beverly,
i m never a demanding employer. When my 22 mths old girl sleeps during afternoon, i always come down to tell her go take a nap. When i dun need her at nite, i too ask her to go rest. I never scold her, and i told her my std practice, i hate to scold ppl. I will tell 1 time, 2nd time, 3rd time... 4th time, i would do myself. till date only today i shouted at her for not giving me a valid reason abt why she wants to go home.
I laid my rules, i gave her the freedom and even give her incentives like phone card or buying undergarments for her. When i go shopping, i never failed to buy her gifts for festive seasons or angpaos during hari raya and CNY. When i know the kids at home ate up all the food, i would either make new food or even ask her to pick anything she would like to cook n eat.
She lied, i gave her chance. I never felt there is a need to send her back, cos i know she needs to earn that money for home. When there is a mistake, i will tell her. I practice open communication, i dun treat her like a maid at all. My own mum scolded me for treating my maid better than her and my own baby. my hb always scold me says i protective.
Fankly, i see her very poor thing. hoping very much to help her, but in the end i am still on the losing end. She left and i got shit at home from hb. though my mum dare not say me. I was very upset. I hated the way she walked out on me, esp when i am into my early pregnancy and with a girl so sticky to me.
I always been patient with her. she broke my ceiling and she denied when my hubby questioned her, but she came telling me she broke it. i told her, its ok but dun lied. Then again she lied when one of the nights, both hb and i went out to my inlaws, we left her $4 for her dinner. telling her to get proper dinner. Went came back, hb found out 2 packets of noodles went missing, he was mad and went out to the main bin to look for the noodles wrapper. It was late, i told him to leave it to me to settle with her. I confronted her, but i asked, what she had for dinner, and knowing her.. her std answer, "Chicken Rice". I asked, you better be true cos i dun wan later i show u evidence u will be sppechless.. she asked what i know, i said u dun have to know. just tell me. She finally told me she took noodles and kept the money. She said want to save up. I told her, that is not the right way. I gave that money for proper dinner and not noodles.
I swear i never ill treat her. When i go mac, she gets to eat what i eat... go out lunch, she drinks the same, she chooses what she wants to eat when we go out. Am i UNFAIR? She had so much new clothes from my mum and me, i ill treat her?
i seriously very mad over such betrayal! if i ever see her, i sure slam her manz.
my hubby is the opp of your hubby, my hb very calculative. too bad talking to an accountant.. die faster. every cents and every details.. faint. he is very particular, i am more forgiving. well, guess we the opp lorz
mummy, not me US$650 lahz.someone else.
she got no access to my Safe. Even i leave money ard, my eyes are very sharp.
Frankly, i am lost without a help now. but thank god i still can afford to look for one while i do housework and cook too. Luckily i know how to cook and everyday meals are prepared by me. if not dunno what we eat each day.. could be with her saliva or even washing her hands etc.