welcome to u & a big hugs to u too.
I'm curious abt want yr mum negative points. U mind sharing it?
Is she worried that the child will not be healthy or the parents will come finding their child back? Just feel that if u share what is her thought might help us to help u to answer her doubt.
FYI, my parents r very supportive. My family has adoption history so we r very opened with adopting a child. My in law never get to know as they r no longer ard. But my sis/bro in law got to know on my girl 1mth old celebration. I still think whether adopting a child is the couple decision & not people who don't understand what we had went thru.
 
Hi ladies,
Having big headache cos someone mention that in another 4 mths my girl will b 1yr old... That's when I realized I haven't think how to celebrate my girl birthday. I don want it to be a boring birthday for her so anyone has any suggestion for me?
 
Ineedmiracle

Welcome to this thread and hugs to you! I can understand what you are going through right now. But I do agree with the other ladies in the thread that the decision to adopt rests with you and your husband. There will be family members who would oppose your decision but like what thhe ladies have said, we live for ourselves.

My husband's family do not even know that we have made plans to adopt because we know that they will be very negative. Likewise, my dad does not know as well. The rest in my family has been supportive. My mum initially was very worried too about how difficult the child may turn out to be once he/she knows about his adoption. But I have sort of 'educated' my mum and she is fully supportive.

It's just like when my husband and I both decided to become Christians and family opposed. But we still did not budge as we felt that nobody should tell us how to live our lives.

As Dream has mentioned, your mum's heart will melt once she sees your baby.

If you attend the workshops held by TOUCH or other organisations, maybe you can check whether you can bring your mum along as well. This might help.Maybe she could speak to other adoptive parents and children as well.Do think about it!

I believe you will find the strength to go through this.

By the way, I had taken a look before at other HSR forms besides TOUCH. They are more or less similar in questions and documents to be submitted. You can download and take a look.
 
dear ladies,

thanks for all the support. I'm really touched.

dream,
I, too think that she will melt at the sight of the baby. just like when I wanted to have a dog, and had it. She wasn't very happy. And told me never ever bring my dog over her place cos dogs stink. Then once, she came over my place, and saw my dog. My dog was so friendly, she fell in love with him. Now, she's been bugging me to let me dog stay at her place. haiz....

BlesswBB (confuse),
my mum mentioned
1. if the child know they are adopted, they will be rebellious, and will not allow you to punish or discipline them. And that we have no right to discipline them. And relatives or their cousins with big mouths may spurt it out, and hurt their feelings. And in cases if the secret is to be hidden, then accidentally things spit out, it will be alot trouble...

Janella,
so till now your inlaws still not aware of it?
You mentioned that your dad din know, but rest of family knows? Erm...for the HSR interview, thought there's a need to interview the grandparents? or we can omit them out?
Also who do you look for as guardian? Theres a question asked in the forms, whereby in case we die, who looks after the child...
 
Dear ineedmiracle

U've gone thru so much n done so well by taking this big step in considering adoption, so don't allow yourself to be upset further by what happens around u.

Like what other ladies mentioned, seek to find out more like the full reasons why your mum might have her reservations, talk about it intimately n seek to change any misconceptions u might see n hear around u.

My hubby n i were really enlightened when we attended the pre-adoption n disclosure workshops conducted by TOUCH, where we got to hear inspiring 1st-hand testimonies of adoptive parents. I shared with my immediate family 1 by 1 to test out their reaction, and realise it was only time that did the trick as many people had wrong ideas based on lack of info. Didn't share with my dad until we were done with our HSR,n his affirmation surprised us maybe becos he saw how I had suffered physically, mentally n emotionally during my IVF's and numerous attempts to have a baby. We only shared with our in-laws after we found our precious n invited them to view my baby at the nanny's home to show them we valued their involvement (actually to be honest, whether they agreed or not, we had already decided to take baby home with peace in our hearts).

For guardianship, I nominated my sister n family and cited reasons for their suitability. All these questions will be covered again during your interviews with the social worker. They will write to your referees to ask for their written comments on your suitability.
 
Mummyportia (mummyportia),

Thanks for the assurance. I always get comfort coming in here...

