yanyen
Hi, me from jan 08 thread. =)
I am feeding my son on EBM. Been taking care of my son alone for the past 2 weeks without any help. I must first agree with expressing milk + all the washing up etc etc do take up a lot of my time. So at times, i do feel that I should give up expressing and use the time to play with my son instead.
Anyway, in the beginning, i do struggle with pumping and bonding with my son. But ever since I started to take care of my son alone, I have change my pumping frequency to every 4 to 5hrs instead of 3 hrs. Simply no time to pump every 3hrs. My son is currently 9.5weeks, I feel that my supply is more or less stable.
I will feed my son, pump only when he is sleeping or sometimes, when he is 'talking' to his friends from his musical mobile. As much as I want to bond with my son most of the time, I also want him to be able to play by himself once in a while too.
Btw, another very good time to bond with your baby is during bath time. I will talk to him and he will respond by 'cooing' with me. Quite cute. I bath my son twice a day and every time I bath him, he will be very happy. Except for the washing hair part lah.

After his bath, I will give him a simple massage when I apply moisturiser all over his body. I do all these while talking to him and he will respond by cooing back.
I don't think u are very possessive. Perhaps u can work out something. Like your MIL will feed in the afternoon, while u take nap to catch up on your sleep. You can feed and bath your baby in the norning and at night. I am sure if u work out something with her, everyone will be happy. =)
btw, i don't believe that u have to latch on just to bond with your baby. My friend told me that her son is very attached and bonds very well with her mother. But that doesn't mean that her son needs to latch on to his grandmother what. U get what I mean.
Also, 1 more thing. When I first learnt to take care of my son from my confinement lady, i also notice that he is not very comfortable when I carry him. He will cry and make fuss. But after a few days, I became more confident with looking after him. N my son got used to me. Everything became much easier. Now, I secretly pride myself for being able to calm my baby whenever he cries.

It takes time but don't ever ever think that your baby prefers u over others!