(2008/01) Jan 2008 MTBs
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kitsune_sg
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WendyG, thanks for the encouragement.
I'm sad to say I succumbed to pressure (before reading your post 
). Today is Teacher's Day. It's also my girl's Graduation Day (Graduation from BM I mean) cos I let her try Friso2 today. FIL made it cos I don't have the heart to do it myself. RaeAnne finished nearly 90ml of it. FIL said, "she likes it, drink even faster than BM". Sigh, feel a bit sad actually, told hubby. "How, gal gal don't need me already". Sigh, mixed feelings but I guess I should be happy that she did not have any problems switching to FM bah. With so many changes in office, my immediate boss, manager, is quitting and I'm expected to tak over her work without promotion. Her last day is in end Oct and I'll be very busy all the way till then. My AD is not very supportive, keep hinting that if I want to be promoted, I must be prepared to work long hours, take on more responsibilities lar. Somehow, I think pumping twice a day at office will affect my chances lor. All along, my SS also not very good, got to pump very long to get my girl's 1 feed. Initially, my target was 6 mths so I don't really regret lar. I've been losing so much weight and my health also not very good. Including today, I have already taken 3 days of MC since I went back to work in end April, nearly 1 MC per month. Hubby told me to do partial BF lor, at least less stressful and still can have bonding.
). Today is Teacher's Day. It's also my girl's Graduation Day (Graduation from BM I mean) cos I let her try Friso2 today. FIL made it cos I don't have the heart to do it myself. RaeAnne finished nearly 90ml of it. FIL said, "she likes it, drink even faster than BM". Sigh, feel a bit sad actually, told hubby. "How, gal gal don't need me already". Sigh, mixed feelings but I guess I should be happy that she did not have any problems switching to FM bah. With so many changes in office, my immediate boss, manager, is quitting and I'm expected to tak over her work without promotion. Her last day is in end Oct and I'll be very busy all the way till then. My AD is not very supportive, keep hinting that if I want to be promoted, I must be prepared to work long hours, take on more responsibilities lar. Somehow, I think pumping twice a day at office will affect my chances lor. All along, my SS also not very good, got to pump very long to get my girl's 1 feed. Initially, my target was 6 mths so I don't really regret lar. I've been losing so much weight and my health also not very good. Including today, I have already taken 3 days of MC since I went back to work in end April, nearly 1 MC per month. Hubby told me to do partial BF lor, at least less stressful and still can have bonding.
angelwind
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morning mummies;
babe;
my boy sleeps throughout the night.
he sleeps as early as 7pm+, latest is 10+...wakes up damn early at 6am, sometimes 5.30am...usually i ignore him and he goes back to sleep till 7am+ or 8am+
its good i know. if you ask me how i did it, i oso dun have the answer. he just sleeps this early since from birth...and i just "gong gong" make sure he sleeps at 7pm+ or 8pm+ every night...became routine...
as now he is getting older, and is needing sleep lesser, he wakes up real early. can only choose to ignore him so he goes back to sleep. but then again, afternoon time, he can managed best 2x1hr or sleep, so daytime can be tiring for me or my MIL too
re:ML/ECA
i have ECA with my hb on a regular basis, but doesnt like my hb to touch my nipples liao. dont mean to sound graphic too, but i dont like him to fiddle my knobs, because i can get letdown even tho i have just emptied my boobs half an hr ago...
ok getting graphic here: i realised that there is a way to get around this. i always tell my hb to touch my boobies as a whole, and when i get aroused, he will have permission to fiddle my knobs, like that no letdown...get it?
my body differentiates ECA or bding - touching of my knobs via how aroused i am, so touch touch whole boobies then last part can touch my knobs...
aiyah my hb always complain i got so many rules for him so he always sianz with ECA too. i explained after childbirth, my body changes a lot so i have to tell him how can he make me sexcited...last time somethings work but not now anymore
babe;
my boy sleeps throughout the night.
he sleeps as early as 7pm+, latest is 10+...wakes up damn early at 6am, sometimes 5.30am...usually i ignore him and he goes back to sleep till 7am+ or 8am+
its good i know. if you ask me how i did it, i oso dun have the answer. he just sleeps this early since from birth...and i just "gong gong" make sure he sleeps at 7pm+ or 8pm+ every night...became routine...
