Hi mommies,
anyone's baby sleeps through the night? Just read on baby center a good training tactic we can try called the "ferber" tactic... will paste here:
I'd like to give the Ferber method a try. How do I do it?
First, wait until your baby is physically and emotionally ready to sleep through the night, usually between 4 and 6 months of age. Ferber doesn't designate a precise age at which to begin his technique, since it can vary so much depending on the child.
If you're not sure whether your baby's ready, you can always give it a try. If you encounter too much resistance, wait a few weeks and try again.
Step 1
Put your baby in his crib when he's sleepy but still awake.
Step 2
Say goodnight to your child and leave the room. If he cries when you leave, let him cry for a predetermined amount of time. (See "How long should I leave my child alone?" below.)
Step 3
Go back into the room for no more than a minute or two to pat and reassure your baby. Leave the light off and keep your voice quiet and soothing. Don't pick him up. Leave again while he's still awake, even if he's crying.
Step 4
Stay out of the room for a little bit longer than the first time and follow the same routine, staying out of the room for gradually longer intervals, each time returning for only a minute or two to pat and reassure him, and leaving while he's still awake.
Step 5
Follow this routine until your child falls asleep when you're out of the room.
Step 6
If your child wakes up again later, follow the same routine, beginning with the minimum waiting time for that night and gradually increasing the intervals between visits until you reach the maximum for that night.
Step 7
Increase the amount of time between visits to the nursery each night. In most cases, according to Ferber, your baby will be going to sleep on his own by the third or fourth night — a week at the most. If your child is very resistant after several nights of trying, wait a few weeks and then try again.
How long should I leave my child alone?
In his book, Ferber suggests these intervals:
* First night: Leave for three minutes the first time, five minutes the second time, and ten minutes for the third and all subsequent waiting periods.
* Second night: Leave for five minutes, then ten minutes, then 12 minutes.
* Make the intervals longer on each subsequent night.
Keep in mind that there's nothing magical about these waiting periods. You can choose any length of time you feel comfortable with.
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Practical tips for trying a CIO (cry-it-out) method from parents and experts
* Set the stage for success before you try a CIO method by developing a bedtime routine and sticking to it. For example, a bath, a book, a lullaby, then to bed, at the same time every night. This way your child knows exactly what to expect.
* Develop a solid plan and make sure you and your partner are prepared before you begin sleep training — both practically and emotionally.
On the practical side, it's probably not a good idea to launch your sleep plan if your partner is about to take off on a business trip, for example, or if your in-laws are coming for a visit.
On the emotional side, talk the plan over with your partner and make sure you both understand and agree on how to proceed. That way you'll be able to support each other if you run into rough patches.
* Once you launch your plan, stick to it. Parents who've been through sleep training agree that consistency is the key. Unless you realize that your child simply isn't physically or emotionally ready and you decide to put the program on hold for a while, follow through with it for a couple of weeks. When your baby wakes you up at 2 a.m., you may be tempted to give in and hold or rock him, but if you do, your hard work will be wasted and you'll have to start over from square one.
* Plan to lose a little sleep. Begin the CIO method on a night when it won't matter if you miss a little sleep. For example, if you work all week, you might want to start on a Friday night, so you'll be able to catch up on lost sleep by the time Monday comes around.
* Prepare yourself for a few difficult nights. Hearing your baby cry can be excruciating, as every parent knows. During the waiting periods, set a timer and go to a different part of the house, or turn on some music, so you don't have to hear every whimper. As one BabyCenter parents says, "The first couple of nights could be rough for you. Try to relax and know that when it's all over, everyone in your household is going to sleep more easily and happily."
* Make it a team effort. During waiting periods, do something enjoyable with your partner, like play cards or listen to music. If you find the crying intolerable after a while, let your partner take over so you can take a walk or a warm bath. When you're refreshed, you can give your partner a break.
* Adapt the method to fit your family. If you want to try a method like this but find it too harsh, you can use a more gradual approach. For instance, you can stretch out Ferber's seven-day program over 14 days, increasing the wait every other night rather than every night. Remember your primary objective: To give yourself and your child a good night's rest.
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I must say the tactic is great for those that are staying alone with their baby, and not so great for those that aren't. I know if baby starts crying for an extended period of time.. theres plenty of ppl that will rush into my room to find out whats wrong. Soooooo....quite hard for me to execute =(
*can't wait for the day G sleeps on his own especially now that he is getting heavy!!*