(2006/07) JULY 2006 MTB
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markashira
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mummies. .
is it save to give iceream to infant? my SIL always feed my son when I come over to her shop? I dare not to stop her. .
is it save to give iceream to infant? my SIL always feed my son when I come over to her shop? I dare not to stop her. .
kin
huh? ur maid is scary. seems tat u dun hav much luck in getting a good maid. my new maid is very good and patient in taking care of my son. my son likes her very much.
My hubby helps watever he can. he's the one responsible for packing the bag when we go out. The funny thing is I employ a maid whose service I can't use. She helps my mum and look after my son at her house. My hubby doesn't like to have a maid around so guess wat? he does all the housework. I very tired with taking care of my boy tat i really dun hav the extra energy to help him. yeah, sometimes i oso look forward to weekdays cos my free nites are on tue and thur when my mum will help me to take care of my children at nite. Then i can go out and play tennis or bowling wif my colleagues or catch a movie wif my hubby on these days. Luckily i have my mum who is very willing to help me. I LOVE MY MUM!
huh? ur maid is scary. seems tat u dun hav much luck in getting a good maid. my new maid is very good and patient in taking care of my son. my son likes her very much.
My hubby helps watever he can. he's the one responsible for packing the bag when we go out. The funny thing is I employ a maid whose service I can't use. She helps my mum and look after my son at her house. My hubby doesn't like to have a maid around so guess wat? he does all the housework. I very tired with taking care of my boy tat i really dun hav the extra energy to help him. yeah, sometimes i oso look forward to weekdays cos my free nites are on tue and thur when my mum will help me to take care of my children at nite. Then i can go out and play tennis or bowling wif my colleagues or catch a movie wif my hubby on these days. Luckily i have my mum who is very willing to help me. I LOVE MY MUM!
noif
last time my frens asked me go out clubbing...cos hb oso always go play mahjong or drinking wif frens...i told hb i wanna go clubbing..he just said go loh...wah piang...i told my frens...they said cos he knew i wont do anything...like dancing with guys...becos no guyys will asked me to dance...pengz!!!!!
last time my frens asked me go out clubbing...cos hb oso always go play mahjong or drinking wif frens...i told hb i wanna go clubbing..he just said go loh...wah piang...i told my frens...they said cos he knew i wont do anything...like dancing with guys...becos no guyys will asked me to dance...pengz!!!!!
markashira
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eeyore
my SIL have been married for 8yrs but no kid yet,she told me that her friend to do so. .I will ask my HB to stop her feeding my son icecream
my SIL have been married for 8yrs but no kid yet,she told me that her friend to do so. .I will ask my HB to stop her feeding my son icecream
hong
Active Member
NOIF,
share leh. then we know if ur method works on some of the hubbies here.
Pooh,
he said the samething. I asked how come his frds so unreasonable and mine always let me go early. he said my frds n his are diff. fuming or not.
worse part is he told me that I am a women and my duty is to stay at home and look after kids.
I told him I dun live under his mercy, i own my own $$, i give bacon to the family. He got no right to tell me that.
He wanna patch back but wun agree to my term. I said ur frds more impt than family. Wat can i say? Till now u still dun agree with it.
share leh. then we know if ur method works on some of the hubbies here.
Pooh,
he said the samething. I asked how come his frds so unreasonable and mine always let me go early. he said my frds n his are diff. fuming or not.
worse part is he told me that I am a women and my duty is to stay at home and look after kids.
I told him I dun live under his mercy, i own my own $$, i give bacon to the family. He got no right to tell me that.
He wanna patch back but wun agree to my term. I said ur frds more impt than family. Wat can i say? Till now u still dun agree with it.
hi mummies!
Kin, so scary! thank god your ger is ok.
Speaking of tragedy, my ex colleague passed away suddenly. He 29 only...got a 18mth old DD and wife expecting another one...very sad. He came back from jog, breathless then collapsed. Died on the way to hospital. Dun think I can survive if I'm in his wife's shoes. sigh....
