The Little Things in Life
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Haha. Yes if you search for the tag "weaning" on my blog you can read about my whole journey. I'm still surprised my boy took only 10 days
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pumpkin_pie
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Yeah, my ET can go ahead! Means at least 1 of my remaining 2 embbies survived. 
But hv to wait for my bladder to fill up.. Don't hv enuff water yet
But hv to wait for my bladder to fill up.. Don't hv enuff water yet
Good morning ladies..
hopeful_40, sorry to hear this.. really break my heart too.. Pls be strong and brave.. All of us here are struggling with our losses and some are braving thru the journey. We are all here for one another and hope that we can support each other. Do not hestiate to pour all your woes n we are all here for u.. Im with dr sadhana too ..
pumpkim, good to hear that.... jiayou ok..
hopeful_40, sorry to hear this.. really break my heart too.. Pls be strong and brave.. All of us here are struggling with our losses and some are braving thru the journey. We are all here for one another and hope that we can support each other. Do not hestiate to pour all your woes n we are all here for u..
Im with dr sadhana too ..pumpkim, good to hear that.... jiayou ok..
iwantahealthybaby
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pumpkin, yeah! should be done with transfer by now? glad to hear embbies thaw well. i hope mine will go smoothly too i hate the bladder full part. make me cannot relax inside the op room. so scared when doc start the transfer i pee right into his face lolx. opps.
i hate the bladder full part. make me cannot relax inside the op room. so scared when doc start the transfer i pee right into his face lolx. opps.Girls i still have period pain am only d18 so worried
Hi gigi, just period pain right? no period flow? Im dead to the max.. Now already D17 and im still flowing with blood.. haixxx how to do natural??
Mine is more crazier...
pumpkin, yeah! should be done with transfer by now? glad to hear embbies thaw well. i hope mine will go smoothly too
iwantahealthybaby, YES.. i agreed!! When dr Sadhana check on my bladder that time she say aiyo your baldder bursting soon!!! lols.. i say faster if not i burst infront of u..
after the ET, i chiong to the toilet lo.. so ladies there is no fact that u go toilet straight will flush out your embbies.
pumpkin_pie
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Tks sisters! The procedure was v fast. Only took 5-10 mins. Was done at 9.05am. Could be earlier if not for my empty bladder. didn't expect them to call me so fast. I arrived 8.05am, they called me at 8.15 or 8.20am. By 8.30am I was seated in the ET room. Now waiting at pharmacy for my meds then can go home
didn't expect them to call me so fast. I arrived 8.05am, they called me at 8.15 or 8.20am. By 8.30am I was seated in the ET room. Now waiting at pharmacy for my meds then can go home
pumpkin_pie
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I was given 1 day HL. The nurse said this is given upon request.
Dr/Embryologist said they thawed my D2 embbies ytd. 1 is growing well (4-8 cell today). The other (2 cells died after thaw, so it's a 2 cell embryo now. Nonetheless, they said shape looks good so just transfer in and see if it grows. Said there were cases of 2 cells growing. BT is 3 feb. Just thankful embbies survived the thaw. The rest up to nature. N just relax n enjoy CNY.
Best wishes to sisters going for ET, BT n starting cycle!
Dr/Embryologist said they thawed my D2 embbies ytd. 1 is growing well (4-8 cell today). The other (2 cells died after thaw, so it's a 2 cell embryo now. Nonetheless, they said shape looks good so just transfer in and see if it grows. Said there were cases of 2 cells growing. BT is 3 feb. Just thankful embbies survived the thaw. The rest up to nature. N just relax n enjoy CNY.
Best wishes to sisters going for ET, BT n starting cycle!
iwantahealthybaby
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lolx wondersss its so funny right. ya the doc also tell me can pee straight he say diff passage. no link. wont flush out by urine one. haha.
pumpkin pie, i think they thaw a day earlier hoping to cultivate them, when yours frozen that time is d2 so they hope after thaw can grow to d3 or maybe even more. got 1 can transfer is better than none. it only takes that strong one to become your precious. catching your baby dust.
pumpkin pie, i think they thaw a day earlier hoping to cultivate them, when yours frozen that time is d2 so they hope after thaw can grow to d3 or maybe even more. got 1 can transfer is better than none. it only takes that strong one to become your precious. catching your baby dust.
pumpkin_pie
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Iwantahealthybb, you're right abt the cultivation. Tks babygrin too.
