Need advice

[naeco]

Hi ladies, do ur hb watch porn? And what are ur thoughts?

 

[naeco]

appreciate any comments or advise, thanks!

 

[Sam771]

dont worry so much about it as long as he love u and u hv ok intimacy

 

[Mongkok]

Who nvr watch porn? What era liao..

U can ban him from anythg. Just fill up that gap. If can't, join him. If u are doing neither, u become a difficult person to live w.

Husband and wife liao... still stay naive ovr bedroom issue??

It's time to focus on your bonding w him.

Both are adults. If he really wans to act on anythg, u can't stop him.

Which is deadlier? Watching porn? Or EMA?

 

[naeco]

@Mongkok My hb and I had been married for 3 yrs plus. Shortly After our marriage, I discovered that he has been watching porn, worse Still at his work place. I shared my concern that I’m not comfortable with that, but we could watch it together. Why would anyone watch it at work? I can’t understand

He promised me that he won’t do it again. 2 yrs later, recently I found him looking at manga porn. He was on his desktop but quickly deleted his history in front of me, when I enter the room. I asked a few times but he doesn’t admit until later on. I felt very sad that he broke his promise and he lied to me. I will be more alright if he is upfront about it but no, he purposely want to hide from me. It is not the first time he lied to me, including other matters. It just make me feel that it’s hard to trust him. He said he’s just reading the porn for The fun of reading and to get a few ideas to rekindle our sex life. I don’t know whether to believe him or not.

right now we are not on v gd term due to this incident. I felt like really distant from him. It’s not just on the porn but I’ve trust issue with him, I felt like tired of being paranoid myself

pls advise if I think too much or if this is not a big deal?

 

[TazAngg]

Well, watching at porn is not healthy though. If he got caught, he may got sacked. Unless he own the company... But not a good image also. Anyway glad that he had stopped watching (or hope he have stopped) porn in office...

As for at home, I think still fine. Yes. Some men will watch to 'learn' some technique or how to spice up sex life. Each have their own preference on porn. Be it soft porn, hard porn, gay porn etc. So watching manga/hentai porn is normal also. Some drawings are quite nice also. I do also love manga/hentai porn at times.

Hmm. Maybe can talk to him again, that you also want to learn, to spice up sex life? So maybe can make him open up to watch with him. I know of some husband whom prefer to watch alone, as afraid their wife may mind about it, since got partner already, why still watch porn, that kind of mindset.

So I think probably try talk to him again. And hopefully both can watch together instead

 

[naeco]

thanks for the replies.

its honestly very tiring communicating with him. he just cant seems to be honest with me even after a few incidents and its very hurtful.

 

[myENV]

Office : Definitely not ok
Home : Ok, we usually watched together. Watching porn is ok as long as not overdo it.
I think you need to communicate and understand about your husband sexuality.

Google and read :
Website : psychologytoday.com
Titles : 1) Husbands watch porn, wives despair—but why?
2) Why do some women want their partner to stop watching porn?

 

[Mongkok]

@Mongkok My hb and I had been married for 3 yrs plus. Shortly After our marriage, I discovered that he has been watching porn, worse Still at his work place. I shared my concern that I’m not comfortable with that, but we could watch it together. Why would anyone watch it at work? I can’t understand

He promised me that he won’t do it again. 2 yrs later, recently I found him looking at manga porn. He was on his desktop but quickly deleted his history in front of me, when I enter the room. I asked a few times but he doesn’t admit until later on. I felt very sad that he broke his promise and he lied to me. I will be more alright if he is upfront about it but no, he purposely want to hide from me. It is not the first time he lied to me, including other matters. It just make me feel that it’s hard to trust him. He said he’s just reading the porn for The fun of reading and to get a few ideas to rekindle our sex life. I don’t know whether to believe him or not.

right now we are not on v gd term due to this incident. I felt like really distant from him. It’s not just on the porn but I’ve trust issue with him, I felt like tired of being paranoid myself

pls advise if I think too much or if this is not a big deal?

Ok. Addiction?

Whether it is too much a reaction depends on what's at stake.

Everyone watches porn. Oh.. well, at least a few times in their life time... unless u hv bn living in a well.

U can't stop an addiction merely through some word of promise. U may wan to 'get in' to get him out.

The more u catch the more he hides.

Acknowledge his addiction. Watch it w him. Along the way educate him on the consequences of getting caught watching it at workplace.

Thereafter, encourage him further by asking him to schedule his time to watch w u.. dont b negative. Keep an open mind while watching. It may spice up the relationship. Who knows?

As for trust issue... cut him some slack. he's ashame la... he basically has no other place to watch it.

On one hand u say no then on the other ask him to watching w u... abit confusing here.. so end of the day is u actually like him watching w u or u want him to stop??