PM,
my hb is the one who packs the bag. he more particular then me... so i will change my boy while he packs the bag.
MY,
are you taking the direct flight to either LA or NYC? then transit from there? I find that less stops, then less jet lag, coz can sleep more. Think your baby will definitely suffer some jetlag coz US is exactly opp timezone from ours. Can start adjusting his sleeping times to the take off time so that it will be easier on him. Be prepared that shipping my take up to 8 weeks to arrive. We encountered delays when I moved there. Think for getting stuff, Target should have everything you need for the home and bb and relatively cheap too.
YB, Kloe,
Oh no, dunno how I going to survive when my hb going on biz trip in Feb....think i will be super depressed...
peach,
brought my son to church since after confinement. he likes the noisy environment. Your church got nursing / mummy's room? You can be there if you worried your ger will scream. Or what we do is we sit near the door, if my boy shows signs that he going to make noise we bring him out.
Kin, so scary! thank god your ger is ok.
Speaking of tragedy, my ex colleague passed away suddenly. He 29 only...got a 18mth old DD and wife expecting another one...very sad. He came back from jog, breathless then collapsed. Died on the way to hospital. Dun think I can survive if I'm in his wife's shoes. sigh....
PM,
my hb is the one who packs the bag. he more particular then me... so i will change my boy while he packs the bag.
MY,
are you taking the direct flight to either LA or NYC? then transit from there? I find that less stops, then less jet lag, coz can sleep more. Think your baby will definitely suffer some jetlag coz US is exactly opp timezone from ours. Can start adjusting his sleeping times to the take off time so that it will be easier on him. Be prepared that shipping my take up to 8 weeks to arrive. We encountered delays when I moved there. Think for getting stuff, Target should have everything you need for the home and bb and relatively cheap too.
YB, Kloe,
Oh no, dunno how I going to survive when my hb going on biz trip in Feb....think i will be super depressed...
peach,
brought my son to church since after confinement. he likes the noisy environment. Your church got nursing / mummy's room? You can be there if you worried your ger will scream. Or what we do is we sit near the door, if my boy shows signs that he going to make noise we bring him out.
orangecloud
New Member
Jul04,
Hep B jab wont have fever cos my ger just took, confirmed with d nurse liao
Hep B jab wont have fever cos my ger just took, confirmed with d nurse liao
Hong
If my hubby tell me tat, i will box him real hard. I mean we are not housewives leh(err..no offence to SAHM)! We work to help support family leh. It's not as if we depend on them. Even if we are SAHM, we are entitled to a break too rite?
For SAHM, is it difficult to get money from ur hubbies to buy things?
There was once when I was not working for abt 4 months. I was using my own money to do my own shopping. Wah, my hubby was nagging at me, said I still spending lavishly since i was not working. Just imagine, kenah scolded for spending my own money.
If my hubby tell me tat, i will box him real hard. I mean we are not housewives leh(err..no offence to SAHM)! We work to help support family leh. It's not as if we depend on them. Even if we are SAHM, we are entitled to a break too rite?
For SAHM, is it difficult to get money from ur hubbies to buy things?
There was once when I was not working for abt 4 months. I was using my own money to do my own shopping. Wah, my hubby was nagging at me, said I still spending lavishly since i was not working. Just imagine, kenah scolded for spending my own money.