as now he is getting older, and is needing sleep lesser, he wakes up real early. can only choose to ignore him so he goes back to sleep. but then again, afternoon time, he can managed best 2x1hr or sleep, so daytime can be tiring for me or my MIL too
re:ML/ECA
i have ECA with my hb on a regular basis, but doesnt like my hb to touch my nipples liao. dont mean to sound graphic too, but i dont like him to fiddle my knobs, because i can get letdown even tho i have just emptied my boobs half an hr ago...
ok getting graphic here: i realised that there is a way to get around this. i always tell my hb to touch my boobies as a whole, and when i get aroused, he will have permission to fiddle my knobs, like that no letdown...get it?
my body differentiates ECA or bding - touching of my knobs via how aroused i am, so touch touch whole boobies then last part can touch my knobs...
aiyah my hb always complain i got so many rules for him so he always sianz with ECA too. i explained after childbirth, my body changes a lot so i have to tell him how can he make me sexcited...last time somethings work but not now anymore
angelwind
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kitsune;
dont be sad coz we all have come a long way, since you have been bfding your girl for very very long liao leh...4320hours if you want to be exact...if it makes you feel like, "wah!! thats so long that i have been bfding my baby??!"
not that your gal dont need you already, think it that she drink FM, you dont need so much time to pump out, can make use of this time to bond with her more...no stress about targeting the ML you have to churn out every time; about bringing the barang barang to work...
jiayou about work ok, situations like this very sian...but think that go home you can see your gal gal liao...nothing else matters...
i always tell my boy i do this or that extra, is just for him, so its worthwhile...
dont be sad coz we all have come a long way, since you have been bfding your girl for very very long liao leh...4320hours if you want to be exact...if it makes you feel like, "wah!! thats so long that i have been bfding my baby??!"
not that your gal dont need you already, think it that she drink FM, you dont need so much time to pump out, can make use of this time to bond with her more...no stress about targeting the ML you have to churn out every time; about bringing the barang barang to work...
jiayou about work ok, situations like this very sian...but think that go home you can see your gal gal liao...nothing else matters...
i always tell my boy i do this or that extra, is just for him, so its worthwhile...
qqing
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Kitsune dun be sad ..... at least your gal took BM for so long ... my poor TT only take from me less than a mth cos I dun have supply .... well now she kept on "molesting" my breast pinch me lah ..... press my breast while she climbing on top of me my hubby say she take revenge cos she never had enuff from me .... i feel more sad leh so dun be sad ... *hugz*
kitsune: yes, u r a wonderful mumy! i onli breastfed by bb 5 weeks coz i was alone looking after her at hme n couldnt manage. no proper n healthy food so i gave up.
qq: ya, saw the tv advert for bb contest. but my girl so TOMBOY n rough! haha nt likely to win the be a cute bb girl contest winner.
qq: ya, saw the tv advert for bb contest. but my girl so TOMBOY n rough! haha nt likely to win the be a cute bb girl contest winner.
kitsune
agreed with others. U have done good by giving her your BM as long as u can liao. Like u said, your initial target is 6mths. So u exceed. The feelings u get about RaeAnne not needing u is VERY VERY normal for a BF-ing mom. Yes, BM is best, BUT only if it's within the limits of the mommy. If mommy is all stressed out, give BM also no use. What u're doing, "piah" outside to get promotion, to get better pay is also hoping to give ur gal a better life. So dont beat yourself up over it. Like what pixiepixel suggested, u can still give partial BM, ie, u nurse her before u go to work (direct latch so faster, no need to use bottles, warm up milk) first thing in the morning, then when u come home, u also latch her on lo.
for the get-together on 11th Sept, what time do u all wan it to be? My gal's bedtime is around 8-ish leh. And i jus rem it's a working day, so how?
agreed with others. U have done good by giving her your BM as long as u can liao. Like u said, your initial target is 6mths. So u exceed. The feelings u get about RaeAnne not needing u is VERY VERY normal for a BF-ing mom. Yes, BM is best, BUT only if it's within the limits of the mommy. If mommy is all stressed out, give BM also no use. What u're doing, "piah" outside to get promotion, to get better pay is also hoping to give ur gal a better life. So dont beat yourself up over it. Like what pixiepixel suggested, u can still give partial BM, ie, u nurse her before u go to work (direct latch so faster, no need to use bottles, warm up milk) first thing in the morning, then when u come home, u also latch her on lo.
for the get-together on 11th Sept, what time do u all wan it to be? My gal's bedtime is around 8-ish leh. And i jus rem it's a working day, so how?
kitsune_sg
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Thanks, Pixie, QQ, Aqua & mylife, for the encouragement, makes me feel better.
