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** BOOBS
My boobs didn't sag. Initially, it was softer because of the breastfeeding but when I decided to stop, it slowly got firmer again. I really love breastfeeding because of the bonding with the baby and saved me both time and money (no need to sterilise a gazillion bottles, fed straight from boobs, also no need to buy milk powder for the longest time. My son went from breastmilk to fresh milk later on. He doesn't like powdered milk.)
** BRA
About the bra, don't buy exactly the same size as ur boobs. Give it space to grow. It is important to wear bra so boobs won't sag and have stretch marks... (I had the latter and had no clue what happened initially. My mum didn't have any before so she asked me what they were. Sheesh.) Also it helps boobs not feel so sore. Just buy maybe 2-3 not so expensive underwire free bras that have room for u to grow into first perhaps? When in third tri then go buy ur nursing bra? =) I more or less know how my boobs react when I am preg & when I am nursing. They get obscenely huge.
** JUDY (yay!!)
Love what Judy did. It was so sweet of you to make the first step to reconcile by reaching out to him. William is very blessed to have you and the baby. ^.^ HUGS!
** HUGS FOR BLUE MUMMIES
About mummies who are having hubby blues, big hugs. I know every couple has different dynamics and chemistry, but my advice is to try not to keep score and to not sweep things under the carpet as this will just keep mounting and explode some day.
I was a single mum before I met my hubby and my ex had anger management issues. It was hard and I went through massive depression. I was very blue throughout my pregnancy, and even after. We always fought and I don't think he ever knew that he was quite selfish and hurtful. I decided not to carry on with him because we were not married and because I did not want my child to grow up in a hostile environment at home.
I met my hubby later on and he is a real nice guy, but because I was his first girlfriend hahaha he was not "experienced" in handling relationships. So I kinda set the pace in the relationship.
For me, I made it clear with my hubs from the start that I don't like to go to sleep angry, so we make sure before bed, we both speak about what we are upset about in a constructive (not accusatory or destructive) manner. And then we apologise to each other and let go of it. Keeping score will never help us, so once we resolve it, we don't bring it up again.
If hubby is not a good listener, write him a letter. Find a way to communicate. You can't read each other's mind, so communication is so important. It is easy to assume wrongly and hurt both him and yourself.
Don't let yourselves stew in the negativity until the negativity soaks in. Remember always that neither of you are perfect people and no relationship is perfect, but we can all harness these little imperfections to strengthen a relationship.
Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses, and every half of a couple should honestly identify what these are so when they come together, they can compliment each other. (eg. I am messy but very chirpy, hubby is very neat but a bit more quiet and easily feels down... so we kinda try to compliment each other's weakness with the other's strength.)
When I am angry with my hubs, we don't talk about things when we are still flaming angry (ie moments after the explosion takes place). We take some time to cool off first and remind ourselves not to react (physically or verbally).
There are days that I will tell him (lol) in a third person voice how I feel. Eg. "Geri is very upset with you but it doesn't mean that she doesn't want a hug. In fact, hugging her now might help cool her down." It's a bit nuts I know but I realised he wasn't reacting the way I wanted him to because he will never be able to read my mind. So I did that 3rd person narrative thing to give him insight. I think it is something he appreciates.
Sometimes, I think guys act like everything is okay but they are trying to carry the weight of their anxieties inside. We women tend to verbalise it more with others or to them. I had to kinda take years to "train" hubby to just tell me what's up at work etc, so I can be there to encourage him and pray with him.
** TRAVELLING HUBBY
The hubby is gonna be travelling a lot because of his work this last few months of the year. He has to be in Goldcoast for a shoot (we are both in the media industry). He will be leaving on Sunday for 2 weeks, then coming back for our gynae appointment and leaving again for another 2 weeks. He really did his best to make these arrangements. Last year, he was away for a whole 3 months for a different shoot. Thank God for Skype. I am just blessed that my little boy makes the house feel less empty when the hubs is away with his funny jokes and loving gestures.
Anyone else has a hubby that travels a lot for work or works late (eg. my hubby was busy packing all the gear and equipment for the trip in the office all night and couldn't come home)?
