Steph
Congrats! I totally didn't realise either
Waiwai
My #1 and #2 sleep in the same bed as me too. Both have been woken by each other before, but as time passed, they got used to it and will now fall back asleep quite easily.
SY
I still use the hugs and kisses for #1. If that does not work I use physical humour, like carrying him up over my shoulder and running around, or carrying him and spinning around, or carrying him and turning him upside-down, or tickling him, or playing my fingers along his body, or kissing him all over... or a combination of these. Yes, a lot of carrying is involved as he likes that. He also likes it when I turn his wails into gibberish or make funny sounding words out of them. Then he'll do the same and the funny/strange word game begins. Generally the humour style works quite well on him. And erm, we've started 'shooting' at each other too. I am not a fan of this, but he's a boy and sooner or later he'll be playing cops and robbers so might as well start now lor.
When everything does not work, I resort to threats or bargains, which I'll try to couch in positive mode, eg: I'll not switch off the light if you stop wailing. But I also tell him often (and he knows it well), that "even when I am sad or angry, I still love you very much". And he will tell me when we are at a stand-off, "You still love me very much even though you are angry".
Aiyah, with #1 I tried to be the perfect mum. But it's not possible for me so I just do what I can lor. Realise it's not about being perfect it's about being there for them, and having them know that. It's important - to me - that my boys know that they have support from me and hb. That we are their absolute back-up, and always will be, no matter what. So even when he is tantrum-ing at his very worst, he knows that daddy and mummy still love him. It's easier to get the message across to them when they know that. So I preface and end all the 'discipline' conversations with I love yous, hugs, and kisses.
BUT he still misbehaves lah!
Batgirl, Crystal
Does LNT do trials?