pat/garfield/kitsune
have at least one more kid, then your 1st one got a partner to play with.
it's tiring, but very fun.
IMO, if you got reliable helper to help up, closer age gap between 2 kids is good. if there isn't any, it's better to wait till the elder one quite independent liao, then try to 2nd one.
when i handle 2 alone at home, it's really 'chaotic'. luckily, my gal is quite independent now i.e. she can go potty by her own, self feed, etc, so, when i handle 2nd one, i won't go mad. can't imagine, when i m feeding 2nd one, elder one calling me that she wants me to pull down the pants to pee...
re: hb helping up
i must say my hb is my good helper, very hands on. but not very auto, must open mouth to ask him for help.
pat
my gynae said though TBF, still can get conceived.
xiao yun
yah, my ss also drops a bit 'cos at night i don't wake up to pump liao. my boy sleeps from 8pm+ to 7am+. the most, i will wake up and pump at around 5am.