Shainie, I am sorry to hear about your loss. My cervix was closed too when I had my mc. I know it is very hard to digest this reality. I was crying for days till my husband told me off...Please stop this and what you want now. I know a bit harsh from him but he know me better. He know he must stop me else i will get depression. So, i asked myself what i want now? I am unable to revert back the pregnancy and also i lost my 'long er'. Next, should i repeat the same history? Hence, i told myself. I want to investigate what is the cause of my mc and what i need to do now. I know it is big blow to your dh. I hope he able to calm down now. I have been praying for you both.
For my case about the private patient, actually i chosen Dr. Loh as recommended by my friend. Unfortunately, after a few consultations he left KKH. I was lost a bit whether to follow him. Then, I did some research online. Found that Dr. Tanhh was his disciple. I was contemplating about either choosing Dr. TanHH or Dr. Sadhana.
To cut it short, I have chosen Dr. TanHH based on the following:
1) He was a disciple of Dr. Loh. So, I guess he got the hands on skill from Dr. Loh at least 50% and above. This point has been proven during my EC and ET. Painless procedures and success BFP.
2) He wrote a lot of thesis with Dr. Loh before. You may google online. To me, a person who can write thesis most probably unable to bluff cos everything is based on scientific proven for medicine field.
3) A doctor which be able to cope with my emotion cos I know IVF journey is like rollercoaster eventhough that time I haven't start my journey yet. According to my survey online, a male doctor can take more stress compared to a female doctor. I maybe wrong too but based on my instinct, I think he is the one.
Btw, I am not doing any promotion for him. I may change doctor if i find him unable to help me one day. It may sounds cruel but no choice. Sometimes, luck also play apart.
I am thinking to change to subsidized patient but not at this point of time. The cost of treatment in SG is getting higher and higher. Therefore, I still will go back to subsidised class one day.