Kexie:
Sorry to hear that! Indeed having a good CL is v impt. As for my case, pple find it hard to believe as it is my own mum. During my no. 1, my mum enthusiastically offered to do confinement for me. However, my boy fell sick 2 weeks later and had to be sent to KK. V heartpain then cos he got fever, and medication got to be adminstered thru his skull. Somemore, the kk doc took liquid fr his bladder and spine to ensure he is ok. I was so pissed with my mum then cos my dad was sick (we dint know abt it) but she still placed bb next to him.
Then subsequently, during the 3rd wk of my confinement, my mum threw a tantrum, ran out of the house and refused to help me and bb. that time i was pumping milk n bb was crying frantically in cot. My hubby gotta call her n begged her to come back as he cannot leave his workplace like that. Subsequently, she refused to help us look after night and my poor hubby gotta take over. Somemore, she is a cleanliness addict, every little drop of rice or dust, she cannot stand it. Once my no 1 merlioned out all his milk, she was shouting hysterically and told me to bend down to clean the milk. As a result, my C sec wound kanna infected and I gotta take a jab.
So 4th wks ended, she simply walked out on me and since my wound was infected, we had no choice but to stay with my ils for a while. My mil is nice i would say, but her mouth is v "sharp". As a result, I lapsed into post natal depression too n cried too. When I wanna bring my son back home, my mil would b unhappy n scold me, soememore her neighbour also come n scold me, say i ungrateful, need help then ask mil, no need help bring bb back. So for my no1, it was a double blow fr my mum n mil.
For my no 2, I m v determined to engage a CL. However, as our new house is on the way, I had to stay with my mum. At first, she told me to give away my dog then I can engage a helper (but the helper is her friend which I m ok with it). I did. Then, after I gave away my dog, she broke her promise and said she cannot stand another lady in her home as she scared her friend v dirty etc. When she told me this, it was super last min and my hands r tied to get a gd CL. So we took the risk. For No 2, things r slightly better and I can relax a bit more, but sometimes v frustrated. Being a cleanliness addict, she will not rest when bb is sleeping. She will clean and clean the house non stop and made herself v tired. At night, she will b so exhausted and cannot take care of bb. We did advise her to rest and she began to go hysterical and said she did the cleaning for us! After that, she ll want my hb to take E leave to help her. When my mil 12 come over n help, she said cannot, outsiders r v dirty and when my ils just came over to visit, they sat on the sofa. Next day, my mum santized the whole living rm and scrubbed the sofa, then left bb crying. When my bb wants milk, she ll scold him why he has to drink so much etc etc. See liao also heart break. When bb interrupt her cleaning schedule, she ll cane my no. 1 to vent her anger. As a result, my frens and cousins who 12 visit, I told them not to else the cleaning will start. Sometimes when I m v tired n need to rest, the shouting in the background makes it so hard n tough. The only time I can zzz peacefully would b night time, a few hr, then need to pump milk again. But thankfully my emotions r in check now, and it is so much better. So it doesnt mean own mum do confinement is def better.