Frankly speaking, I know I need to go one more round to talk to my parents again. Buy the thought of it, makes my heart sank. I feel so heavy. I have my fear. but those negative words from my mum, saying that i will have a tough time dealing the child once the child knew the truth, makes me worried. makes me sad.

Do they need to interview the guardian? Also, referees, I don't know who to approach.
 
BlesswBB (confuse),

Kids party will invite kids.
Adult parties will have adult friends.
So perhaps baby parties will be babies invited.
Sometimes I'm wondering, if adopted kids have friends who are also adopted, then they won't feel left out, feel that they are the odd one out. And since some mummies are close with each other, then perhaps can have a party, where adoptive parents can meetup, and their adoptive babies can bond?

just my 2 cents...
 
Hello Ineedmiracle

Yup, till now my in-laws do not know. But just to clarify, my parents-in-law have passed away but my husband comes from an extended family. With the exception of his brother, the rest of his siblings do not know. He has so many aunties and uncles who are very nosy so we have left them out as well.

My dad is kind of a negative person, so I've left him out as well. Only when the baby arrives, will I let these people know.I know this will not go down well with them.

I did my HSR with TOUCH and I nominated my sister and her husband as guardians. They were not interviewed. Also, grandparents and referees were not interviewed.

But during the home visit, if you happen to live with other family members, the social worker might just chat with them. That's what I heard.

You might want to nominate a close relative as guardian if he/she is agreeable.

It's good that you are broaching the topic with your mum again. I believe she will accept your decision to adopt in time to come. I had a bit of convincing to do with my mum as well though it wasn't a major problem.

Once you attend the disclosure workshop, you will feel so much better and you can share all that you have learned with your mum.
 
Janella (janella),

my dad just called me. well my mum told him about my decision.. so he called and asked why didn't i go for donor sperm at least half the child is mine.

I explained to dad about the cost of ivf and the chance of successful ivf. I think it his character. He listens, he understands, and told me,
"Daddy and mummy are okie with your decision. the baby will be with you for the rest of your life, but only with us for 10-20 years. therefore, as long as you're comfortable with your decision, prepared for whatever that will happen in future, and accept the child, then we are behind you."

I cried when i heard what he said. I felt so happy. The 2 important man in my life supported my decision. So eventually my mum being the small woman of my dad, accepted my decision.

I felt so so so relieved now. Now i just need to wait for Tanjong FSC to send me the HSR form.
was told 3 months the waiting time for process. Did all your HSR took so long to process?

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All right! Feeling so happy for you. You are fortunate to have a caring hubby and supporting parents! And we are definitely here to support you along your journey.
 
Miracle, your dad is so sweeeeet!! I think u must be a Daddy's girl like me. One step at a time, one step at a time. Somehow, with every obstacle through the thread, I feel that you got stronger and stronger. Very good!
We don't know what the future holds for us. I know that if biological children, people runs the risk of unfillial children. So what if they are biological. As long as we love the child with all our hearts and bless them with what their biological parents couldn't give them, I'm sure they will be grateful. My husband is adopted and he knows it from day 1 and he loves his adoptive mom whom he calls her 'auntie'(but she wants me to call her mommy, haha).
At the disclosure workshop, you will learn how to disclose to your child and still able to discipline her/him. One step at a time, slowly. There are many forms but do fill them up with a vengence! I fill them up after I failed my IVF and did them very quickly. So think of all the failed IVFvyou gone thru. Good luck and continue to share with us if you feel sad.

Blesswbb, budget on birthday parties?? I cut out some promotions from magazine and will share tomorrow. Go to Kiasu parents dot com and do a search n see if other parents share any ideas. I remember seeing some postings by parents.




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Ineedmiracle,
Happy to hear that your parents finally are supportive. Your mum don't have to worry abt disclosure cos before u adopt u need to know when & how to disclose to your child. As long as u shower the child with lots of love I don't see any problem with disciplining. Just to share, my girl who is already 8mths plus is very attached to both me & my hubby but when she gets naughty we don't even need to lay hands on her (we dont believe in beating) but our stern voice will make her listens to us

Iwantitvmuch,
Sound interesting will do a search on the web. Thanks for sharing. U started to plan for yr girl?
 
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