simmering resentment
i think there is no one here who does not feel this way and i think its all expectations. In the beginning, i was EXPECTING my hubs to be LIKE me and i got so angry when he couldn't be a bit more proactive, a bit more hands on, a bit more concerned. Then i decided i SHAN'T depend on him anymore, whatever my helper and I can do, WE will do and I got so much happier. and every little thing he does now is like a bonus. To be fair to my hubs, he has bathed the children before, brought talia out alone before, read and play with them every night, help to put them to sleep when needed, feed talia when my helper is on off day etc. So when i don't expect help and it comes, that took care of my simmering resentment.
the book people
think dusty and I would have 50-60 pounds already. bluey, i didn't see the little men series in the webbie though. SD, you want to order? there are good books for ashley too.
i think there is no one here who does not feel this way and i think its all expectations. In the beginning, i was EXPECTING my hubs to be LIKE me and i got so angry when he couldn't be a bit more proactive, a bit more hands on, a bit more concerned. Then i decided i SHAN'T depend on him anymore, whatever my helper and I can do, WE will do and I got so much happier. and every little thing he does now is like a bonus. To be fair to my hubs, he has bathed the children before, brought talia out alone before, read and play with them every night, help to put them to sleep when needed, feed talia when my helper is on off day etc. So when i don't expect help and it comes, that took care of my simmering resentment.
the book people
think dusty and I would have 50-60 pounds already. bluey, i didn't see the little men series in the webbie though. SD, you want to order? there are good books for ashley too.