Joelle/QQ,
I’m those kind person with no character one, as long as everyone happy I suffer a bit nvm… xishi ningren…maybe another side of timid.
That time after she beat me, I told hb I’m scare b’cos she look horrible (she used to be very nice) she can tell all kind of story to accuse me. hb agreed his mum something wrong and ask me not to stay at home too long and try to avoid to be alone with her… I told myself she is hb’s mother I dun want to put him in difficult position so I just swallow it and be careful whatever I did.
Bbmouse.
I told him not to come but he want… he is like that… he dun like me go out one… if I go out long especially with Elisha, he will sure angry…
Starfruit,
I told him we should be thankful that my mum help us as we have more sleep and I can fan xin to go to work we dun need to worried that the cc, maid or nanny will ill treat her. He agreed but will reverse to old thing again and again.
Mummies,
Actually think back our problem is accumulate one, he is typical Virgo and type B men… he want everything at home be straight like no body used or touch... no stain, no water (not even a drop) on tab, kitchen top, mirror, floor etc…. must flash toilet twice after used…sofa must be straight can’t touch the wall…laundry must wash everyday even only one or two pc… clothes hanging in wardrobe must be a gap abt 1cm…etc etc. We used to practice this before we have Elisha, I want my house to be nice too but then he dun understand that is hard for other to follow his way especially old ppl like my mum who is not feeling well but still have to take care of a active bb who dun even let her come out from the playyard or go toilet, how to make sure the house is as of what he want… ya I feel heart pain too when I saw scratches on my kitchen top and stain all over but what can I do? She is helping us to look after bb and cook for her… she did help to keep the house clean but not up to his standard… she can’t even stand up from seating on the floor… she dun even dare to cook a meal for herself… what else should I ask from her?
I have been telling him to relax dun be so ji jiao but he refuse to listen and insist of wanted us to follow his way… he always said the house condition will affect the valuation when we sell away our house… and he said that I have change, we no longer think same way like what when we set up our nest …. I no longer care about our house… but why he dun put himself on my shoe…I need to work too… I have tons of problems at work… and have to control myself to put aside all problems and take over from mum to take care of Elisha after work… I need to pump too…I dun even have time to watch my favorite show or do my knitting… but I have no complains no matter how tired am I as long as everyone is happy… I wanted to do house chore too but sometime I really “got heart but no strength”… everytime I want to do he will ask me go away he will do it but why he still unhappy….
Now I really dun know how to start communicate with him.
You know what on Monday I bring Elisha out to buy dinner, when I walk home I saw few ppl grouping at my house downstairs I’m so worried…. I scare something happen which I worried for few years…. I worried my mum kan bu kai b’cos she ever tell me (few years ago) she want to jump down from my place when she quarrel with my dad and she tot I siding my dad….