Glad another mummy refered me to this thread about MILs.
My husband kept bugging my MIL to stay with us...without consulting me. In the end, she really did, now 3 months down the road, I had a war of words with her..giving her a pc of my mind.
- She will keep scolding the maid non stop...picking on v. trivial or non existent matters
- She discriminate maids..
- She sits and watch TV for 15 hr a day on the couch..whole family cannot use the TV except her cos her butt in attached to the sofa
- She does not take care of my kids at all..she will only give ORDERS and commands people to do things
- She will fart, burp and say things like WAW LAU EYY....to my kids (kids will pcik up rite..???)
- She talks damn loud and rude to anyone
- When she lie and sit on my sofa, her feet always step on my sofa set. so Unhygienic.
Well...finally told her off i am unhappy of her stay here..ever since she been here, i had been depressed and hiding in my room.
She said she will move, I hope she means it..and soon.
Huge mistake my husband made is to lure her to stay with us.
I think my mil can be friend with ur mil......Glad another mummy refered me to this thread about MILs.
My husband kept bugging my MIL to stay with us...without consulting me. In the end, she really did, now 3 months down the road, I had a war of words with her..giving her a pc of my mind.
- She will keep scolding the maid non stop...picking on v. trivial or non existent matters
- She discriminate maids..
- She sits and watch TV for 15 hr a day on the couch..whole family cannot use the TV except her cos her butt in attached to the sofa
- She does not take care of my kids at all..she will only give ORDERS and commands people to do things
- She will fart, burp and say things like WAW LAU EYY....to my kids (kids will pcik up rite..???)
- She talks damn loud and rude to anyone
- When she lie and sit on my sofa, her feet always step on my sofa set. so Unhygienic.
Well...finally told her off i am unhappy of her stay here..ever since she been here, i had been depressed and hiding in my room.
She said she will move, I hope she means it..and soon.
Huge mistake my husband made is to lure her to stay with us.
Yes, both of them exactly the same. I been cooking dinner for the pass 2 weeks. She didn't even help me take care my daughter, just sit down there and watch tv only. When I cooking is one of aunty help me look after her. So yesterday I tell her straight, next week onwards I can't cook anymore. Cos school holidays finished, aunty need to work nobody help me take care of my daughter le.wivi: same plight.. There is always better happiness and harmoney when MIL not ard. My hubby and my relationship is actually better when she leaves, because we do the things we love to do..chit chat, talk abt anything under the sun...now we chi chat she will stand at dining table and listen. damn disturbing.
werry: less argument and disagreement is really a good thing...at least we as DIL can get our normal life back and normal life with husband...she behave like empress when she stays here.
simplegirl: good that ur hse will be ready soon, then no need to tolerate them anymore.
I cannot understand why MIL stay with us the are the visitors and should behave like visitors and not owners of house and employer of maid.
Kim: Haha...they are exactly the same...? seems like lot of MILs is like mine....
Im glad ive found tis thread...me still stayin wif pil...am counting down for my bto keys collection in a yr time or less. Dating time r/s okie..alrdy hv little complaints abt me...marriage worsen...mil call up my mum complaint abt me till my bro told me cos mum didnt tell me...pissed to e max...r/s wif mil worsen...totally not on talking terms totally stranger..cos mil curse on my dad go n die...which is my last draw...if scold me i can take it...but not my parents...plus alot of vulgar words on me..heng hubby sided me...cos our r/s was oso on rocks during tat time...now i dont greet or talk to pil...life is much better...
Sometimes I wonder if my mil is frm Hell.
Hubby and I are always quarrelling over her, and when we quarrel, she will sing song, like very happy!
It's been a tough 1 year, finally hubby agreed that we will move out - to save our marriage.
I know that if we continue staying together, they will say that I am in the wrong, I am picking on their mother.
If we move out, they will accuse me of convincing their brother to "desert" their mother, but if they are so filial, they shd invite their own mother to stay in their house..
i know that whatever that I do, in their eyes, I am still in the wrong..
I don't think after I step out of her hse, I will want to come back and visit her, even on CNY...and I don't intend to invite them over to my new hse too..
am I very petty?
my mum says that it will be gd if i can invite them over..just let bygones be bygones...
Gohalison: same thought...i dont wish to visit them once collected my bto keys...on e 2nd thought i feel sad for my hubby.. those yrs hv passed...it affected my health, work, r/s wif hubby went rocks bottom...mil even encourage hubby to divorce wif me...i pity hubby n fil..both r kind soul...
Yea.. Atleast invite her over if you don't want to. I did that too. She wanted to see her grandson and I cant take away her rights also. But atleast we are not staying together so I just close one eye.
Gohalison: same thought...i dont wish to visit them once collected my bto keys...on e 2nd thought i feel sad for my hubby.. those yrs hv passed...it affected my health, work, r/s wif hubby went rocks bottom...mil even encourage hubby to divorce wif me...i pity hubby n fil..both r kind soul...