Will spread loads of bb dust to all of u if succeed. If not, will rest a while n start a fresh cycle. Jiayou everyone!
Will spread loads of bb dust to all of u if succeed. If not, will rest a while n start a fresh cycle. Jiayou everyone!
vivine_lee
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Good luck ,pumpkin_pie, how many follicles did you have when did the scan ? how many eggs retrieved ? will they conduct the scan again after ER and before ET ? btw, which doctor are you with ?
iwantahealthybaby
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vivine, pumpkin did frozen cycle not fresh. so only thaw her 2 frozen embbies see which survive then do the trf. she trf one back as the other didn make it.
hee straw i think this is a normal reaction, no matter how the expert say nothing will happen, we still fear! what to do the two passage that doesnt link still feel the same one way route inside us lolx.
hee straw i think this is a normal reaction, no matter how the expert say nothing will happen, we still fear! what to do the two passage that doesnt link still feel the same one way route inside us lolx.
vivine_lee
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oh, i see , thank you for your reply iwantahealthybaby .
@Babygrin thanks for asking nooo still in pain like Af coming 10 days earlier ( i wont be able to start stim cause my doc not here fro Er and ET if stim starts now ) i take panadol but still pain
@wondersss you mean you ve been bleeding for 18 days ?? but you have a cyst or what? you should check with your doc no?
( i wont be able to start stim cause my doc not here fro Er and ET if stim starts now ) i take panadol but still pain @wondersss you mean you ve been bleeding for 18 days ?? but you have a cyst or what? you should check with your doc no?
hopeful_40
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Hi All,
Just aft my Dr appointment...well based on Dr Sadhana, she couldn't pin-point exactly what is the cause of my immature eggs. She said anything could have triggered...for example it could be the timing of my final HCG injection carried out prior to the following day egg retreival procedure.
Anyway moving forward she mentioned that the protocol will change during my 2nd IVF attempt. Additional medication, the dosage quantity will change..with the hope my egg quality & quantity will improve. In the meantime I have been given the medication DHEA - to be eaten 3 times a day after my period starts until my next appointment on 24th Apr 2014. She will evaluate if I have any side effects of taking that medication or shld I need to change the medication all together. Btw I can only retake IVF after 3 months gap that is in Apr....my body needs to heal and possible flush out all those hormone injections that I have been giving myself.
The Dr also mentioned our final option would be opt for donor eggs or go for adoption thingy. My hubby & I don't want 2 think too far ahead of time...probably we'll just go with the flow and set no expectation. We would probably try conceiving naturally while waiting for our 2nd ivf cycle to start in Apr. We could only try so much and feel "if it meant to happens then it'll happen no matter what".
We just try our best, hope for the best & enjoy life as to goes....
Just aft my Dr appointment...well based on Dr Sadhana, she couldn't pin-point exactly what is the cause of my immature eggs. She said anything could have triggered...for example it could be the timing of my final HCG injection carried out prior to the following day egg retreival procedure.
Anyway moving forward she mentioned that the protocol will change during my 2nd IVF attempt. Additional medication, the dosage quantity will change..with the hope my egg quality & quantity will improve. In the meantime I have been given the medication DHEA - to be eaten 3 times a day after my period starts until my next appointment on 24th Apr 2014. She will evaluate if I have any side effects of taking that medication or shld I need to change the medication all together. Btw I can only retake IVF after 3 months gap that is in Apr....my body needs to heal and possible flush out all those hormone injections that I have been giving myself.
The Dr also mentioned our final option would be opt for donor eggs or go for adoption thingy. My hubby & I don't want 2 think too far ahead of time...probably we'll just go with the flow and set no expectation. We would probably try conceiving naturally while waiting for our 2nd ivf cycle to start in Apr. We could only try so much and feel "if it meant to happens then it'll happen no matter what".
We just try our best, hope for the best & enjoy life as to goes....
pumpkin_pie
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Straw aka cycle buddy, how's the weather at bintan?
