On BF, my #1 I had problem latching too and I remember a lot of my friends on the forum also had problems. My word of advice is "just be happy". Because we just give birth, a lot of adjustments and a lil baby to take care. The most impt thing is to be happy and relax. No need to especially stress over anything. This is my view lah! I just diligently pump until 6 months then give up.
I was using freestyle last time. Works well for me. Shld bring it out to see if it is still working!
Car arrangement: My #1 will sit in front with daddy. #2 will sit behing with me. This is my plan. But we need to bring car to workshop to remove the airbag nearing the date. Anyway, now, no one sits in front. The prob is my #1 still grumbles when sitting in car seat.
Maid: This is one of the prob I foresee if get maid. Where does she sit in the car? Still trying to think if need maid or not. But unlikely, dont feel ok to leave 2 kids with her alone at home.
CL: I also have trouble with my first one. I had problem latching. Then she super sacrastic, whenever #1 cries, she keeps commenting "so poor thing, must be hungry, never eat properly". I feel so victimisied. Keep hiding in my bedroom the whole day, pretending to sleep, waiting for my DH to come home, only come out to eat lunch. She also never take care of my baby. Everytime cries, I will go over and take care cos she takes so long (I wonder if she is just lazy) and she never attempts to take over from me. I still have to do our house's laundry myself. Luckily I have part-time housekeeper. And my CL just read my magazines and watch TV in the day. Needless to say, she doesnt wake up at night. My DH sacked her after 2 weeks. But I still need to get a CL cos lil family support and I need help. Fingercrossed I can get a good one this time. In fact, I intend to get CL for 2-3 months, so I can keep some sanity.
Taking care of #1: I have to say my DH is really super hands-on so he shares a lot of my load and it is not so bad for me. Of course, with all boys, he everyday also iPad, play his PS, sleep into late morning (weekend). But he still quite auto. I think when it comes to taking care of baby, I already think it is tough. Nothing to complain. But it feels better that my DH helps out a lot so I dont feel so unbalanced. haha! it is all in the mind.