Paiseh a long post..
mom2nat, thks for your suggestion..
initial I bought her a bottle nescafe(which we dont drink coffee,so only buy for her)..then I realise she dont drink..yet have her own 3in1 coffee(no off day,mean she went to buy her own coffe when ferrying my kids).. so I asked her how come she dont drink the coffee I bought..she said too heaty,she prefer those packet,more suitable/her preference..
I buy the one she like, which is super 3in1 instant coffee(48sachets per bag), she drink like no tomorrow..each cup she used 2sachets..I bought 2bags(48x2=96sachets,which is actually 96cups)for her 1mth supply, with super instant cereal choc n vanila (2bags= 40sachets)..yet her coffee run out so fast.. if I dont supply her enough of coffe,she will go out with my bb,without my permission..and she actually hide her coffee in her cabinet.
Maid is very stubborn, I told her why coffee is not healthy to our body..she has her 101 reason she need it..just like her hp,cant live without it..dont know why her business so big..
Every now n then she will come out with new pattern.. I use4d to concern abt her,ask if she take her meal,tell her to sleep early(she like to wake up mid nite do hse work,which is too noisy,make us awake)..till I so sian,and rather let her do whatever she like..I just keep quiet,since she dont listen..
Past fews day, she dont take her meal(when her mood is bad,she will torture herself by not eating,not sleeping(work midnite),black face whole day..I used to worry n concern abt her,talk to her nicely..asking what her problem so I know how to help her..yet she dont tell..one nite she bang her head on wall..she still dont tell..I told her, you are torturing me in another way by doing so..if u r mdm(are me)what will u do..I work,3kids,2in laws..and a maid like u..she just keep quiet,I told her I care abt her..but she just dont think in my shoes..so from there I really dissapointed,and draw the line..I tell myself,no more treating another maid like her(good to her till take advantage)..
Maid tried to have my attention,by doing stupid things..she dont eat lunch,I dont ask..till dinner she cant tahan..she hint me..
Maid:dinner need to cook more rice?
I:balance rice from lunch enough for dinner(if not,cook more)..
Maid:enough, I didnt eat..(and she walk away)..
She wants me to know she is not eating her lunch, cos she already has the answer to her question.I just keep quiet..since she walk away.Normally,I try to talk to her, now sian liao.Maid just trying to create problem..
next day, I do smell bleach when I in kitchen..I just get my water and go to bedroom..she cant tahan why I didnt ask her..few minutes later,she come to my room..
Maid: Do you smell bleach?
I: Yes, u do cleaning.
Maid: when I open the bottle,I breath in the bleach,causing me difficulty in breathing..but before I open the bottle of bleach I put bb away..and she walk out my room..
I told my hubby(happen he is at home at that time)wondering if real,we have to bbring her to doc,afraid poisoning..before my hubby said anything..maid come in again..my hubby straight away ask her if she is ok. maid dare not have pattern with hubby, and said now,no problem..
So what the point of bring up this..(for attention,or she how was our reaction??)..
This evening, I came back from work n brought my girl back from cc..as usual eat dinner..right after I finish my meal..she is trying to pack all the food..
I: u are not eating?..
Maid: reply with black face,want me to work and dont let me eat,what if I faint?
(I was surprise to hear this..)
I: who said u cant eat?
Maid: ko ko(my boy)..
The moments I hear this, I was so mad..maid normally also dont listen to anyone..how can she suddenly obey to what my boy said..where this morning,my boy told her that she gav the wrong uniform,the maid she ignore him..now listen to him..
I: what ever on the table, u can eat.
I know she want to create problem again.
I check with my boy..
Boy: today,after my school,kakak asked me,dad n mum eaten? (I dont know,just came back..)I just told kakak, if dad n mum haven't eat, you cant eat 1st. Dad/mum bought(pay) the food,how can they didnt eat before you(maid) eat.
Actually my boy, afraid kakak eat the food,end up his dad/mum didnt eat.
The problem was the maid..I dont think she is that obedient..she just purposely act infront of me..
Now I can see, maid really off mode..anything happen she just bochap, as long she is not the one doing..example, one morning 6am,my girl n I wake up by my bb cries.. I saw my maid just let bb cried,I asked why u didnt put bb back to sleep?(on the same time,I carried bb to room put bb back to sleep)maid reply(blame my boy), boy that wake bb up(actually,my boy wake up 6am..need to school,bb also wake up but not enough sleep..so maid just bochap..)..see when problem arise she bochap.
Another morning, I told maid to add chinese sausage(pork,maid dont eat) into fried rice for IL's n kids dinner..I went out..before dinner I came back,I saw the chinese sausage soak in water,with oily used cutleries..I immediately, remove the sausage n asked maid why? maid reply, boy is the one that put in used cutleries.I'm so angry..even if my boy do so,she should immediately do something about it..imagine the sausage become so soft and she is not eating so dont bother?? lucky I came back and saw that..my boy said,he didnt know maid soak sausage..he just asked kakak what is that in the water..but kakak didnt answer,so he tot a dirty pot with unfinish food in the sink.
I wonder why she dont appreciate, when I'm so lenient with her work(let her do her own schedule,as she used to said bb causing inconvenient,sometime take longer time to put her to sleep/long feeding hours so cant really follow timetable), tolerate her attitude, paying all her daily neccesaties(she dont have to pay a cent).. yet she is not happy,most of the time..black face.. even with my in laws,at home..she also black face,keep quiet(no noice response/talk to my bb,this is feedback fm my IL,maid tot my IL too old/stupid..just ignore)..
I must thank God, maid's matter really train me to be a better employer next time, to stay calm, to see thru maid's pattern/trick/acting. I pray God send me the right helper.