Hi Allison,
Thanks for your advice. How's ur new maid? Kachin, rite? Is she ok?
My maid said wanna to stay instead of going back after my hubby sat down with her to confirm her decision of wanna to go back hometown. She keeps changing her mind.
But I think nowadays my maid is getting more bold after her loan has finished. She started to talk back to me more. She has a high pride so she doesnt want others to highlight her mistakes by raising our voices. Has to talk to her nicely. My mother said the maid also show her black face when she told her not to do this or that way. Refused to listen and do what she wants. I CANT REALLY TAKE IT ANYMORE!
We have been giving her many many chances. Sat down with her many many times and tried to take sense to her when we wanna to do things this n that way. The logic behind of doing things. But after 5 mths, we both think she will not change. Initially, thinking i can close one eye and just accept the job with slight slack in the result. Also, my bb girl likes her becos this maid is like a small child, can act cute to make funny faces towards my girl ONLY. She can't get along with my boy who will talk her back.
But when I see her hygiene standard and way of handling things. I really really cannot take it! My mum initially quite like her as she likes to chat with my mum. And she likes my mum becos my mum does everything herself. She just take care my daughter at my mum house! No need to lift her hands even her own meals. My mum prepared for her. Somemore, my mum let her take nap every afternoon when my girl who normally will sleep 3 hours straight in her afternoon nap. My maid also has her nap too.
Below are her performance:
- Teach her to cook one dish, Sesame Oil Chicken, after 5 times (cooked in different occasion, spread throughout different weekend of the first 3 months) still couldn't cook well. Not acceptable.
- Since she is so forgetful, I gave her a book to write down the steps. But in the end when I demand what she wrote. Saw only one line and told me she can't write! And most exciting part, she REFUSED to write whatever new things I taught her and said she will use her "brain" to remember. Then I ask her since she is so forgetful and refuse to write, how can she does a good job without me standing next to her in future. She told me SHE DOESNT KNOW HOW TO IMPROVE! (simply refuse to learn).
- Refuse to ask when she is not sure on how to do one thing. Her mouth is so PRECIOUS!
- Like to touch the "Rag" then touch baby milk bottles teat to prepare milk without washing hair. Caught few times and told her off, then will cry and show black face. But will not change. haiz.
- Safety rules dont want to obey i.e. lock the kitchen window grilles after finish hanging laundry clothes, dont carry my daughter to lock the window grilles (she is not those steady type and has no experience in taking care of bb at all. Most of impt she doesnt like to look after bb and children. I kenna cheated by my agent).
- Night time, she can't settle my bb to sleep. I have to prepare bb to sleep. She will sleep first. This part I am ok as I am the mother of the bb but middle of the night also can't help.
- Middle of night, she cant handle my 8th mths old bb and my bb will keep crying. Then i have to wake up or she will call me to wake up. Sometimes, I have to wake up few times when my bb very cranky so next day, i will have double panda eyes when report to work (other days only 'one' pair of panda eyes).
- Due to the lack of sleep the prevous night, the next day morning, she told my mum when she reached my mum house that she wanna to sleep that morning. My mum was so angry becos if she sleep, then who is going to take care my girl? Then how could my mum prepare my boy to go to sch if my girl doesnt sleep?
- Weekday she no need to cook, wash, cleaning as she will be at my mum's hse. only night time then we bring them (my boy, my bb girl and the maid) back. My mum will cook, wash, clean up the house and settle my 7 yr old boy. My maid will just only take care my bb girl. Hence, my maid only cook, clean, wash in weekend. But still dont feel like cooking during weekend.
- Choosy on food. Dislikes porridge and noodles. Only wanna rice as their cultures normally eat rice (this part i understand). But initially didn't tell us in advance, then when we cook porridge or noodles, all have to pour away the extra.
- Specify that she will only eat certain type of fish, meat etc. No fish like batang, no meat like luncheon meat.
- Cook instant noodles, she will throw away the packet of ingredient. I really find funny this part. Becos she said in her hometown, they love to take lot of oil, msg and salt. Y throw away since this packed ingredient is so nice?
- Morning breakfast must have at least 3 slices of bread (small size but appetite good).
- Complained that we seldom go out i.e. Singapore Flyer, Changi Airport etc. Those small outings like shopping is no good.
- Spread of meals dishes r not enough for her i.e. normally we will keep at least chicken, veg, soup with two pcs of pork ribs in it for her. Fish like threadfin, we will finish as it is only small pc for my son. She is not happy to see me doing that.
Still have lot of encounters which I can't say anymore as my mind is very chaos and my heart is feeling so upset till I feel pain sometimes.
I just dont understand y she behave like this? Patiently teach her yet refuse or no heart to learn. Forgetful yet doesnt want to find ways to remember and learn. Said she feels like staying in a cage as she cannot go out (I compensate her day OFF) so I let her call or write back to her family EVERY MONTH. And when she told me wanna to call using TWO international calling cards instead of one as the talktime is too short. I also agreed. Still not satisfied. I really cant do much liao! I am giving up.
Last week, my mum told me that my maid told her that her passport will be expired by next May which is 4 or 5 mths before she finish her two-years contract (finish in end Oct). And she will not pay for it. Then we realised why her passport expire so early before her completion of two years contract? Why she made her passport so early (in Year 2009) before her arrival to my family in Oct 2010?
I just realised that the renewal of her passport is not cheap and also I have to renew her work permit at the same time in order to reflect new passport number according to MOM rules.
My goodness!
Sorry for my long-winded writing. I really really need to speak out somewhere...