Hi all mummies!
peach:
i just started to bring my girl to church. she is quite well behaved. maybe because i carry her. she can't go for the evening mass, she will scream her head off... think cus its close to her sleeping time.
kloe:
my blk is brand new. just opp queens condo.
oh the flowers that cait got was given by my aunt. Apparently she said its gd for her to explore different texture n the colours are so vibrant plus the classical music so will stimulate her mind. well i trust her cus she is taking her PHD in childhood. haha
I saw the flowers at toys r us at vivocity. Not sure if they have it at other outlet cus i didnt see them at forum nor suntec.
peach:
i just started to bring my girl to church. she is quite well behaved. maybe because i carry her. she can't go for the evening mass, she will scream her head off... think cus its close to her sleeping time.
kloe:
my blk is brand new. just opp queens condo.
oh the flowers that cait got was given by my aunt. Apparently she said its gd for her to explore different texture n the colours are so vibrant plus the classical music so will stimulate her mind. well i trust her cus she is taking her PHD in childhood. haha
I saw the flowers at toys r us at vivocity. Not sure if they have it at other outlet cus i didnt see them at forum nor suntec.
sandy,
i dunno how his wife is....i only found out about it after the wake, when i was flipping the papers. my ex colleagues din tell me about it coz they think not good for me to go with baby. i still in shock abt it till today. but my friend told me that the whole family in shock, still cannot accept it coz so sudden.
yenny,
no problems with money issues. coz we settled on how we will handle money and we merged our accounts into one after marriage. only thing is, i feel weird every time i buy hb pressie...he'll knoe exactly how much it is. hahaha
i dunno how his wife is....i only found out about it after the wake, when i was flipping the papers. my ex colleagues din tell me about it coz they think not good for me to go with baby. i still in shock abt it till today. but my friend told me that the whole family in shock, still cannot accept it coz so sudden.
yenny,
no problems with money issues. coz we settled on how we will handle money and we merged our accounts into one after marriage. only thing is, i feel weird every time i buy hb pressie...he'll knoe exactly how much it is. hahaha
jul04
nowadays alot of these kinds of stuff...sleep suddenly cant wake up..go ecercise suddenly passed out and died...my uncle 2005 oso went jogging suddenly breathless then fainted...reached hosp an hr later died liao...we all so damn shocked especially after i rceived a call from his younger son..after midnite...said his dad passed away..i still ask him not to joke ...think now oso sad manz..cos he was a very nice man..isaac's fav uncle..too bad....if he is still ard....he will loves ian very much...even his kids said that...lucky thing is..he had his kids early age..so his 2 boys now elder one already 25..the younger one 23 this yr
nowadays alot of these kinds of stuff...sleep suddenly cant wake up..go ecercise suddenly passed out and died...my uncle 2005 oso went jogging suddenly breathless then fainted...reached hosp an hr later died liao...we all so damn shocked especially after i rceived a call from his younger son..after midnite...said his dad passed away..i still ask him not to joke ...think now oso sad manz..cos he was a very nice man..isaac's fav uncle..too bad....if he is still ard....he will loves ian very much...even his kids said that...lucky thing is..he had his kids early age..so his 2 boys now elder one already 25..the younger one 23 this yr
Mummies,
I very sad leh.. I wrote e-mail to my HB telling him why i am so frastrated & unhappy with him ever since BB born. He seem like nothing got into his brain leh. Remember i told u all that he was violent? He just apologies by saying sorry and think everything is back to normal. ( started to try get physical close with me.) Guess what ? I told him off, and say " Don't use your DIRTY hands thatyou use to beat me to touch me." He really think he is RIGHT. I think my mother and other people who never hear the side of my story think i am an very BAD women ( fierce and unreasonable). I always keeps quiet whenever he complain to people about me , this and that. Feel like SLAPPING HIM.
I very sad leh.. I wrote e-mail to my HB telling him why i am so frastrated & unhappy with him ever since BB born. He seem like nothing got into his brain leh. Remember i told u all that he was violent? He just apologies by saying sorry and think everything is back to normal. ( started to try get physical close with me.) Guess what ? I told him off, and say " Don't use your DIRTY hands thatyou use to beat me to touch me." He really think he is RIGHT. I think my mother and other people who never hear the side of my story think i am an very BAD women ( fierce and unreasonable). I always keeps quiet whenever he complain to people about me , this and that. Feel like SLAPPING HIM.