Vivine, yup I did the frozen cycle this round under dr S KKH. Only went for 1 scan on D13 to check lining thickness. Then ET on D17. No scan after D13. Both embbies survived, so transferred both in (though 1 embbie is 8 cell & 1 embbie is only 2 cell). For my fresh cycle, I did it in 2011 under dr Loh who was with kkivf then. I can't recall the number of follicles I had, maybe 12 or 14. They retrieved 11 egg but only 4 fertilised. The embryologist did say 4 fertilised out of 11 eggs is a below average result compared to their usual. The only consolation was 3 embbies r grade 4 (good) n 1 embbie was grade 3 (satisfactory). So this may explain y i have a 8 cell n a 2cell for this frozen cycle. I think #of eggs collected n fertilised depends on individual. Like hope2bb had 9 fertilised out of her 10 or 11 eggs retrieved. So don't worry too much n wait for yr ER, ET
Vivine, yup I did the frozen cycle this round under dr S KKH. Only went for 1 scan on D13 to check lining thickness. Then ET on D17. No scan after D13. Both embbies survived, so transferred both in (though 1 embbie is 8 cell & 1 embbie is only 2 cell). For my fresh cycle, I did it in 2011 under dr Loh who was with kkivf then. I can't recall the number of follicles I had, maybe 12 or 14. They retrieved 11 egg but only 4 fertilised. The embryologist did say 4 fertilised out of 11 eggs is a below average result compared to their usual. The only consolation was 3 embbies r grade 4 (good) n 1 embbie was grade 3 (satisfactory). So this may explain y i have a 8 cell n a 2cell for this frozen cycle. I think #of eggs collected n fertilised depends on individual. Like hope2bb had 9 fertilised out of her 10 or 11 eggs retrieved. So don't worry too much n wait for yr ER, ET
pumpkin_pie
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Just went to see hope2bb's post. She had 15 retrieved, 12 matured n 9 fertilised.
Vivine, all of us will wish for more follicles. But 10 is a decent number. All the best for yr ER on mon! U just need 1 good embbie to stick to lead to yr bundle of joy!
Tsf, Tks dearie.
Hopeful_40, I'm with Dr S now. Used to be with Dr Loh (then director kkivf who's now in private practice) for my fresh cycle. Of the 2, I prefer Dr Loh. Very hands on and experienced. He would always try to save costs for the patient. For my laparoscopy, he said he would write in the insurance report that he's removing my fibroids so that I can claim insurance. If the reason is to check if my tubes r blocked (the real reason), I will not be able to claim. My fibroids r so small that there's no need to remove. He would also do an u/s scan personally every visit with no extra charges. Dr S will send me to the scan dept to do it (cost me an extra $120+), then I've to walk back to her clinic to see her for the diagnosis. Only good thing is Dr S likes to see her patients in the private suite which is a much more comfortable waiting place than clinic D. I know dr Loh sees his patients at clinic D cos he can save time walking to kkivf for ER, ET when necessary. U may wish to consider a 2nd opinion. There's also other popular drs like dr tanhh, KKH or dr Paul tseng, sgh care. Sisters at care, pls correct me if I got the name of the dr wrong.
Vivine, all of us will wish for more follicles. But 10 is a decent number. All the best for yr ER on mon! U just need 1 good embbie to stick to lead to yr bundle of joy!
Tsf, Tks dearie.
Hopeful_40, I'm with Dr S now. Used to be with Dr Loh (then director kkivf who's now in private practice) for my fresh cycle. Of the 2, I prefer Dr Loh. Very hands on and experienced. He would always try to save costs for the patient. For my laparoscopy, he said he would write in the insurance report that he's removing my fibroids so that I can claim insurance. If the reason is to check if my tubes r blocked (the real reason), I will not be able to claim. My fibroids r so small that there's no need to remove. He would also do an u/s scan personally every visit with no extra charges. Dr S will send me to the scan dept to do it (cost me an extra $120+), then I've to walk back to her clinic to see her for the diagnosis. Only good thing is Dr S likes to see her patients in the private suite which is a much more comfortable waiting place than clinic D. I know dr Loh sees his patients at clinic D cos he can save time walking to kkivf for ER, ET when necessary. U may wish to consider a 2nd opinion. There's also other popular drs like dr tanhh, KKH or dr Paul tseng, sgh care. Sisters at care, pls correct me if I got the name of the dr wrong.
The Little Things in Life
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5w pregnant after FET but suddenly start to cramp. Heading home now on self imposed bed rest.
bb_blues
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Dr Paul Tseng is at TLC clinic at TMC but he is also the main ivf doc performing the procedure in CARE@ novena specialist centre, not sgh care.
pumpkin_pie
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Tks bb blues! So he's not at sgh
pumpkin_pie
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Little things, rest rest rest! This pregnancy is still smoother than your first ? Recall u had lots of bleeding for yr 1st?
hopeful_40, sorry to hear your experience, be strong!!
pumpkin, good luck!!
btw, can anyone enlighten me what is the procedure for natural FET in KKH?
