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thanks a lot!! *muacks*
Chaye
I second pixie. Dont beat his mouth and say "i dont love u" lah. Very heartbreaking and traumatizing for a child. Anyway, when we go on and on, they will tune off, which is why he said "I dont know" when u asked him what u said. Perhaps it's best to prepare in advance? I find Rylee cooperates well when i tell her in advance of what i expect of her. And then use the "if...then" consequences. For eg, i will tell her "we're going to the toys rus to pick a present for her fren's bday party, not buying toys for u. Now, if u behave urself, then perhaps u can get a ___, and if u dont, we'll go home straight away". I will remind her one day in advance, so she can be prepared mentally. Then, when day comes i'll say "rem mommy said..." and she'll understand. For ur case, maybe the night before take 2 sets of clothes out in advance. At least he feel he HAS a choice? Just ask him this or this? If he refuses both, then u say, then do u want to go to school naked, then everyone will laugh Silly Tate! and turn it into a joke lo. I think he jus er er er to get attention cos u have been mang chang with him? Sometimes kids fuss and whine becos they jus want attention and they also dunno what they want. I know we ALL need lots of patience dealing with preschoolers, but these few weeks rylee has been super guai, obedient, and cooperative. It's like a whole new world! Maybe she really got tired of all my yelling and nagging haha.
When ur super angry. Dont hit him. Walk away even if it means he's late, ur late etc. If he runs aft u, or cry, and u think ur losing it, jus walk away. Calm yourself down before u go back to him to handle him. 1) ur showing him how YOU manage ur anger and 2) u will avoid hitting him and making him feel unloved.