Ya, actually I don't miss pumping so I may drag the duration but I'll miss latching her on so I'll try to latch on as often as I can when I come home. Maybe meantime, try to accumulate more BM to freeze, some antibodies better than none bah.
angelwind
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kitsune, now your gal takes solid, no need to churn out so much BM liao so can relax a bit more liao...
i oso relax relax, now adopt "have then good, dont have nevermind attitude"...so when if after i pump i get 10ml more than what im supposed to get, i tell myself "wah! what a pleasant surprise!" it makes you happy mah...
i oso relax relax, now adopt "have then good, dont have nevermind attitude"...so when if after i pump i get 10ml more than what im supposed to get, i tell myself "wah! what a pleasant surprise!" it makes you happy mah...
kitsune,
dun be sad.
i also latching my #2 when I am at home. Even weekends I will give him FM now cos the breast already used to few hrs no latching/pumping. I find it easier to latch him during the nite as I dun want the whole family to wake up cos I am slower in making his milk. but den, supply low ... so every 2 hrs he will "wake" me up for his feeding.
dun be sad.
Hi all mummies, would like to join this thread. I had a baby girl born in Jan. Going to turn 8 months in a few days time.
Recently she refuse to drink milk. Only love solid food. My first 2 kids also like that. But I manage to spoon feed milk to them until they are old enough to drink from cup. But my 3rd baby even refuse to drink from spoon. Headache lei.
All my friends don't seemed to have this problem lei. Wondered why all my kids like that. At first thought its milk powder problem, but they drink different brand. My first taken care by my fil, my 2nd taken care by maid. My 3rd taken care by nanny. So its not caregiver problem right?
Would like to know any mummies encounter the same problem and can advise me how to deal with it.
Recently she refuse to drink milk. Only love solid food. My first 2 kids also like that. But I manage to spoon feed milk to them until they are old enough to drink from cup. But my 3rd baby even refuse to drink from spoon. Headache lei.
All my friends don't seemed to have this problem lei. Wondered why all my kids like that. At first thought its milk powder problem, but they drink different brand. My first taken care by my fil, my 2nd taken care by maid. My 3rd taken care by nanny. So its not caregiver problem right?
Would like to know any mummies encounter the same problem and can advise me how to deal with it.
babyshannon
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hi mummies,
finally have some time to post. been reading but everytime i want to post, sure got something on.
Anyway, I hope i can make it to meet the rest of the mummies in novena next week..
lvy,
my gal also have the same prob. dont like to drink milk. sometimes i need to resort to spoon feeding her the milk. she prefers solid than milk.
finally have some time to post. been reading but everytime i want to post, sure got something on.
Anyway, I hope i can make it to meet the rest of the mummies in novena next week..
lvy,
my gal also have the same prob. dont like to drink milk. sometimes i need to resort to spoon feeding her the milk. she prefers solid than milk.
babyshannon
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kitsune_sg,
dont be sad. I can understand how u feel. I also started giving my gal some FM. In fact, I have fully stop breastfeeding 2 weeks ago. I drag quite long to stop as I was abit "bu she de". But my hubby feels that I should stop as my health becomes very bad ever since my gal is born. imagine I have been having fainting spells at least a few times a day since my gal is one mth old. surprisingly, I start to see improvement in my health after I stop BF.
dont be sad. I can understand how u feel. I also started giving my gal some FM. In fact, I have fully stop breastfeeding 2 weeks ago. I drag quite long to stop as I was abit "bu she de". But my hubby feels that I should stop as my health becomes very bad ever since my gal is born. imagine I have been having fainting spells at least a few times a day since my gal is one mth old. surprisingly, I start to see improvement in my health after I stop BF.
QQ,
hee didn't call you all coz...so paiseh to say this.. i can remember the baby's name, but not your names! Furthermore, I very long never post here, don't think you will rem me also.
shall look out for the ad on tv. i saw a similar one for baby boys at jurong point.. any baby boys went?
hee didn't call you all coz...so paiseh to say this.. i can remember the baby's name, but not your names! Furthermore, I very long never post here, don't think you will rem me also.
shall look out for the ad on tv. i saw a similar one for baby boys at jurong point.. any baby boys went?
hi mummies,
I bot my boy last sat to Jurong PT for that Baby contest. Juz to feedback, we were there abt 9.45am & there was a very long queue already & it supposed to start at 10am. We juz blindly follow the queue & gosh, realised there were 100+ baby boy in front of us. In the end gave up & heard the announcement from Ch U that only for the first 50 babies and muz be prepared to stay until 7pm for the whole shooting!! Btw the host is Zhong Qing & Mark Li.