So far I have scan twice for D10 & D12, and i was asked to check ovulation using opk at home. The nurses ask me to go home continue to use opk, report to kkh when positive.
What is next? What if i cannot see positive sign in opk?
i am so worry!!
which brand of opk should i used? i am using watson brand, is it good enough?
pumpkin, good luck!!
btw, can anyone enlighten me what is the procedure for natural FET in KKH?
So far I have scan twice for D10 & D12, and i was asked to check ovulation using opk at home. The nurses ask me to go home continue to use opk, report to kkh when positive.
What is next? What if i cannot see positive sign in opk?
i am so worry!!
which brand of opk should i used? i am using watson brand, is it good enough?
The Little Things in Life
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Yeah. Just cramping no bleeding. Thank god. I'm guessing it's the coffee I had this morning. I hadn't had caffeine for more than a week. Now my heart is racing, breathing faster and cramping. Now in bed w legs elevated trying to recover.
iwantahealthybaby
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pumpkin, you only have one scan/ultrasound for fet? thats good, at least no need keep going down like when doing fresh / iui. i wonder how many times i must go down to scan. you mean after your scan in kkh you go back to dr s for review? for my previous, after scan the review is by another doc just besides the ultrasound room. not by my doc in charge of er & et.
sukif, i use clearblue. i personally feel clearblue brand works better. able to detect so far no problem detecting. be it opk or hpt i swear by this brand. try other brands off the rack / online before and it doesnt seems to work for me.
sukif, i use clearblue. i personally feel clearblue brand works better. able to detect so far no problem detecting. be it opk or hpt i swear by this brand. try other brands off the rack / online before and it doesnt seems to work for me.
vivine_lee
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hi hopeful_40, maybe you can consider to chinese herb adn ACU to tiao your body. it may work on improvement on your egg quality.
vivine_lee
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hi thanks pumpkin_pie, i only scan twice , first Scan is at D4 which is after 14 days lucrin, 2nd scan is at D12, which is after 21 days of Lucrin and 7 days of Puregon. then, waiting for ER and ET .
The Little Things in Life
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Thanks ladies. Feeling slightly better now at least no heart race & rapid breathing. Still feeling pressure at womb.
@sukif, I actually found Bio Test very reliable. My gynae clinic uses this brand for OPK and HPT. And it's a lot cheaper than clear blue. I've only seen it in Unity though. My gynae clinic sells a box of 5 test kit for $50. But you have to collect urine as it's not a pee-on stick variant. I buy plastic cups to do the job.
@sukif, I actually found Bio Test very reliable. My gynae clinic uses this brand for OPK and HPT. And it's a lot cheaper than clear blue. I've only seen it in Unity though. My gynae clinic sells a box of 5 test kit for $50. But you have to collect urine as it's not a pee-on stick variant. I buy plastic cups to do the job.
pumpkin_pie
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Iwantahealthybb, yes I only scan once for this medicated fet. Dr S did say more scans r required for natural fet.
The scan that Dr S ordered was done the 1st time in consulted her in dec. before I started my fet.
For fet, after my scan, I saw the dr nx to the scan room.
The scan that Dr S ordered was done the 1st time in consulted her in dec. before I started my fet.
For fet, after my scan, I saw the dr nx to the scan room.
iwantahealthybaby
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i see pumpkin_pie.
ladies who did the endo scratch before, anything to note before i go for his procedure? can we baby dance a day before the scratch?
ladies who did the endo scratch before, anything to note before i go for his procedure? can we baby dance a day before the scratch?
hopeful_40
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Vivien Lee: i read a lot people go for acupuncture too and that it helps in you fertility issues. i personally have not done so before...wld you be able to recommend anyone that i can go do a session or more?
The Little Things In Life: Better take good care, lots of rest and enjoy the pregnancy phase. I used to know a couple who used to write a log daily abt her pregnancy progress, she even attached the ultrasound pics or any little details given by her gynea. Interesting, arr....you can later show it to your kid or something.
Sukif: All the best!
Hi All, should I seek 2nd opinion with other Dr? Any recommendation (OR) is it like I'm with the right Dr already. I'm a bit confused here leh...my hubby feels things like IVF is a combination of science & art. the Dr will need to experiment with medications, understand the patient's past medical history, etc to move forward. Btw what do you all think abt egg Donor stuff? I don't feel comfortable in the sense I have nothing to offer but my uterus to carry the embryo. No doubt I could feel the baby in me, the connections,etc BUT it will not have any of my features or characteristic...cos the egg donor is someone else combined with my hubby's sperm. Seriously I don't know...if that is my last option besides adoption...what would you gals suggest?
