Hi,
Have been spending the whole day reading each of your stories. It reminds me of my baby girl, Micol Chan Tong En.
I lost my baby girl last week, which is at my 26th week pregnancy. Gals, kindly advise me what to do as my case is very different from you all. I personally feel that my gynae is responsible for the death of my girl.
On my routine visit on 25 Oct, my gynae detected that my gal's renal was dilated, he then refer me to a professor specialized in baby scanning in camden hospital. I visited the prof on 2/11 ( 23rd week) and was told that my girl was perfectly healthy. However, he detected that I had oligohydramnios, my amniotic fluid level was very low (4.4cm, whereas normal range is >11cm ) He said i may have premature delivery at week 28th, and need to monitor my fluid level closely. If it get worse, may need to do amnio infusion and had steriod injected to my girl at week 27th. The oligohydramniois is most likely due to the amniocentesis that i had at week 16th, which was attempted by my gynae twice to extract the fluid. I broke down after hearing this but the professor assured me that i can have my girl at week 28th and the chances of survival is very high. For your info, i quit my job in september and rest at home for my pregnancy.
I went back to my gynae three days later and past him the detail report. When i had asked him about my AFI ( average fluid index) on that day, he was not able to tell me clearly, he only mentioned that it was about the same. When i asked should i go back to the professor, he said he will liase with him.
One week later, i went to visit my gynae again. He told us confidently that i don't need to have amnio infusion after taking measurement of the growth of my baby. My baby still growing proportionally. He did not take the AFI measurement until i asked and he said it was about 8-9cm. ( I found out recently from the internet, the way he measure is incorrect )
Last Monday check up, I brought my MIL with me as my hubby has to work OT. Guess what, i still remember vividly, the moment i saw the scan, i couldn't see the heart beat, when he turned on the microphone, there was a complete silent. My girl was gone, she just stop breathing oneday. I couldn't believe this, another two weeks more, my baby could have survive. I was ready to welcome her in two week times, all her belonging are ready in case she was born earlier.
I had induce delivery last wednesday. She was so pretty, seems like a sleeping angel to me. We had cremated her and placed her in columbarium.
These days, i kept thinking, this mishap could have prevented if my gynae were more careful. He was aware of my oligoh but did not do a thorough check on each visit. My fluid level was actually getting lower each day, but he said the condition was improving. If the AFI was 8-9cm, how it can become so little in 3-4 days. My baby actually stop breathing in week 25th. Worse still, when i was detected with low AFI, why i wasn't admitted to hospital? My girlfriend encountered the same thing when she was in 25th week pregnant, she was in the hospital for 10 days and the baby had steroid injected. She is now a happy mum with two years old girl.
I didn't blame my gynae for the amnio even though it caused the fluid infection. I blame him for not checking on fluid level ever since he knew i had oligoh. If he had follow the professor's instruction closely, my baby might not die. Throughout my pregnancy, i kept telling him that my baby had very little movement, he did not suspect anything. I believe i had infection after the amnio, as the baby is small, she still can survive inside the womb. As time passby, my girl was getting bigger while the fluid level was decreasing. This explained why she had very little movement. Worse, he misled us by saying my condition was improved which the fact is opposite.
Till now, when i think of my girl, i felt so helpless. I would like to look into the bottom of this matter. Is there anywhere that i can seek legal advice from?
Please help. Thank you.