RE: In-laws
I used to be an angry DIL too.. if u read my previous posts.. everything my in-laws do will agitate me in 1 way or another.. I thought they are overly obessed wif my son and this irritated me quite a lot.. That didnt help much especially when I had a big row wif hubby over some misunderstanding.. Was basically very angry person..
Then, abt 1 mth ago, 1 of my NSF boy in my office died suddenly.. he was only 24 years old.. I witnessed his burial ritual. I was overwhelmed with lots of emotions at tat moments.. A young life just gone like tat.. w/o any warnings.. Life is so unpredictable.. we dunno when is our turn and when our loved ones will leave us.. Then, I thought.. hubby has done his part as a gd hubby and of cse a gd daddy.. I shld forgive him.. In-laws overly obessed wif their grandson because they love him.. Miraclely, my perception of life changes overnite! Really! I became more open to my in-laws and more tolerant in wat they do.. of cse, certain things which i still cannot accept like carrying my boy when she is sick and scolded my fil vulgarities when he tried to advise her not to carry the boy when she is sick.. My hubby also told her nicely... so, problem solved..
I guess the reason abt the sudden change in my attitude was really due to my NSF's death.. I asked myself.. in-laws already so old le.. how many more years do they have more? If they were to suddenly pass on, wld i be guilty for treating them tat way, gng to extreme sometimes? The answer is yes.. So, I treat everyday as if its the last day of my life.. I dun wanna leave any regrets..
I am really more open to my in-laws.. talking to them more often.. and of cse, the happiest is my hubby lor.. And i think my boy will also benefit from this.. cos wat we are doing is to build a happy loving environment for him to grow up in.. I want my baby to be a happy boy, not like wat i used to be - grouchy and unhappy..
This morning, b4 I left for work, MIL was playing wif my son.. and she was still coughing away.. But this time round, she didnt cough in his face like she normally wld do.. I felt.. shdlt we really be thankful tat our in laws care for our babies? If they dun care, wld we start to blame them for being bochup? I think we will..
Just to share my story.. Pardon me for my long long story and ranting!