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sayang... no lah... u r not selfish! u r being wei da! selfish means that u really leave ur bb to other pple to care bcoz u cant tahan the hardship of looking after ur bb so u let other pple do the hardwork! yes, bringing ur gal home daily will pay off in the long run one... i know its diff to talk to ur hb abt this but try to tell him nicely when both of u r calm the benefits of bringing bb home...
to share with u, since the birth of my gal, i had a few very heated arguments with hb, it usually revolves around flared tempers due to lack of rest (plus each one feels that the other not doing his/her share), baby related stuff, household chores etc... the good thing is usually after each argument, my hb "improves" a bit... bcoz during those urguments, i get to tell him what i have to go thru daily as a sahm and the kind of sacrifices i have to make (career, freedom, physical n mental tiredness etc..) told him that each day he usually only needs to look after her from 8pm to 12 mn.. but i gotta look after her 24/7 includ the 8-12pm period... try telling ur hb ur pt of view n see if will be better bor.. guys very reserved one... my hb nvr say sorry one but can tell from his actions that at least he is getting more appreciative and less demanding and also helps out more...