Leng, my elder hor, when he cries (he always cry for nothing one lar), we said 'shame shame, you are just like gal. Boys do not cry. Next time we buy pink dress for you and cut away your kukubird', he also like that. I have been teaching him it is call penis, but in laws always say bird bird, which I hate.
Then my hubby always play with him till hb will go touch son penis for nothing (I really dun understand this part). I was rather angry and told hb not to touch him there, same time explain to son that anybody other than me, dad and grandma can touch him there when bathing him, other pple cannot and he also cannot let them play. He said ok.
For my gal, I will say private part. Once she knows how to talk, I better teach her the correct word, virginal, otherwise like her gorgor, still calling his 'kukubird'.