hi besides your expenses, does he give u money for your savings?
Yes..hi lynx,
besides paying all your expenses, does he give u extra money for your savings?
How about dining out also half half I mean when u with him eg go movie, dinner for 2, holiday? Parent allowances, cny ang bao, gifts for parents relatives all half half? Actually I also want to hear more from other mummies regarding such contributions.
If he encourages u to stay home look after kids then he shd know you won't have anymore income. On top of that, he has to cover your expenses too.Small amount purchases like movie purchases etc we take turns to treat each other. Long holiday trips are all half half. CNY angpao, gifts etc also all half half. He encourage me to take no pay or quit my job to take care of children at home. But where am I gng to find money to cover all these half half expenses if I don't work.
Small amount purchases like movie purchases etc we take turns to treat each other. Long holiday trips are all half half. CNY angpao, gifts etc also all half half. He encourage me to take no pay or quit my job to take care of children at home. But where am I gng to find money to cover all these half half expenses if I don't work.
Agree with u pyng.
Women wld feel more secure to be financially independent. Even husband gives, sometimes got to see their mood and face.
Yeah the financial issues causing a strain on our relationship. And the in law issues as well. So tired and draining.
Sometimes feel that if husband so calculative, why still want to bear children for him. Yet most of the time we feel that having more kids is a blessing.
Both my husband and I don't have individual savings. I don't get allowance from him. We contribute almost all our monthly salaries and bonuses into joint accounts and all family expenses, credit card bills, parents' maintenance etc are paid for using the joint accounts. Since he earns more than me, I guess effectively he's pay for a larger share of family expenses?
The amount that we allocate (or I should say I allocate) to both of us is dependent on the average spending needs of each pax. E.g. he gets $500 a month and I get $300 a month and all other amts get transferred to joint account on pay day. All credit card spending are already paid for by joint account....the few hundred dollars is just for cash spending so should be enough. I go through all credit card bills item by item every month. If I see extraordinary items that are not supported by a corresponding credit card slip, I'll ask him what the item is.That depends how individual expenses like imagine u spend a few hundred on monthly facial and he spend none of it?
Yah I think so too. Lately my hubby also told me better not have no.3 cos he actually wanted to have more kids. But the thought of me having go thru all the discomfort and pain of childbirth and to have u so calculative over all these money really makes me have second thoughts too.
Yah I agree we women need to work. I foresee mine will also show 脸色 when times come for me to get money from him. I am sure he will satisfy all my physiological needs but none of my wants. No more shopping in future . Will become 黄脸婆in time to come.
I am paying for the maid salary, and my prenatal checkups.
Whereas my hb pays for my 2 sons childcare which is around $2.2k.
And because we are staying with my mil, he gave her monthly household allowances.
He also pay for the car maintenance and our insurances too.
As for food and groceries, we usually take turns, sometimes I pay sometimes he pay.
But most of the time he pays.
So I guess my hb is contributing a larger share of the family expenses.
The amount that we allocate (or I should say I allocate) to both of us is dependent on the average spending needs of each pax. E.g. he gets $500 a month and I get $300 a month and all other amts get transferred to joint account on pay day. All credit card spending are already paid for by joint account....the few hundred dollars is just for cash spending so should be enough. I go through all credit card bills item by item every month. If I see extraordinary items that are not supported by a corresponding credit card slip, I'll ask him what the item is.
Yupe, he is indeed earning more than I do.
He is the one who wanted no.3.
Nothing changes, even if I have my 3rd kid.
I have only 1. I wish to have more but hsb not helping much. Sometimes money isnt everything tooWhat to do...that why i hope to hear from mummies on this thread see really most hub are calculative or only a few like me. Sighs!How many kids u have?
I have only 1. I wish to have more but hsb not helping much. Sometimes money isnt everything too
Hub no comment. He let me decide everything. But will see how. Partly also my age catching up. No time to waste.if hub not keen to have no.2 better remain
2 yo onlyHow old is ur kid Lynn?
Hub no comment. He let me decide everything. But will see how. Partly also my age catching up. No time to waste.
Ya been talking n he doesnt resist the idea of having no. 2. Cos my no. 1 is a micro preemie tats why i have my concern. Since i am the main caregiver, I am worried that i have to be hospitalised for a mth till delivery like my 1st birthin this case u can consider no.2 coz I feel having 2 kids better for such that the one has accompany and talk play about...like my 2 gals they cant stop playing, fighting and close to each other at least I feel glad that elder one can take care her sis when I not busy. Also very fun see them on certain acts make my day at times Besides u said age catching up, better plan soon. Of coz, all must be comfortable b/w u and ur hubby and really talk and discuss since u SAHM.
Ya been talking n he doesnt resist the idea of having no. 2. Cos my no. 1 is a micro preemie tats why i have my concern. Since i am the main caregiver, I am worried that i have to be hospitalised for a mth till delivery like my 1st birth
Note: my boy is a 26+3 weeker
Micro preemie means he is very premature. Born only abt 800gram.What is micro premmie.? Hospitalised why? Dun mind I probe....If you dun have other caregiver for no.2 maybe you have to wait one more year than consider as ur boy around 4 yr old when bb born...more or less he in child care and u can have more time with bb.
Micro preemie means he is very premature. Born only abt 800gram.
My waterbag broke at week23 n at verge of losing the baby. Luckily it stays in till 26 weeks n i delivered via emergency csec
Yes. Due to 1st bad experience, i am also concerned with the next pregnancy. Likely to be a premature again. Esp i just crossed the passing marks of 24 weeks. Any earlier, hospital doesnt want to resuscitate.oh gosh...ok sorry to hear that. Really glad everything ok.
Yes. Due to 1st bad experience, i am also concerned with the next pregnancy. Likely to be a premature again. Esp i just crossed the passing marks of 24 weeks. Any earlier, hospital doesnt want to resuscitate.