new year woes
i also have my grouses....
New Year Eve - Yingxin fell ill on new year eve with flu and fever, but we still have to attend the reunion dinner with hubby's extended family (about 20 of them)
While i was feeding her halfway, MIL just took her off without asking me and demanded that Yingxin greet the elders one by one around the table, I told MIL that can be done AFTER Yingxin finished her food, but MIL just ignored me!
before attending hubby's family reunion dinner, i brought Yingxin back to my mum's place and my mum kept nagging at me saying that I SHOULD give a BIG red packet to my PIL since they are helping me to take care of my daughter now that I have started working. in the past, i am jobless so i have excuses not to give. My mum said heed her advice and i will not go wrong - if i give red packet to PIL, it will make them very very very happy and they will be very very very very good to me and my daughter!! I rebutted her saying I dun need them to be good to me, so long MY HUBBY is good to me, that is enough!! and my PIL SHOULD be good to my daughter because she is their granddaughter!! I told my mum even if i were to give, PIL will not take from me, and by right, it should be my hubby who gives them, not me!! She said my hubby should give, and I SHOULD give too, otherwise, MIL would think that I am not a good daughter in law and that would reflect badly on my mum, meaning to say she did not teach me well on how to behave!! wah liao, what old thinkings!! i told her me and my hubby is one entity, and my hubby will take care of this, she doesn't have to worry about this. Instead, she blamed me for being stubborn and in turned blamed herself for not doing her duty as a mother to teach me the ways of being a daughter in law!! She said in the past, her MIL insisted that my mum give red packet every new year....but then again, my MIL also ill-treated my mum wat, all the talk about giving money will make them treat you well!! bullshit!!
my mum said if i got no money, she will contribute from her own pocket and give me the red packet so i can give to my PIL!! to which she really did and stuff it in my bag without my knowledge! only after i left the house, she called me up and told me about it! then she said when i give them the red packet, i must say nice nice things to them, as if i dun know!! who in the world give red packet and say bad things wan!!
anyway, the red packet is still in my bag lah....wonder how i should tell my mum about it???
1st day of new year, we were supposed to visit 5 places (all of MIL's family and relatives and friends), but because Yingxin is unwell, we were spared the house hopping and only went to 3! Yingxin was sneezing throughout the day and did not napped at all, so I kept reminding hubby we need to bring Yingxin to the doctor so he can convey the message to his mother, but his mother still insisted that we follow them around for visiting (cos hubby drives and they can have free transport!!)
they even made stupid suggestions that we can dun go up the house, but sent them there and wait for them to come down after visting - which could last at least an hour!! i showed my displeasure to hubby and luckily he did not give in to his mother, told her that we need to leave right after dropping them off!
2nd day - went to pick up hubby's family to visit yet another of their relative's house for dinner, when they got in the car, MIL kept asking Yingxin to greet her and Yingxin did....shortly after, MIL asked again, not once but several times. But Yingxin just kept quiet and MIL said my daughter is very stubborn!!
dinner started at 6pm and we finished at 8 plus. MIL was yakking away till 10 plus then we were able to leave
upset with my hubby too - I told my hubby that Yingxin is tired and need to rest, maybe we can leave first and PIL can catch a cab home themselves; but hubby quite relunctant to leave, said to wait for them! he even suggested that he send us home to sengkang first then come back to bishan to pick up his parents and brother and send them back home to joo chiat then he will come home!!