edrick,
Hope your dad is better now. We are all ok with little bumps here and there. You have a good rest rejuvenite and hit back life, ok?!
MIL
Really very unhealthy staying with her. My FIL is ok, more more reasonable then her. MIL is the total controlling type and always must win, whether she is right or wrong, just win. She has this super big ego and wants attention and respect from people. She also just want to win the kids, don't care about their welfare, to her, its like trophies. She said I don't respect her, well, I guess she is almost right, cos I have already lost all my respect to her. Anyway, now she treated me as though i'm a ghost. I couldn't care less. Will look for a place to move, but I will take my time. FIL kept telling me to lay low and that no matter what, DON'T move out. But I don't think I can live with a crazy woman without losing my mind as well... Sometimes I pity my FIL for having to put up with her for so long. Actually have already told my hb that this is waiting to happen, cos we cannot tip toe around his mum all the time. We are bound to step on the landmine at some point in time and this is it. No choice lah, should have moved out with the relation is still good...
ok, enough of me and my problem.
Pantone,
I think you can try to accept your MIL's help to see if she is really sincere. Maybe she is? Let her chip in and help and whatever the case, i think it will lighten the load on you too. At the mean time, you can have more time looking after your mum if your MIL can help to look after your son. Have a talk with HB first and then approach your MIL to have a good talk with her too. See if it helps. As long as your MIL is open and supportive, I think there's is still hope that you can work this out. As for your mother, remember that for breast cancer the survival rates are very high, don't give up hope. Especially now when you need to be strong for your mum. Be positve! I've 2 aunts who had had breast cancer and survive... for decades! But of course you have to seek treatment lah... ;P