So my advice is if u really so ONZ to participate, muz rem to go early & get into the first 50 & muz bring lots of milk, diaper, pillow & stroller cos is gonna be a long day. Dun forget Birth Cert is a muz for registration ; ) Good Luck & tell us if u are in the TV oki ;p
I bot my boy last sat to Jurong PT for that Baby contest. Juz to feedback, we were there abt 9.45am & there was a very long queue already & it supposed to start at 10am. We juz blindly follow the queue & gosh, realised there were 100+ baby boy in front of us. In the end gave up & heard the announcement from Ch U that only for the first 50 babies and muz be prepared to stay until 7pm for the whole shooting!! Btw the host is Zhong Qing & Mark Li.
So my advice is if u really so ONZ to participate, muz rem to go early & get into the first 50 & muz bring lots of milk, diaper, pillow & stroller cos is gonna be a long day. Dun forget Birth Cert is a muz for registration ; ) Good Luck & tell us if u are in the TV oki ;p
Think shld be free registration ba & also dunno the prize leh... heehee.. we juz heard got baby contest & went there kpo kpo..btw is not last sat..it was 2 sat back (23/09/08)
Maybe u all try to call the shopping mall & find out more. The advertisement flashed very fast, we also can't catch it only know at Jurong Pt got such thingy.
Maybe u all try to call the shopping mall & find out more. The advertisement flashed very fast, we also can't catch it only know at Jurong Pt got such thingy.
shorty_gal
Active Member
Presenting Javin retro look....
hahaha Jacelyn, so funny!
kitsune,
you've done so well for bfg more then 6 months. Me worse off leh...feel so guilty for not doing enough. my girl only had bm for 2 months.
ivy,
my girl worse, don't want milk, don't want solids, always take so much effort to coax her...hiaz
kitsune,
you've done so well for bfg more then 6 months. Me worse off leh...feel so guilty for not doing enough. my girl only had bm for 2 months.
ivy,
my girl worse, don't want milk, don't want solids, always take so much effort to coax her...hiaz
babyshannon
Active Member
Mummies going for the gathering, may I confirm is the venue for next Friday gathering at Globetrotters? Its in United Square rite? Jus to confirm in case I have no time to check the forum again.
shorty_gal
Active Member
QQ,
Actualli i got to knw the website from ur blog!!! Saw it i laughed then went to to play lor!!!hehe
Actualli i got to knw the website from ur blog!!! Saw it i laughed then went to to play lor!!!hehe
shorty_gal
Active Member
Luvv,
At least u BF for 2 months me only 2 weeks!!! Due to frequent block ducts and infection i give up... Now kinda regret!
At least u BF for 2 months me only 2 weeks!!! Due to frequent block ducts and infection i give up... Now kinda regret!
blackbatz
Active Member
Hi Kitsune,
Don't have to feel bad. Every mummy here has their own reasons and complications about not being able to BF. But, does that make use a lousy mummy? The kids are going to be with us for a life time. There's more to it than BF.
Initially, I have the same mixed feelings about not being able to cradle him and watch him smile happily at me once he's done.
For me, my timetable does not allow me to express at all. There was no way I could work around it. It was either maintaining my sanity or losing it..
Don't have to feel bad. Every mummy here has their own reasons and complications about not being able to BF. But, does that make use a lousy mummy? The kids are going to be with us for a life time. There's more to it than BF.
Initially, I have the same mixed feelings about not being able to cradle him and watch him smile happily at me once he's done.
For me, my timetable does not allow me to express at all. There was no way I could work around it. It was either maintaining my sanity or losing it..
blessedbaby
New Member
Hi QQ,please let me know more about baby contest...wanna bring my girl to try also...
thanks
thanks
vereneting
Active Member
Hi QQ / Mcfluffy,
I was at the bb show at kembangan cc too.
Mcfluffy,
I saw ur hubby climbing the stairs from level 2...hee hee.
The MP carried Javier but he pulled off his specs...OOPS
I was at the bb show at kembangan cc too.
Mcfluffy,
I saw ur hubby climbing the stairs from level 2...hee hee.
