Support group - Miscarriages

[happysunflower]

bluebells,
I did biomedical engineering for my masters. Then for my PhD, it's engineering (fluids, optical, aerospace) in UK. Yes, I was on scholarship. From what I see, it's not worth doing a PhD without a scholarship and having to pay on your own. PhD is cheap labour, you know. Maybe your hubby can take a look at University College London. If your hubby has at least a second upper, he can apply scholarship from AStar or EDB. It's not very difficult to obtain, and they look at the honours. Getting a scholarship for a foreigner in the UK is not easy, and usually lower pay than the angmos if can get it. I got my scholarship from a company, so my pay is better than some of my peers

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[happysunflower]

Have both of you consider about the timeframe? A PhD path is not going to be an easy one. Your hubby will need a lot of support from you along the way. I have friends who are pursuing PhD and are a few years older than me (reaching 35 in 2 - 3years) put on hold to their family planning. It's worse if get stuck. It's common to get stuck in a PhD. It's not like in Singapore where you die die must finish in 3 years. Or your supervisor will die die make sure you finish in 3 years. It's not like that in the UK. I have colleagues who took as long as 7 years!

 

[chime68]

<font color="0077aa">Gd day ladies,</font>

Tis morning a bit bz with work.

Hmm...last nite tested OPK - faint positive. Today got a tiny bit of spotting. I think ovulation is ard the corner right?? I was told to BD the next few days once I see a strong positive on OPK. Tonite test again see whether if there's a strong positive or not. Not easy....so stressful...keep telling myself to relax, but how to leh.....

 

[happysunflower]

qwer...
It's really not easy to relax when doing all the tests and the sinseh said you O-ing. If the test line is lighter than the control line, it's not considered positive... The test line and control line gotta be the same color or darker test line then can consider positive... When you see positive OPK, will have to BD asap within 24 - 48hrs le...

 

[chime68]

<font color="0000ff">Lyn,</font>
Ok thanks. So I've to wait till the test line is as dark as the control line. Aiyoh

.....your 'asap' sounds very kan cheong le.....hee....hee....

 

[happysunflower]

hahaha... qwer... sorry sorry... Just BD when you get home on the day you see the dark line. Best if you already BD on the nite before you see the dark line... cos when the egg come out, already got sperm eagerly waiting around there to penetrate... hahaha..

 

[bluebells]

qwer,
we r all getting excited 4 u...

Bring out the music... let the wine flow...Take out the most sheer of all lingerie u have... hee hee..
[hope u dun mind, just trying to help create a more relax environment, than u keep thinking of stress by BD].

 

[bluebells]

lyn,
yah, agreed. PHD not worth doing it on self-sponsor. tat's y looking around (tho not actively yet). I did ask if he wan go bak UK 2 do, but he prefers if can do here.

but we find that it's not easy also to get an overseas scholarship. they usually give to their locals first.

hmmm.. sure hv 2 delay starting family if that's the case. in fact, i cannot b out of job also, cos phd pay is miserable.

tks 4 the info.

 

[kellylims]

Afternoon ladies...

qwer, don't be stress,,, relax.... many many many good luck for you during the long weekend.

 

[happysunflower]

bluebells,
If your hubby can get into NTU or NUS for PhD, automatic will have scholarship. Though the scholarship is miserable, but there's teaching opporunities that pay $40 per hour plus CPF. Scholarship was 2.2k when I did my masters. It's not so bad for me and I get to teach also...
I went to the UK for PhD is because my undergrad and masters already in Singapore... I was given a choice then, but I chose UK cos it's "overseas" experience... I feel that our local Universities are good cos we have funds for new equipment. I have paid a high price to go to the UK... cos if I have continued my masters topic, I would only need one to two more years to graduate and do something I really like...
Have a look at AStar's and EDB's website for overseas scholarship. It's not as difficult. Good luck!

 

[bluebells]

lyn,
Is the scholarship an automatic thing if can get into NUS or NTU?
cos i tot must apply 4 NUS/NTU 1st. And if granted a place, need not necessarily mean can get the scholarship. That's y hb didn't try. Tks. will hv a look.

 

[chime68]

<font color="aa00aa">Hi ladies,</font>

Thank you ladies for 'creating' such a suitable environment for me,

keke....ok, ok, will Jia You!

Btw, also baby dust to u all too!!

My voice still coarse. Juz now lunch time walk out for lunch, sun so strong....now

headache. 1 of my colleague (abt 50 yr old uncle) said I'm like a 'little flower' , sun &amp; rain also can't take it.