Have a good weekend ahead ladies!
The Little Things In Life: Better take good care, lots of rest and enjoy the pregnancy phase. I used to know a couple who used to write a log daily abt her pregnancy progress, she even attached the ultrasound pics or any little details given by her gynea. Interesting, arr....you can later show it to your kid or something.
Sukif: All the best!
Hi All, should I seek 2nd opinion with other Dr? Any recommendation (OR) is it like I'm with the right Dr already. I'm a bit confused here leh...my hubby feels things like IVF is a combination of science & art. the Dr will need to experiment with medications, understand the patient's past medical history, etc to move forward. Btw what do you all think abt egg Donor stuff? I don't feel comfortable in the sense I have nothing to offer but my uterus to carry the embryo. No doubt I could feel the baby in me, the connections,etc BUT it will not have any of my features or characteristic...cos the egg donor is someone else combined with my hubby's sperm. Seriously I don't know...if that is my last option besides adoption...what would you gals suggest?
Have a good weekend ahead ladies!
hopeful_40, you are so brave and strong. Wishing you a smooth journey.
Hi everyone, my ET went ok. Once reached RH, was given the progesterone jab, then went for acupuncture, then ET, then another jab and another acupuncture session. Boy, I have not had that many needles in my whole life, and all in one day!! Of the 9 fertilized, 1 can't be used. So after transferring 2 embryos, 6 are being frozen for future use. Really hoping for the best from now on.
Hi everyone, my ET went ok. Once reached RH, was given the progesterone jab, then went for acupuncture, then ET, then another jab and another acupuncture session. Boy, I have not had that many needles in my whole life, and all in one day!! Of the 9 fertilized, 1 can't be used. So after transferring 2 embryos, 6 are being frozen for future use. Really hoping for the best from now on.
@hopeful40 you had 2 follies this round but follies number can vary my point is if they find eggs you have Hope
Another point is your age
I would suggest egg donor as very last option
The argument in favor of egg donor compared to adoption is that you get a chance to Feel And live pregnancy
Theres another gal in your situation named machobaby you might try to mp her
I ve Never met dr S some gals might say
Another point is your age
I would suggest egg donor as very last option
The argument in favor of egg donor compared to adoption is that you get a chance to Feel And live pregnancy
Theres another gal in your situation named machobaby you might try to mp her
I ve Never met dr S some gals might say
Hopeful_40, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Nothing is more heartbreaking than losing a child. You are really a strong lady. I just wanted to add my story to you to give you some hope. I have stage 4 endo and after 4 rounds of fresh IVF cycles (the final cycle I didn't even have any eggs for ET), I was told by Dr SF loh that my final option is adoption or donor egg, similar to you. Naturally I was devasted. I finally decided that maybe it was time for me to move on and I left it in God's hands. If I am meant to be a mom, then it will happen. I did a lap with Dr Loh to remove all my painful endo. He tried to remove as much as possible. I then started to take royal jelly and bee pollen. Soon after, I conceived my boy naturally and delivered in 2009 . In 2010, I had a mc and in 2011, I had my girl. So, I just want to let you know don't think about donor egg at this point. Try to eat healthy to improve egg quality. In the meantime, try naturally. A good friend of mine had tried TTC for 10 years and went through multiple IVFs and in her final IVF she succeeded and had a baby girl. Then 2 years later, she conceived naturally and just delivered her 2nd baby a month ago. So stay hopeful. Miracles do happen all the time!
vivine_lee
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Hi hopeful_40, i am currently under Dr zhao at Raffles Hospital..... i do the Acu. only. i know her from this forum too.... I have no comment yet bcos i just started 2 weeks ago..... but she is popular here, i think some sisters recommend her. there is another popular chinese Dr named Dr zao at AMK. A lot of sisters highly recommend.
Miracle No. 2
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Hi Hopeful_40....
It's really heartbreaking reading your post and what you have been through........Dont despair okay............
I think everyone of us here......is facing lots of hurdle as well....but we must be strong and one day....God will hear our prayers...and bless us with one angel...
