i find this very interesting and so TRUE! Haha?..
11.05pm, guy and gal were chatting happily, when guy uncontrollably yawns
Bad example
gal: (sounding out): you feeling sleeping??
guy: yeah, tired from work...
gal: (sounds concern): ok, shan't disturb u, go and sleep lah
guy: ok, you have an early nite too.. (hangs up the phone. 5 mins later, phone rings. Awaken by the phone rings)
guy: hello?
gal: .............
guy: who's this?
gal (feeling unjust): you felt very bored by me is it?
guy (confused): huh? what?
gal: .............
guy: why? what happened?
gal: you find me very bore is it?
guy: bore? why you said this??
gal: ...............
guy: what's the matter? how i would know if you dun say it out?
gal: we are chatting halfway, and you yawn, and went off to sleep...
guy: b...but, you are the one who ask me to go to sleep...
gal: you already said want to sleep already, what else u want me to say?
guy: haiz... if you wanna chat, just say so... what for tell me to go sleep, and feeling unhappy in the end?
gal: since when i'm unhappy?
guy: isn't this unhappy? ok ok, i won't sleep the next time, will that do?
gal: what's the point? i want you to chat with me willingly, and not because afraid that i will be unhappy...
In the end, the guy spend another 25 minutes comforting the gal. Actual sleep time is 11.40pm, plus the earlier argument, he did not have a good sleep. What worse is the gal may argue the same thing again the next day.
Good Example
gal (sounding out): you feeling sleepy?
guy (tired vocal, but sound interested): abit, tired from work. but you have not finished talking, carry on, i will be listening.
gal (felt consoled): orh, but since you are tired, go and sleep then (still sounding out)
NEVER fall into the trap and hang up the phone
guy: there's no afternoon break today, indeed more tiring. how abt i give u a call tomorrow morning. let's chat awhile more ok? (tells the reason,
and offer make up measure)
gal: oh ok. go and sleep now, you must be tired. (gal is willing to let guy go sleep, but guy must do a bit more than this)
guy: so what time you are going to sleep?
gal: not sure, probably a bit later.
guy: ok, but not too late, not good for health. i will be heart pain one hor...
gal (feeling loved): ok lah...
guy: i love you the most! (even if eyes are shutting also must remember to say this important words, else all effort wasted)
gal: i loved you too, have a good rest! (happy till can float liao)
guy: ehmm...
gal: hang up the phone
In the end, 11.10pm. guy sleep peacefully, and probably a morning call from gal the next day...
Conclusion 1
Female wants feeling and care. most of the time, FEMALE'S LOGIC CANNOT BE FIGURED OUT WITH A REASONING MIND.
Conclusion 2
Say a few more touching words, concerning lines. Will save you more mins/hrs of precious time, instead of arguing.
Conclusion 3
when encounter the above situation, must always let the gal hang up the phone first. Or else it will be disastrous...
Conclusion 4
If your gf isn't like the one in the example, then congrats to u! Treasure her! Otherwise, dun accuse her of being unreasonable. what
she wants is very simple ? to be loved.