Hi
I discovered my husband cheated on me the 3rd time.
1st time many years ago: he said he go jogging at night , in end I discovered he went meet a girl at park from WeChat. I now suspect maybe they went hotel..
2nd time in year 2015:
He during lunch time met a maid on wechat
They went hotel for paid Sex
3rd time discovered on 18th Feb;
He went for paid sex about 20 times or more if I unravel more - prostitutes from WeChat
Do you think I can still forgive him?
He is not rich
Has a normal income..
He had OCD (a kind of perfectionist character and keep checking his car for chips and fine hair line cracks etc)
He spends on his car to beautify it and Ensure perfection.
Me also normal income.
We have two kids age 6 and 7.
He explained that he have
-Sex addiction which is a condition and he needed treatment which we went to the doctor just 2 days ago..
He is taking medicine to curb his sex addiction behaviour..
He explained also that I am always busy and didn't want to engage in sexual intimacy with him. (We didn't have for about 1 +month)
But we constantly quarrel so I had no mood to sex with him.. Even so, in November December I do remembering having sex with him.. Why did he still go for paid sex then..
I am devastated as we also just bought a new house and everything seemed perfect with our two children...
What can I do?
I promised him I will have sex with him when he needs. Is this enough to curb him from going outside for paid sex?
Today I realise that his sex transactions increased to about 20 girls ranging from Vietnamese , China, Indonesian. Although I said forgive when he declared only 3 sex partners but I can't forgive at all now when the numbers grow to 20...
What should I do?
Should I forgive him?
Try to forget which is difficult
Or
Should I leave him so I won't get hurt anymore?
I discovered my husband cheated on me the 3rd time.
1st time many years ago: he said he go jogging at night , in end I discovered he went meet a girl at park from WeChat. I now suspect maybe they went hotel..
2nd time in year 2015:
He during lunch time met a maid on wechat
They went hotel for paid Sex
3rd time discovered on 18th Feb;
He went for paid sex about 20 times or more if I unravel more - prostitutes from WeChat
Do you think I can still forgive him?
He is not rich
Has a normal income..
He had OCD (a kind of perfectionist character and keep checking his car for chips and fine hair line cracks etc)
He spends on his car to beautify it and Ensure perfection.
Me also normal income.
We have two kids age 6 and 7.
He explained that he have
-Sex addiction which is a condition and he needed treatment which we went to the doctor just 2 days ago..
He is taking medicine to curb his sex addiction behaviour..
He explained also that I am always busy and didn't want to engage in sexual intimacy with him. (We didn't have for about 1 +month)
But we constantly quarrel so I had no mood to sex with him.. Even so, in November December I do remembering having sex with him.. Why did he still go for paid sex then..
I am devastated as we also just bought a new house and everything seemed perfect with our two children...
What can I do?
I promised him I will have sex with him when he needs. Is this enough to curb him from going outside for paid sex?
Today I realise that his sex transactions increased to about 20 girls ranging from Vietnamese , China, Indonesian. Although I said forgive when he declared only 3 sex partners but I can't forgive at all now when the numbers grow to 20...
What should I do?
Should I forgive him?
Try to forget which is difficult
Or
Should I leave him so I won't get hurt anymore?
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