mrs teng,
dont let CL things let you down, u r the boss, u tell her wht she should do. u really need a good rest for month 1 and 2, eat well, nutritious, healthy, cause your babies need you, and your body needs adjustment and nutrition also. maybe you could ask hubby to do laundry and shopping, or ask maid (if you have one), CL cant stay away from babies for first month, she should be taking care of you and them, well, maybe its too much to ask her to do it herself, one person handling 2 babies is difficult, but good CL will try her best to do all things, and good CL know wht things are "pantang" for new mommies, especially cold water, pleaseeeee..... dont lar, and dont sit too much also, u need to lie down. i'm now past 6 month oredi, but i could still experienced body ache, especially back bone and knee, cause during confinement i didnt rest very well cause my former CL left after a week, luckily after 3 days without CL, my MIL found another one, and we now like family, she will come often to see my babies, she told me this "if you want to hire someone to do things for you, then you let the person to do it, if you still want to do things yourself, then dont hire people." and it strucked me, thts rite, we pay for the person we hiring, why should we so "kepo", since then i let her do things most, its just if both my babies cried together, then she would let me carry one, at nite hubby would babysit with her until 4 am, then after tht my turn. i too had a mild depression where i couldnt stop crying and daren't near my babies for almost a week, then my BM supply drop cause babies didnt latch. but i thank God for giving me hard time once in a while cause i know my strength now, when i should ask and when i could handle myself.
whenever you feel blue, come in here, pour out all your sadness, you'll feel better, if not much, at least you'll feel a bit relief.
praying you'll feel better now, pray for babies to be good and not colic anymore, pray for your and hubbies health, pray for CL to realize wht she is hired for. above all, God bless you abundantly with mighty strength. Ameeennn...
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