dsii,
ya lo...very sad. told my hb and dad cannot exercise immed. after they recover from sickness. dun play play. think abt my ex colleague's wife so sad...i even attended their wedding. sigh...told my hb if i'm her then i si3 le3 suan4 le3. cannot imagine giving birth without him ard...then he scold me....must think about the children. sigh....life is so fragile.
ya lo...very sad. told my hb and dad cannot exercise immed. after they recover from sickness. dun play play. think abt my ex colleague's wife so sad...i even attended their wedding. sigh...told my hb if i'm her then i si3 le3 suan4 le3. cannot imagine giving birth without him ard...then he scold me....must think about the children. sigh....life is so fragile.
Sandy,
Sad to hear your side of the story...
Did your hb did that to you again after that? What happened that caused him to act so violently?
Usually such behaviour all act in a cycle. he began to be violent (abuse) you, then apologise, "honeymoon" period then it will start all over again with the violence.
To break this cycle, its best both of you seek professional help.
Sad to hear your side of the story...
Did your hb did that to you again after that? What happened that caused him to act so violently?
Usually such behaviour all act in a cycle. he began to be violent (abuse) you, then apologise, "honeymoon" period then it will start all over again with the violence.
To break this cycle, its best both of you seek professional help.
Women always have the tendency to think that men will change after what he has done to you... but how often than not do we see that?
we only give excuse that yeah he will understand us better after email, he's not the type to express. but its best to hear it straight from him. have a heart to heart talk with him.
Email may not be that effective a way for communication.
we only give excuse that yeah he will understand us better after email, he's not the type to express. but its best to hear it straight from him. have a heart to heart talk with him.
Email may not be that effective a way for communication.
THen u 2 should try out the professional help!
its really a vicious cycle and hard to break without intervention. its only when the two of u sit down calmly and talk it through.. then the problem will be solved.
Talking about which, i must get my hb for a marriage retreat! haha its gd for couples
its really a vicious cycle and hard to break without intervention. its only when the two of u sit down calmly and talk it through.. then the problem will be solved.
Talking about which, i must get my hb for a marriage retreat! haha its gd for couples
Ylc,
if talking works then i no need to write. I think is his family back ground. Everyone in the family trys to protect themself. All very calculative and $$ minded. $$ and self benefits comes above others (Self-fish). Everyone live in their own world. I was very shock and surprise that they do not have CNY dinner at all until recent year then started to have...very bonded on the outside but distance inside. This is what i concluded after my customary incident.. haiz...
if talking works then i no need to write. I think is his family back ground. Everyone in the family trys to protect themself. All very calculative and $$ minded. $$ and self benefits comes above others (Self-fish). Everyone live in their own world. I was very shock and surprise that they do not have CNY dinner at all until recent year then started to have...very bonded on the outside but distance inside. This is what i concluded after my customary incident.. haiz...
ylc,
what a sweet husband u have. I hint or ask directly he will reject or keep quiet.My christmas gift.. i buy then claim from him. haiz..
The couselor called me but don't know whether they called him too. I am giving up on him already. Maybe our marriage is a WRONG move in the first place. Now with baby, make the wrong move even worst.
what a sweet husband u have. I hint or ask directly he will reject or keep quiet.My christmas gift.. i buy then claim from him. haiz..
The couselor called me but don't know whether they called him too. I am giving up on him already. Maybe our marriage is a WRONG move in the first place. Now with baby, make the wrong move even worst.
sandy,
these are excuses. if he really wants to solve this problem or situation, he would go all out to solve it despite his background and character.
if this problem is not resolved, its like a thorn in your flesh.
seen so many case examples. professional help is the way out to solve your problem.
these are excuses. if he really wants to solve this problem or situation, he would go all out to solve it despite his background and character.
if this problem is not resolved, its like a thorn in your flesh.
seen so many case examples. professional help is the way out to solve your problem.
Sandy,
Did your counsellor advice you what to do?
the best is to sit down together with your counsellor/psychologist and talk it through.
