Thanks mummies, I told hb very firmly that I will not change my mind again thins time…don’t tel me funny things again…told him what happen yesterday and want him to watch the CCTV…he said no need he will go sign the balance doc for the new maid later…hope we can settle this soon….
I did told hb he have to at least give me face in front of maid…we settle problem close door…not in front of her…if not maid wont respect me one…he sort of agree but he will still show openly one…he very short temple…I have draft a list of things we need to look out when new maid here…hope this help to improve the situation…
bbmarch,
My hb don’t like to go out with me alone…exp now got kids…I don’t want to leave them with maid…
edde,
Thanks, too much negative story on changing maid, I need more input on positive.
Nana,
I want indo initially coz I find phil is more ‘smart’ hard to train...but after the ex-maid who abuse E&C, agent advice that phil is more patient with kids. so we swop. Yes I agreed in my case, this phil maid is better then the indo…at least she show some care on them…at least she still show them smile even they are whiny or cranky…so we try once more phil see how…
AAA,
I’m more then happy is he ask me to cook for him, he don’t eat home cook food de…junk food man…he ask me to pick the toys on the floor, keep the bed.etc…it very simple chore lah, not that I cant do but my maid is sitting there to play with my kids… should be the other way round isn’t it? don’t know what is in his mind…
My hb purpose more to let her know we will chance her if she still don’t obey, not to threaten her, he find they are pitiful to be here to work but keep kana transfer here and there and get pay deducted again…
If we were to keep this, I means if but impossible now… will let the new maid go…think should not be problem coz now market shortage of maid…
Pink,
I will go with hb and the kids, no way to leave my kids here…we are a package
Ur SIL situation is diff, guess she worried abt the medication of the daughter if anything happen… the not so advance compare to Singapore
I hear from my ex-colleague, her hb is regular in air force being send to US for training for two years, spouse is compulsory to go with and they need to sign contract to stay there thought the training, got quite good pay and allowance every month to be taitai there…everyday shopping and play MJ nia…it a dream of many of us
Joelle,
Yes, he want to provide us but in wrong way…
I used to be a strong women, be it at home or at work….I say no mean no, nobody can change my mind…but seems like I become more weak after having kid….or maybe getting age…sometime I wanna be xiao nv ren…I want him to be the ‘boss’ at home that everyone scare of him…a man that can lead the house…but he is opp…he is soft to everyone exclude me…
I try to find back the old me…be strong and firm…but we have been quarrelling over maid issue since the ex-maid…out recent topic if mostly on maid…I’m tired abt this… tent to give in if possible…I know it not right but I really don’t want to sour our relationship coz of this…I ever told him I don’t want a maid…the most I send Elisha to full/half day CC tho I she bu de…but he rejected the idea…
Pink,
Yes Librian…3 days diff
I don’t like to make imp decision, maybe I cant accept wring judgement ba…I will fault myself and zhuan niu jiao jian…