Hi Sing Yee,
Oh boy, reading what you wrote reminds me of my dilemma I'm in months ago.
Well, I think it's good to host many communication session with your MIL together with your husband. Post questions which you are concerned like 'breastfeeding', 'bathing & washing hair' etc and see what's your MIL take. Good to get your husband involve so that he's aware of his mum's reaction and thus you have more bargaining power. Another thing you can do is that after your antenatal class, share with your MIL about what you learn and what docs says. If she is in doubt on any points, show her books or state evident. In this case, she is aware of the 'modern' babysitting methods.
If after all your efforts, you are still uncomfortable about your MIL, make known to your husband. If your husband is doubtful, show him our stories here. I think postnatal blues and my experiences should be good examples of what both of you can avoid.
To turn her down nicely, maybe you can emphasise your decision on BF and that in order to succeed, you need plenty of rest and you would be hands off housework and taking care of baby unless you are feeding. And keep emphasising on taking care of baby at night.... very tedious.
Afraid to disappoint you but one thing to note is that MIL will always be in the picture. What you can do is to prepare yourself mentally of her role towards your child after the confinement and also you going back to work. I regretted not keeping this in mind.
Just some tots of mine and my apologies if I offended you in anyway.
Oh boy, reading what you wrote reminds me of my dilemma I'm in months ago.
Well, I think it's good to host many communication session with your MIL together with your husband. Post questions which you are concerned like 'breastfeeding', 'bathing & washing hair' etc and see what's your MIL take. Good to get your husband involve so that he's aware of his mum's reaction and thus you have more bargaining power. Another thing you can do is that after your antenatal class, share with your MIL about what you learn and what docs says. If she is in doubt on any points, show her books or state evident. In this case, she is aware of the 'modern' babysitting methods.
If after all your efforts, you are still uncomfortable about your MIL, make known to your husband. If your husband is doubtful, show him our stories here. I think postnatal blues and my experiences should be good examples of what both of you can avoid.
To turn her down nicely, maybe you can emphasise your decision on BF and that in order to succeed, you need plenty of rest and you would be hands off housework and taking care of baby unless you are feeding. And keep emphasising on taking care of baby at night.... very tedious.
Afraid to disappoint you but one thing to note is that MIL will always be in the picture. What you can do is to prepare yourself mentally of her role towards your child after the confinement and also you going back to work. I regretted not keeping this in mind.
Just some tots of mine and my apologies if I offended you in anyway.