@hi_mei , men very sensitive... Same as women. But theirs is the ego spot! For eg: when i had my #1, i scold my hubby for not spending time with her. He always play comp games, ipad/hp games, nv ending nv stopping. Bb cry he dun bother... He angry n say he sell the comp, den i think the comp spoilt. I tot was d end, he switched to ipad, now more portable can go toilet play! Arrrrggghhh...
After awhile i stopped nagging, say till my saliver also dry. Fast forward- many stuff happened, like bb not attached to him, den missed alot of her growing up stage.. Den suddenly i ask him if bb really means alot to him or his games. I told him off, want to play game den marry his computer what for marry me i can jus leave without him lor.
Things slowly changed, but i didnt stop him completely la, he got his time to play den i nv ask him for help. When he 'free' he made sure he console bb, now #3 he help out even more, but when my parents is home, he start his free time again -on his new computer which i force him to buy (which can last up to 4-6hrs) but i nv nag or show face anymore as long as he help take care of kids and prove tat he do care.
Sorry for the longggg story. But i think ur hubby enjoys gyming, and putting in the room can be stuffy and not condusive. Now nothing happen of cos he will not worry this n tat as much as a mummy! We ladies think far far..like 20yrs down the road (ooopppss abit kua zhang, but true when comes to bb safety, health, etc) men only see n think whats in front of them. "What for think so far and make urself worry when it did not happen?" - quote from my hubby.
So when bb start to turn, put bb in playpen or even floor. When bb crawl, teach bb not to go dangerous place to play. When bb walk dun let bb anyhow touch... Everything easier said den done!! But who teach and sees bb go thru the major stages?
All i can share is jus give him the space he wants for now, dont becos of bb den unhappy. Make u even stressful taking care of bb and pacifiying ur hubby. It shld be a 2-way communication and sharing of thoughts on how to take care of bb. Even if he dun lift a finger to help with bb, so be it. Dont force, dun feel sad. I believe ur hubby jus need time to cool down and think...u already made the first step to massage his neck, talk to him, conjole him etc... Jus continue ur normal activities and get him join in...take time to comfort urself tat everything will be fine, once u feel HAPPY, EVERYTHING ELSE WILL BE HAPPY!
Ups and downs in life cannot avoid! Just chiong forward, and be HAPPY!
Hope to hear gd news from u soon.. Jiayou, dont stress urself!