jollyhoppy,
your CL is not supposed to tell you what to do. My CL tried to convince us to let her buy supplies like longan and scallops from malaysia, i think she will pocket some form of commission so we said yes to some (e.g. herbs for bathing) and no to come (food stuff, i think ownself buy at least u know the source). So we told her straight we've already bought alot of stuff, if we are lacking in any, we will buy accordingly.
Your CL is supposed to adapt to your needs and expectations. Not all are bad but some tend to take on a bossier role when they think new mommies are blur.
Are you cloth diapering or using disposables? I think if you're cloth diapering, you tell her so. If anything, there's this piece of cotton cloth that binds the umbilical cord to prevent it from being exposed to germs and all and my mom is telling me that cloth diapers will at least allow the umbilical cord area to breathe and can fold down but i suppose you can do the same with disposables.
I cannot stand this kind of old auntie who thinks they know everything. Yes, they are experienced but they should also be humble about it. They're there to share their expertise and look after us, not to act like mother in law. If she tells you about the ang pows, you can tell her you know what to do, she need not worry about it. Wah, i read your post, i angry already. scared u kena bully.. ahahah...
i told my mom to instruct my CL because they're nearer in age. I think it helps to have an older woman around to check in on them if you're feeling uncomfortable, make sure the older woman e.g. auntie, mom, grandma is on your side.
I'm paying 1900 for mine, luckily the mommies in the oct thread say no need to give 100, will spoil market. can start at $18 first. I'm preparing 3 ang pows, one beginning, one at full month and one at the end. One at the end i suppose maybe bigger lor.. i'm thinking 60 dollars. i don't think its unreasonable. I have a silly uncle who gave 500 at the end of the confinement period because the CL ironed his clothes for him, cooked for him and called him Dr this, Dr that.
Oh ya mommies, anyone knows what's the policy in going back to JB to stamp passport? How long is the average visitor from MY allowed to stay?