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haha if your own hb didn't stand up for the one-child-policy, does that mean he wants more?
i am actually wavering a little towards the one-child-policy myself.
but but but but but, you really got to listen to that small little voice speaking from your heart. if it's even so much as whispering to you to have another one, then you gotta think about it.
michelle's all decided and steadfast and unwavering. so it's not like one day when ethan is 10 she's gonna turn around and say she wished she had another one. if you have second thoughts now, that may jolly well happen later! (i had a few ex-colls who decided to try again after their kids are in primary school, then cannot, all sorts of issues)
and about sharing the family burden.... from what i've observed from my male friends, if they are family oriented, they won't mind shouldering everything. if they are not family oriented, they couldn't be bothered at all. and they don't need the emotional support all that much also? it's like, they don't suffer emotionally if they are the only child vs if they had a sibling to share thoughts with? when my father was in icu, i didn't like being the only one sitting by his bed watching over him, i was scared of everything. but my brother had no issues doing his 'shift' y'know? he didn't need me there, didn't need me to listen to him, etc.
oh what a long piece this is! but if your only child is a girl, you might want to have a second one. since gordon is a boy, you don't really need to worry so much.