Morning all!
Maruko,
HUGs...
I can understand it's tough for you to cope with the monster, fussy T (@ this phase only), preggie journey, etc. Somehow you need to be more positive.
Hmm... I know I am in no position to interfer with your way of disciplining T. Dun cane him 'anywhere'. CHOOSE a spot and focus on it, coz there is tendency when we may get out of control and miss, the cane ended up wrong spot.
I cun help but to KPO and contribute what I am doing to J1. Since I use cane when I discipline, I have given myself strong warning not to whip like holding on to Er-Mei-Shi-Tai's whip (anyhow whip).
When J1 gets out of hand @ home, I will drag him to the room to punish him. Of coz he will struggle, but I will just carry him into the room despite his screaming and crying.
Force him on the bed, lying on his tumtum and pull down his pants. Whack his butt with cane. After a few strokes, he will come down the bed and sit on the floor. I will ask him to THINK and tell me why he did that (his naughty act). He will 'Because, because, because'. NOrmally there is no answer to it coz he cun explain hence the only answer is Because! Luckily I am @ verge of anger, hence my crazy laughing did not burst out. Let him BECAUSE for a while, then I reason with him and get him to apologise.
Commonly, getting the kiddos to stretch their hands and cane on the palms is 'popular' too. For me, his hands are still small hence may miss it. (which I guess the clumspy me better avoid so that I wun LOL on myself when I miss it). The caning on palms may hurt his nerves, as they are in midst of learning to hold pen/pencils for writing/colouring. Hence I avoid attacking on the palms. My mum nagged and warned me not to do it on his palms.
Butt is better, fleshy and it is less hurting.
Dragging him into the room to punish him so that no others @ home will interfer.
So when he is out with me and gets out of hand, I will warn him that I will punish him when we get home. He sure will get it from me. Sometimes it works, but just for a while. Then I got to be recorder and playback+repeat again about the warning.
No offence, just to share.
For yourself, you really have to be strong and be positive.
Happy Mummy = Happy BB!
Hang in there... U can do it!
sorry, ah-mah long story...