Then he started to nag &amp; nag...aiyoh...I switch off my ears.

Btw, I've completed knitting the scarf

(at last!) But my cardigan still hasn't completed yet... At least the scarf I can send it to my fren in oversea now.

 

[hamasaki]

halow ladies, Good afternoon.. Its Friday today..


All the best to U qwer.. Dun stress hor.. try to relax ur mind and body and think of other happy things than babies..

Hope U strike soon..

hahahahha Lyn, U're so funnie.. Trying to compete with that guy slower than U in swimming..

 

[kellylims]

hi gals, where to get so many cute icon to post??? mountain turtle abit...

 

[chime68]

<font color="119911">Hey Hamasaki,</font>
I like ur that icon - lying down &amp; LOL! Very cute!

Thanks....hey...u all dun give me pressure leh, keke....I dare not hope much....cos physician ever told me that my egg quality sometimes no good....so I think even if I ovulate &amp; BD, maybe also won't strike. Leave it to fate. If have, good lor, if don't have also can't help it. <font color="aa00aa">Right gals??</font>

 

[chime68]

<font color="0077aa">Pochacco,</font>
I juz browse thro other threads when I'm free &amp; when I happened to see cute icons, I'll save it lor...

 

[hamasaki]

Can can qwer..We will jia you for U..


all TTC gals, let's work hard together to achieve our Target.. Baby Dust to all

 

[kellylims]

ya ya ya... everyone """JIA YOU"""

 

[happysunflower]

qwer,
You knit in office? Aiyo... the uncle, one ear in one ear out can already... Lot of baby dust to you

Hope you will get positive OPK this long weekend...

hamasaki,
I like that roll on floor laughing icon.. so cute.. hahaha...
It get a bit boring when swimming alone... And other guys all swim so fast... very demoralising. Now found some one slower than me... hahaha... more fun, and boost my confidence to swim more

next time will find someone who swim slightly faster than me.. then i will have the catching up...

qwer,
yalor.. if have then happy, if dun have, cannot force also.

 

[happysunflower]

aiyo.. my AF dunno want to come or not. I have been spotting since this morning after the ML session

haiz...

Anyway, I was surfing the web for bubur chacha recipe

This weekend cook for hubby

 

[happysunflower]

Lots of babydust to you gals...

 

[hamasaki]

hahahahhaha Lyn, I find that are a cute and funnie person..

thanks qwer and Lyn.. Yes, i do find the icon pretty cute and funnie..

 

[hamasaki]

Lyn, Maybe U wait for a little while and see if by this evening, Ur AF has arrive or not..

 

[chime68]

<font color="0000ff">Catch it liao....</font> thank u ladies for the baby dust. Let's work hard towards our 'goal' together!! Sprinkle bb dust to everyone!!

The more the merrier!!!

<font color="aa00aa">Lyn,</font>
I knit during lunch time....go home no time to knit liao... U really like swimming hor? If I ever swim, I'll take my own sweet time &amp; swim slowly ....I think swim slowly is an enjoyment &amp; relaxation....swim fast no stamina is one reason, 2nd reason out of breath easily, keke.... Btw, did u put on the cap? Since u swim so often, gotta protect your hair...

Wow....long weekend leh.....so happy!!!

 

[hamasaki]

yeah yeah

So many tons of baby dust ard.. Soon baby news will be flooding into this thread..


Wow, long weekends.. SO how U gals going to spend them..

 

[happysunflower]

hamasaki,
You had your lunch?

qwer,
It takes a while and some practice to swim faster. I swim fast cos I wan to really excercise and burn off the calories from all the potato chips and chocolates! haha...

I used to run as excercise... but now cannot already... so swim is the next best option

My hubby working tomolo till sunday

 

[hamasaki]

lyn, yup I had taken my lunch..

huh, its holiday and weekend, Ur hubby still got to work..

 

[bluebells]

hey, suddenly so many of u in here, never jio.

 

[bluebells]

hamasaki,
sat, my hb's family coming over 4 dinner.
sun, going out dinner with my family.
mon, HB leaves for UK.
haiz.. it's gonna be a sad, long wkend for me.
hope i dun cry buckets.

 

[hamasaki]

Bluebells, how long will ur hubby be going off to UK..

Pat pat sayang

, come and chat with us.. then U wun feel so lonely..

 

[happysunflower]

hamasaki,
I told my hubby it's Labour Day le... He said yalor labour day have to work

bluebells,
ur hubby going away for how long?