Gohalison: lucky u not staying wif her anymore... Staying together indeed will cause more conflict, ur mil looking forward to see her other grandchildren cos all not staying wif her so if course need-less to say sure no conflict.. I always believe staying together will cause more conflict...
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Just learnt from hub that her rental lease will be up till next year feb cny. Hb will not allow her to rent out again else he says he will die first; we has been suffering for more than a year liao. Really cant take it anymore....
Let bygones...easier said than done. To me the hurt she has inflicted on the family can never be forgotten. Hence once she moves out, i believe i will never appear in hub family side functions etc. a lot say time will heal but i really unsure cos looking at the situation is already v suffocating n unbearable.
ya, counting down to moving out - next wk.
think she's also counting down to us moving out - cos she has plans to sell her flat - that was her 1st qn - "when can I sell my flat?" when hubby told her that we are moving out...
It is quite sad that becos of her, hubby's siblings stopped talking to us (including to my child) for more than a year...in their eyes, we are always wrong...we are always picking on their poor mother...
and so, I don't see the need on why we shd invite them to our house - when they have been giving us the cold shoulder for the past 1 year...
it's time to take my life back from the people that are causing us so much pain and making us unhappy...would like to close this chapter, and move on...
My case worst, all my hubby family, his dad,mum,bro, sister's bb all staying with us....I dun mind my pil staying with us but hate his bro staying with us.
When I was still in dating stage, his bro use his leg to touch my leg when we were sitting in the living room one day, at first I thot it juz accidentally but after I shifted my leg, he touch again!!! From that day onwards, I really start to dislike his brO.
After my hub and I Got married, they move in to stay with us as my mil cpf not enuff to cover her hdb instalment. You may ask why my bil cannot takeover the hdb loan instalments right? My bro was in the past not employed or can say he is too lazy to work...his Hp bill still need my sil to pay for him, while he was unemployed, he kept calling 1900 number to chat with gals, end up the bill my mil have to pay. But this is not why my bil cannot take over the hdb loan but my mil also know his eldest son thus she also not keen for my bil to takeover the hdb loan. She felt she pay so much then my bil takeover , pay so little then the flat is his...
Anyway, got once my bil go toilet then just kept the door ajar,I passed by and hear urining sound and told my hub, my bil overheard then claim soundly that he was washing his leg... PLS LA!!!! it different sound all together!!!!
Then he brought his gf back without informing us and even given OUR house keys to her!!! His gf also one kind, go ppl house, sit on the sofa like her house, put her stupid leg on my sofa (my sofa is white).
Same with some writers here, I began staying in my room only cos I am too sad to stay in the other part of my house. My white sofa become yellow but I agree it maybe time factor too. My storeroom and backyard full of babies items (not my babies).
Some times my mil changed my sil bb soiled diaper but forgot to throw it away and leave it in their room dustbin (imagine the smell!!!!)
All these while, I never quarrel with any of his family members cos I am just waiting for next year when I can finally have my house back, I will change all the furnitures) My pil will move to their daughter flat and sell their flat. My bil? Dunno and dun care, juz know that I will definitely not allow him to stay with us....
oic...so when her bto is ready, will she bring her baby back to tk care ? or still ur mil tk care and stay in ur hse ?
last time my SIL also approached my mil to tk care her baby and put baby in my house if mil can tk care...but I rejected her straight away cos I know their patterns...once she put baby at my house then it will be taking forever..even if they got their own hse, they also don't bother to bring baby home on weekends..they will go shopping on their own and leave baby with us..congrats next yr u can hv ur own hse back
Hi, yes pil will move to my sil hse. Thanks.oic...so when her bto is ready, will she bring her baby back to tk care ? or still ur mil tk care and stay in ur hse ?
last time my SIL also approached my mil to tk care her baby and put baby in my house if mil can tk care...but I rejected her straight away cos I know their patterns...once she put baby at my house then it will be taking forever..even if they got their own hse, they also don't bother to bring baby home on weekends..they will go shopping on their own and leave baby with us..congrats next yr u can hv ur own hse back
Mine also problem with the unmarked eldest son. Very Sian...i only see my in law once a week for few hours. they also can piss me off some times. Especially the unmarried sis...arrgghhh
Lucky my hubby is those very protective over my son....so when they offer him food or do something not right, he will nag at them.
Than i will 'pretend' to be the good person and try to smooth things out.
We been through huge quarrels from pak toh till marry. It's always his family his family and never about mine.
Now he improve alot, so i also respect his family more. Really need to see open lah. After all, got grandparents to dote on is not a bad thing.
They only see him for few hours once a week, so naturally they will just spoil him.
Cannot say for all but in some cases...i think if really no choice,some parents also won't want to stay with us.
Say if one of our parents pass away and than the other want to move in with u and your hubby reject, you also won't feel good right?