If you really give up on him, you would have left but you stayed on so it means you have not gave up on him. In a marriage, both have to compromise. its not leading an individual life anymore but having someone in your life and time to accommodate to each other.
Did your counsellor advice you what to do?
the best is to sit down together with your counsellor/psychologist and talk it through.
If you really give up on him, you would have left but you stayed on so it means you have not gave up on him. In a marriage, both have to compromise. its not leading an individual life anymore but having someone in your life and time to accommodate to each other.
liverpool11
New Member
ylc,
I think let Sandy settle it with the counsellor. We are with her, but at the same time, we are only hearing one side of the story. Every household have their difficult moments. I am sure Sandy is in good hand with the counsellor to help mend the marriage for them as well as for the little one.
I think let Sandy settle it with the counsellor. We are with her, but at the same time, we are only hearing one side of the story. Every household have their difficult moments. I am sure Sandy is in good hand with the counsellor to help mend the marriage for them as well as for the little one.
liverpool11
New Member
Sandy,
Sorry if I offended you indirectly. But I always believe in hearing both parties before making a conclusion. All I can do is advise you on the options available to you. But at the end of the day, whichever path, it is really up to you.
Sorry if I offended you indirectly. But I always believe in hearing both parties before making a conclusion. All I can do is advise you on the options available to you. But at the end of the day, whichever path, it is really up to you.
peachsorbet
Member
yenny, I LOVE MY MUM TOO!!!! She always try to encourage my hubby n i to have our couple time n go out. n she very willing to take care of kristen. also, cos we only there during wkends, sometimes in the morning when kristen up so early... my mum will takeover! n let me n my hubby sleep in!!! hehe.. even tho she herself is busy working during weekdays.. LOVEEE MY MUMMY!
hong, ur hubby say ur friends n his friends different? what on eaaaarth. which century is he living in??? tell him in which signed document he has that says ur duty is this-n-that. nuts.
ylc & jul04 - ... hur.. maybe i will try.. when.. she's.. 8 mths old.. hehee.. church is no easy feat. then again, alot of kids there hor..
jul04, yah dunno what i'd do if my hubby not there when i giving birth. so sad so sad.
dunno how i'd cope also... *shudder* so alone..
hong, ur hubby say ur friends n his friends different? what on eaaaarth. which century is he living in??? tell him in which signed document he has that says ur duty is this-n-that. nuts.
ylc & jul04 - ... hur.. maybe i will try.. when.. she's.. 8 mths old.. hehee.. church is no easy feat. then again, alot of kids there hor..
jul04, yah dunno what i'd do if my hubby not there when i giving birth. so sad so sad.
misaryeo,
Must remember to feed your bb something when the plane take off and land cus the air pressure is quite great for a small bb.
of course crying is another way out but then quite stressful. when my bb cries i also feel like crying. like so sad haha
you are doing Toyko-LA route? quite troublesome cus gotta transit and regulations that Toyko gotta disembark for security reasons. So gotta pack and then later unpack...
Must remember to feed your bb something when the plane take off and land cus the air pressure is quite great for a small bb.
of course crying is another way out but then quite stressful. when my bb cries i also feel like crying. like so sad haha
you are doing Toyko-LA route? quite troublesome cus gotta transit and regulations that Toyko gotta disembark for security reasons. So gotta pack and then later unpack...
HEHE i guess as much...
Women likes to vent their frustrations by talking about the problems, they just want pple to hear them out not finding for solution. Cus by talking about their problems, they will eventually find a way out.
If women complain to men about their problems, they would just solve it for you or either that don't want to meddle with it.
oh well, that's just my two cents worth of opinion.
Women likes to vent their frustrations by talking about the problems, they just want pple to hear them out not finding for solution. Cus by talking about their problems, they will eventually find a way out.
If women complain to men about their problems, they would just solve it for you or either that don't want to meddle with it.
oh well, that's just my two cents worth of opinion.