funzee,
i think you're going to go through what i just went through with the help not returning. for sure, the tot will go through a lot of major changes in her life. for us, we were just too thankful that she did not once ask for my maid. perhaps she is too young still. but i did notice that her eating habits changed dratically. i think that's how she's coping with the change. previously we'd give her a wide range of food - carb porridge or pasta will be alternated, then she gets 2 kinds of veggies and 1 meat and they're always rotated. then all of a sudden it became harder to feed her and she just refused to eat totally. i had to fully blend everything i.e. no texture at all and she only accepts very smooth mashed potato as the main carb. luckily by now she's back to eating the whole portion of her meals but they are very well blended. like her food when she was 9 mths old! am going to try and let her have porridge again this week. but you know what's the funny thing? she doesn't ask to eat our food and even when we offer her something to try, she will shake her head and walk away. so when its meal times in school, she eats her home-brought plain white bread!
angelina,
i think for josh it must be very traumatic at all the sudden major changes and every effort must be made to reassure him that mummy loves him and all. for Min, she was great when i started childcare with her the first 2 days. i spent the whole time there with her. but only for 2 hrs. by now she's there about 3 hrs everyday. then they told me on the 3rd day must just say bye bye and drop her off and leave. cannot stay around and peep. of course she cried buckets lah. and it was really bad the first 1.5weeks of so. thankfully i dont have to go through the tough time of dropping her cos i'd already gone to work. my mum dropped her. we also decided that amongst the parents and grandparents, the one that's least close to her should drop her off. i.e. my mum. and my hubby, whom she's dearest to, never went to her school for fear of letting her feel like her daddy abandoned her.
by the end of the 2nd week she was already more stablilized. and now she doesn't really cry anymore. but that doesn't mean she loves it. she knows the way to school and as soon as the car reaches near the school, she'd turn all quiet, but funnily she's happy when she presses the door bell and goes in.
the teachers also did tell her to talk to her about school, that big girls go to school to play and make friends, etc. but really for me, bottomline is, all the teachers in the toddler playgroup are very caring and always take turns to sayang her cos she's obviously the youngest there at 19 mths, most of them already 24-26mths already. so she takes to 2 teachers in particular and they always carry her and sayang her, which i believe has helped to calm her down a lot in the early days.
gal^,
for feeding, i totally agree with xoxo. after a certain time, just don't feed altogether. when they are hungry the next meal, you get a much better behaviour. for Min, thankfully we have already established since we started introducing semi-solids at 7 mths that all her food will have to be taken in her highchair. no chair means no food. of course we make exceptions lah. like when teething, she's cranky, then we carry her and feed. but if no good reason like this, it's always in the chair. same as the car seat. these 2 are non-negotiable. cos we already lost the stroller war. so i am bent on keeping the ruls on the two chairs.
and if she is still eating (very unwillingly) after 45mins we stop feeding. so far that has panned her rather well. I have not let her feed herself yet since i think she will eventually learn that in school and she has her whole life to feed herself. so am just happy to indulge her for now. she's still my baby afterall!
babymax,
fully agree about the wearing them down with sports part. only thing is Min goes to Aquaducks swimming class, but when class ends, she doesn't wanna get out of the pool!!! hehe... but she'll nap very well once we get home and have her showered and changed and fed. this is one class we don't have to drag her to and she is more than happy to jump in.
glass,
aiya no need to lose weight lah. figure it out after #2, if you're gonna have a #2. hehe... that's my excuse and am totally indulging myself at the moment.
