wah liao... i wrote my 'advice' on #1 and #2, like nobody appreciate, but more interested on y i intend to send maid back .... ok, here's roughly why:
hubby rather anti-maid, he doesn't like maid to take care of kids, due to different way of thinking, etc. my maid can do housework, but not very automatic. prefers to play with isabel, sometimes even when hubby and me are around, she will play with her (at the same time watch tv). we expect her to do something else when we are around, we don't need 3 adult to take care of a toddler.
i heard of some stories from CL about what maid told her. eg, she told CL she doesn't like to eat bread and biscuits, like to eat what my mum buys for her (fried mee, lontong, etc). she told CL she is not scared of my mum, but me. she is with my mum most of the time, since she said that, very soon she won't listen to what my mum instructs her to do. in fact, we can see she is starting to be like that. she even asked my CL to do some washing which she is supposed to.
i getting fed up, plus the way i saw her handled isabel (i noticed it all along), i think it's time for her to go home.
since i cannot get a bbsitter for evan, we decided to get a replacement maid (no choice). actually, when the agent asked me why, i couldn't give her the exact reason, it's not so straight forward like she stole or what, just that the overall feeling, we don't feel good and comfortable on her.
i think having a maid changes our character. i learn that no point being too nice to maid. hate to be, but i guess i gotta be nasty and more strict to the new maid.
KC
i know that feeling... i felt i let isabel down last time, but seeing how happy she is now, i m ok oredi.