re: maids. If you are hiring indo maids, in indo itself, they have 2 types of maids. one kind to do housework, so they only know how to do housework, another type is nanny, so they only look after babies. So if they say they work before, maybe they were hire to do housework and not really care for babies. So in a household, if I need someone to clean my house and cook and watch baby, I need 2 helpers. One will cook for me and clean house, the other one to cook for baby and watch baby etc.
Anyway I have concluded that its really difficult to find a good one, because even if they are good, after a while, they may also become complacent and take things for granted. Sometimes wanna be nice to them, you worry they take advantage, but if you are strict with them, dont know they will voodoo you or not.
On working part time and spending more time with our darlings. Now both me and my mum look after my girl together. I already feel my girl likes my mum more than me, she will look for my mum and not me
. Maybe I am being sensitive, but they are really clever, they know who dotes on them and will spoil them because my girl knows I am more strict with her as compare to my mum who can carry her 24/7 if I dont stop her. So I can imagine if I am working, probably she will even forget me lo.