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i started planning 4 #2 when gabe was 7-8mths old. despite TBFg, my menses came back when gabe was 6mths old. like ur husband, my husband has e same tots. juz hv a #2 quickly n get it over n done wif. anyway, when old folks c u wif 2 kids of such close age gap, e universal phase they'll say is "it's tough in these 1st few yrs but 2 kids grow up tgt so it'll b 'si-nang' 4 u later on"
wat e old folks said makes sense n it's also partly me & my husband's decision 2 hv kids wif <2yrs age gap. i dun like a big age gap cos i cant imagine gabe being 3-4yrs old n i hv 2 go thru all tat nappy-changing, washing & sterilising bottles, BFg all over again.
husband n i tried for abt 6-7mths then i preggie. by then gabe was 14mths old when i knew i was 5wks preggie. i was still BFg then n based on gynae's strict instructions, i had 2 wean gabe off. it was VERY TOUGH cos gabe never drank fr a bottle since he was 2mths+ n he dun fancy FM. tat again is another long story on how i wean him off
as 4 BFg during pregnancy, it all depends on e mummy. it's perfectly fine 2 BF while being preggie BUT ur gynae need 2 assess ur condition. 4 me, my gynae didnt allow me 2 BF bcos gabe was a premature bb, who popped at 35wks (my water bag burst). i was intending 2 BF gabe thru my pregnancy but my gynae said NO NO cos he feared tat my BFg may bring abt contractions in e womb. so bo pian, i stopped BFg then. i still remmeber e date when i stopped.
it was indeed tough in e 1st & last trimester cos i was puking, very tired in e 1st trimester (like all mummies lah). right when i weaned gabe off in early dec, it was also when he started 2 walk independently (as in able 2 walk without holding pp's hands - u'll understand wat i mean by tis when time comes 4 jay 2 walk). so lagi more siong cos gabe suddenly had like newfound freedom 2 explore e hse n everywhere we go (i not e type 2 stay home on wkends and wkdays). the worst is bcos u r preggie, ur kid can sense it (according 2 old folks lah) n bcomes more clingy, more ley chey 2 handle, more difficult. it was true. no fun at all in e 1st trimester.
it was a breeze in e 2nd trimester. i dun feel tired, had lotsa energy n i was still bringing gabe out almost every other day fr mon-fri n bringing him 2 activities on wkends. of course tummy was growing so it became kinda difficult 2 carry a 10kg+ tod. i've learned 2 carry him sideways n i used e sling when i go out wif him.
in e last trimester, rather siong cos belly rather big (edward's a bigger bb than gor gor) n gabe was more active. i even brought him 2 a term in GUG (abt 8wks) n handled him thru out the 1.5hrs class (tat was a killer cos gabe couldnt sit still in e class n i had 2 run after him in e class - wait til u send jay 2 such classes, u'll understand y it is tiring 4 a preggie 2 run after a cant-sit-still toddler. hard 2 explain how e class mechanics works)
thru out my pregnancy, i had 2 toilet train gabe (tat is bend down 2 clean up his pee/poo puddles, change him, etc), make sure he gets his 'education' by learning stuff, handle his nite feeds, bathe him, etc - aiya basically handle him like usual lor.
in conclusion, tiring BUT definitely worth it. esp when i c boys playing tgt now n each of them bringing me unlimited amt of joy, sorrow n pain everyday.
pai seh, very lor soh