hi to all,
need your advise on the following issue:
i just employed an transferred maid in late apr. during the 1st month, she was good. will do the household chores pretty well and look after, played with my 2 years old gal.
she even understand our language - mandarin. however during this period, my hubby and i made an terrible mistake. we treated her too well, let her choose the food she wants, brought her outside during weekends. where we goes, she will follow us. we even brought her a new pair of pants and towels as she claimed that her previous employer treated her very bad and never gave her any towel for bathing.
then in early june, i gave birth to a boy and she helped to do the confinement food for me as my auntie taught her on it. she started to question me on things like why my gal nv goes school?, when i taught her how to clean the bb's buttock and she dared to talk back to me - saying that her sister aso do the other way round, so why she must follow my way. wat i was angry was she very kay po. will always listen to wat our conversation.
the last straw was, she actually listened to my phone conversation as i told my auntie and friend tat she is no good in taking care of babies. Guess wat she wrote on the paper? “I HATE the person who talked about me to another person.” Which means she noes and understand tat I am talking back about her to other people. But I as an employer, I have the right to complain to other people loh.
Then next thing which she did to pissed me off was – she put 2.5mls of the gripewater into 60mls of water and she change the water 3 to 4 times a day. Imagine, my boy was only 2weeks old and she used up more than half of the bottle of the gripewater leh.. worse still was the instruction only stated to be used on bb 1 mth and above. So I asked her, she claimed tat she pour too much hence she decides to measure and pour into the water. But the main question is, who gives her permission to do tat? She said no one, she never asked either me or my hubby. She said she aso did tat while at philipines loh. Then I really told her off. Tat day I refused to take any lunch or dinner.
The next day, she refused to cook lunch. Luckily my mum bought some mee for me to eat at 11am. Then at 12.30pm, I realized tat she never cooked lunch. So I asked her, she only answered me – “later”. But she never prepared any food, so how can the lunch be ready tat fast? So I told her, never mind I dunt wish to eat.
Later when my hubby comes back in the evening time, she wrote an letter and asked my gal passed it to me. Inside wrote – “mdm, I already said sorry. If you cant forgive me, please send me back to agency on this sat. I dunt wish to work with you if you dunt like me. If you like me, I will try my best to take good care of the child. Yours sincerely.”
So my hubby had a good talk with her while I was sleeping. My hubby told her tat even if I dunt like her, does not mean tat she need not cook dinner, etc. guess wat she answer to my hubby?
Since mdm dunt like me, so why should I cook? My hubby tok to her for about half an hour.
Now she is still okie.
But she sounds quite psychiatric leh.. imagine, she can said tat I hate you. To me, I dunt feel safe leaving my kids with her. My eldest gal will go to cc. And the bb son will stay at home with her. During the weekdays, I would need to bring the maid and son to my mum or auntie’s plc loh. My mum can supervise her but cant speak English.
Where by, if leave them at my auntie’s house, only my grandmum is at home with another maid. i worried tat both maid will cooperate and dunt noe use wat tatics loh.
Actually, after the so-called threaten incident I went to the agency and asked for another replacement liao. Cos I felt quite worry leh. The new maid will be coming in in another month’s time. The new maid used to work in UAE for 1.5years. just returned to philipines loh. My auntie help to interview her via phone, as I dunt noe wat to ask her.
So meanwhile, either I send the current maid back to agency or stay with me while waiting for another miad? Wat do you all think? can help me as this is my first time employed an maid. Really had a bad experience leh. Thanks a lot in advance.