 

[hamasaki]

sayang sayang Lyn, then U will be quite lonely liao at home.. will U be going out or to ur mum's plc..

ur hubby is really very busy at work or is he a workholic..

 

[bluebells]

hee hee...
i say also shy... 1 month only lah.
But this is the 1st time after marriage that we are apart. Last time pak-tor time different mah. hee hee..

 

[hamasaki]

dun be shy shy bluebells.. i understand how U feel..

Me Last time when my hubby went for some overseas course for only 2 wks, both of us cried leh.. Each time he called me, both of us sure sob sob on the phone..

 

[bluebells]

hamasaki,
ur HB so loving one...
eh, don't think mine will cry. so far, he never one leh. only i cry everytime.
hmmm.. i think this time also no exception.

 

[chime68]

<font color="ff0000">Hamasaki, Lyn,</font>
My hubby also gotta work tomolo, Sun &amp; PH leh.... I'm used to it liao. Lyn u used to it?

<font color="119911">Lyn,</font>
Ya....really need time &amp; practise in order to swim fast. Remembered u hv back injury last time right? So swimming is the best exercise. I've knee problem....some of the soft bone wear out...doc also advised me to swim but lazy lah...must bring barang barang to public swimming pool.....so 'ma fan'.

 

[happysunflower]

hamasaki,
My parents will be leaving for Bali. I am not sure exactly when. Maybe I will stay at home and do my work lor...

bluebells,
If you dun wanna cry at the airport, send him to the airport and leave lor... haha... but sometimes "bu ren xing" la... When my hubby goes to UK and meet me, I will send him till Heathrow and take the train back... I dun see him to the gate. Like that wun cry so much lor... cos at Changi, we sure cry... but bobian cos my parents will be sending me off oso...

 

[happysunflower]

qwer,
Yalor... I cannot run already cos I will get backache after that, then gotta lie on bed to rest. I think better take care of your knee... cos it's a vital part to walk and move around...


I remembered I still gotta go to the UK for a few more months to graduate

I think I will "bu she de"

. Hubby's aunt was asking how he will cope with housework when I go over to UK...

 

[hamasaki]

bluebells, who knows.. maybe he will cried leh.. 1 mth not able to see each other.. sure miss each other like mad..


hi qwer, I'm lucky that my hubby is not working on weekends.. We have to go out to settle some things..


Hi Lyn, Okie sure.. stay at home and try to complete ur thesis asap.. If U're bored, can come to this forum 2 chat chat.. (hehehehhe)

 

[happysunflower]

later you all busy... I come in here chat to myself only le...

 

[hamasaki]

hahahahha Lyn, U can jio me to come in to chat with U.. Just tell me the time and when U be in..

If I can make it, will sure come in to yak with u..

 

[happysunflower]

hahaha... thanks hamasaki

 

[chime68]

Oh this long weekend will be bz as usual for me.... Bz cooking, preparing meals for my gal &amp; doing all the housework. When bz, u notice time flies super fast!

Half hr more to go &amp; I'll knock off liao. Njoy ur long weekends ladies....chat on Tue liao.

 

[hamasaki]

enjoy ur long weekends gals..

 

[happysunflower]

Enjoy your weekend with your gal gal, qwer..

 

[bluebells]

wah qwer,
u 5pm knock off one ah.. so good.

lyn,
if i am not working, i can't chat with you.
cos i at home no internet connection, tat's y u never see me log in on wkends or holidays.

 

[happysunflower]

It's ok.... I guess this weekend you will want to spend more time with hubby also

. I remember last time when I am back for holidays, my hubby will bochap his boss and wun work late and everyday knock off at about 8pm, then we can have dinner togather every nite... now... haiz... weekends also work.

 

[chime68]

<font color="ff0000">Hello, I'm here again!</font>

Juz pop in again to kpoh a bit b4 I log off my PC. I knock off 5pm on Fridays only. Other days will be 5.30pm.

<font color="0000ff">Thanks Lyn,</font>
Ur HB works but nite time still come home mah....so he still can accompany u at night. Read books or magazine if u feel bored. Else can go shopping lor....I long time never go shopping already

Ok, this time really gotta go....tata!!!

Njoy your long wkends!

 

[hamasaki]

Lyn, since u're hubby will be busy working these few days, then grab this time to do ur work.. Hope U're able to complete it soon, then U can fully relax and do other stuffs..

 

[happysunflower]

hamasaki,
Yalor... heh... later i will be going out