The MP carried Javier but he pulled off his specs...OOPS
kitsune
dun be sad sad... latch when u can... jiayou! spend more time playing with her =)
re: 12th sep
if weather is fine and their mood is fine, me pop by with my 2 darlings slightly later can? cos 3pm is the midst of their nap time. jan bb, your offer to be nanny still on? =P
dun be sad sad... latch when u can... jiayou! spend more time playing with her =)
re: 12th sep
if weather is fine and their mood is fine, me pop by with my 2 darlings slightly later can? cos 3pm is the midst of their nap time. jan bb, your offer to be nanny still on? =P
vereneting
Active Member
My bb fell off the bed yesterday night.
we guessed he may had landed on his butt then lay down on the floor. No sound when he fell. only hear him cry.
he cried a bit then ok...
checked..no bruises and injuries.
appetite very good..no vomiting.
any more things to observe???
we guessed he may had landed on his butt then lay down on the floor. No sound when he fell. only hear him cry.
he cried a bit then ok...
checked..no bruises and injuries.
appetite very good..no vomiting.
any more things to observe???
kitsune
sigh, i may hv been passed over for promotion bcoz i leave on the dot daily. but really bo pian coz my folks can only do so much. They really scuttle home the first moment they can. It's tiring for them to be looking after my baby &/or toddler. Esp since my sis and i were brought up by my granny. They hv no experience with children so young.
Recently i was in a meeting to moderate the department's appraisal scores... sad to say, a mummy currently preg with #3 has been passed over for promotion since she joined the company 7 yrs ago. Coz she was either pregnant or bfg. Even tho her performance is much better than some others, the boss didn't want to kill her by promoting her, coz promotion carries heavier responsibilities. I guess same applies for me. So i'm sort of stuck in a dead end job... but i tell myself it's work-life balance. i hv to get off work on time in order to start my 2nd shift at home.
sigh, i may hv been passed over for promotion bcoz i leave on the dot daily. but really bo pian coz my folks can only do so much. They really scuttle home the first moment they can. It's tiring for them to be looking after my baby &/or toddler. Esp since my sis and i were brought up by my granny. They hv no experience with children so young.
Recently i was in a meeting to moderate the department's appraisal scores... sad to say, a mummy currently preg with #3 has been passed over for promotion since she joined the company 7 yrs ago. Coz she was either pregnant or bfg. Even tho her performance is much better than some others, the boss didn't want to kill her by promoting her, coz promotion carries heavier responsibilities. I guess same applies for me. So i'm sort of stuck in a dead end job... but i tell myself it's work-life balance. i hv to get off work on time in order to start my 2nd shift at home.
blackbatz
Active Member
Verene,
Mine was on the bed and he decided to do a "front crawl" towards the edge of the bed. Of course, he overshot. Hubby was with him and could only manage to catch hold of his lower left leg. His head, 3/4 of his body and his right leg was dangling mid air. As a result, hubby sprained his back. I was too stun to do anything.
Wendyg,
There will come a time when you need to ask yourself if work or family is more important. Like you, my folks couldn't wait to pass both of them to me the minute I step into the house. Nowithstanding, I may not have visited the toilets, drank a cup of tea etc. What to do? My boy really tax them to the max. Come Friday, they will wait eager for me to take over full time. They need to take a break. My dad to Sungei Road while my mom to People's Pk.
Mine was on the bed and he decided to do a "front crawl" towards the edge of the bed. Of course, he overshot. Hubby was with him and could only manage to catch hold of his lower left leg. His head, 3/4 of his body and his right leg was dangling mid air. As a result, hubby sprained his back. I was too stun to do anything.
Wendyg,
There will come a time when you need to ask yourself if work or family is more important. Like you, my folks couldn't wait to pass both of them to me the minute I step into the house. Nowithstanding, I may not have visited the toilets, drank a cup of tea etc. What to do? My boy really tax them to the max. Come Friday, they will wait eager for me to take over full time. They need to take a break. My dad to Sungei Road while my mom to People's Pk.
vereneting
Active Member
That's why my mum encourage me to give birth young. As she still have ample stamina to take care of my bb, do household chores and cook dinner and simple lunch (for her own). I think my mum is a superwomen. when i take over full time during weekends when hubby outstation, I feel so exhausted. During weekends, I got no time for lunch/dinner. I only managed to complete the laundry and mop the floor and bathe my dogs. so scarified food.
I wondered how to manage when I have #2.
I wondered how to manage when I have #2.
kitsune_sg
Active Member
blackbatz, yup, I'm feeling better now. Takes some time to reconcile those mixed feelings, I guessed.
Finally uploaded RaeAnne's professional photos on my blog. Check it out. www.anewpiggy.blogspot.com.
Finally uploaded RaeAnne's professional photos on my blog. Check it out. www.anewpiggy.blogspot.com.