Ever since my hub started on this new role, things have changed. Everything seemed normal until our heated quarrel recently. That’s when I start to notice the details. 1) He stopped wearing his wedding ring, claiming it’s too tight. 2) He brings his phone wherever he goes now 3) He is constantly on whatsapp claiming there are a lot of things for him to do. Amidst our cooling off period, he told me to give him some time to adjust his emotions. After a few days, he said he will be going overseas business trip but I managed to bust him so he end up not going. He insisted he was going with a friend whom I don’t know. I asked him if he still want this family. He say mixed feelings. I asked if there is 3rd party, he insisted no. Finally after pushing, he said if we can go for seperation as he doesn’t want me and the kids anymore. I was heartbroken at that time but asked if there is no way to salvage. After much persuasion, I suggested to try to work things out again and he agreed. I asked to see his phone to prove his innocence. He refused. That was when I know he has something to hide. I’m really devastated. He is a family man and nobody will ever think that he will do such things. I really don’t know what is going on in his mind. A part of me want to know the truth, another of me is in denial. I keep telling him he is bad at lying but I don’t want to force hand to get his phone because I know it will end up unmendable. I don’t want to give up to the 3rd party so easily. She can continue to fight for his attention, give him the sexual pleasures but she will always miss spending festivals together. Let’s see who outlast who. Is that the right thinking? I really want to find out if he is cheating but I have no access to his phone. Is there any other way other than hiring PI? He doesn’t update me his movements so even hiring PI may be an issue cause we don’t know where to track in the first place. As of now, he is still playing the doting husband and father of our kids but every time we are apart for a while, I see that he is online whatsapp. I’m really confused. If there is 3rd party, why didn’t he just insisted on divo then when I asked what he wants? If he is so scared to get busted, then why is he still holding on to his phone leaving and leaving small evidences of things he buy (which is not home) for me to see? I’m totally at a loss of what to do now. I want to find out but don’t know how. Can someone shed some light? Thanks!