I had my no. 1 thru my first IUI...I was very lucky indeed............but as my family is really small...I dont have cousins with young kids...and my brother and sis in law is not married and I dont think they will. So, we are so worried that we think we need 2nd baby.
My 2nd baby journey is very tough...........I failed 2 IUIs, 1 fresh IVF - miscarriage, 1 FET - miscarriage............ so in the end which is now.........I am still struggling to come out of the pain. I still remember myself crying before being pushed to the operating theatre back in Oct 2013 ....because the baby was about 8 wks already..........I remembered how had i tried..all the effort etc...and i am going to lose it again.......and i have no more frozen embryo......
The journey is going to be very tough i know............but ..........morale of the story dont give up okay...
There's good TCM in chinatown .........you might like to try? She's Dr Tan ....let me know if you need the contact....she helped many ppl to conceive.....not sure if you heard of mark lee's case?
vivine_lee
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hi mag08, you mean you have severe endometriosis ? how can you overcome it ? i heard that endometriosis cant be cure .... after you remove it, it come back again every month once your period come. it can even block the tube...... but a lot of women suffer this ........
ya you are ture, miracles do happen all the time.......
bb_blues
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hopeful_40, you are indeed a strong lady. As vivine mentioned, you can try these 2 TCM for acupuncture, they are very popular among the ladies here. As for the recommendation for Drs, if you are looking at govt hosp, Dr Sadhana and Dr Tan HH from KKH are very popular. If you are looking at private clinics, you can try Dr SF Loh, he was previously the head of IVF at KKH.
mag_08, your story inspire me. I have also failed so many IVF and still waiting for the miracle to happen. May I know if there are any issues with your hb? It is actually my hb problem that lead us to IVF but ironically, I don't respond very well in IVF.
mag_08, your story inspire me. I have also failed so many IVF and still waiting for the miracle to happen. May I know if there are any issues with your hb? It is actually my hb problem that lead us to IVF but ironically, I don't respond very well in IVF.
The Little Things in Life
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Thanks sisters, I'm feeling better now. Hope it's a one off incident but I shall cut out caffeine totally from now. General discomfort but nothing unmanageable.
The Little Things in Life
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What did the gynae say?
My hubby is 1% morphology and was on TCM for 6m before IVF. Did not improve morphology but improved sperm count so that there's a bigger pool of sperm to choose from. Perhaps something your hubby can consider? Maybe if the sperm pool increase, can find some normal healthy ones.
Babygrin
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@hopeful_40 I was also told by doc that I may have to opt for donor eggs or adoption. I also used to be skeptical about it but now I am gradually accepting the idea. My tcm doc has handled a few donor egg cases, and all of them gave birth to twins. As the infertility rate increases year after year, she believe this is probably going to be the next trend besides iui and ivf.
I wanted to go straight into donor egg but unfortunately, there is no donor egg bank in Singapore. Dr tan hh said it is not approved in Singapore yet. Therefore, I will have to go overseas to source for donors, because countries such as Malaysia, Thailand, US, etc have plentiful egg banks. This could be a challenge for me and I need more time to research on it and gather more info. Since I need more time, I might as well try dhea first.
You are right that the baby does not carry your genes, but he/she is in a way connected to you biologically, and connected to your hubby genetically. It's true that the child may not resemble you but in real life, I've seen many examples of children who do not look like their mum or dad even when they are conceived via the mum's eggs or the dad's sperm (or maybe they are not???).
As for adoption, I have a Caucasian colleague who adopted a Chinese baby after failing to conceive for many year. After that she conceived naturally with a boy. My friend's sister also adopted a girl and later gave birth to a girl. My friend's friend adopted a Thai Chinese girl and after that conceived as well. But please don't get me wrong. I am not saying adoption will lead you to conceive naturally. These examples just happened to be coincidental. My point is you can also form a happy family with adopted children if you truly love them and accept them. Whenever I look at the family photos of these 3 examples, they look just like any other family. My Caucasian colleague simply adores her little Chinese girl. Whenever she talks about her, her eyes will lit up and her face will glow.
Having said that, every individual has their concern and reservation. Whether you accept donor egg/adoption or not, there is no right or wrong. I don't mind the idea because I would rather have a child via donor egg or adopted child, than to be childless for the rest of my life and continue envying others. Whatever decision you make, it is important that you are comfortable and happy with it, and not live to regret it. Remember, only you can choose how you want to live your life
I wanted to go straight into donor egg but unfortunately, there is no donor egg bank in Singapore. Dr tan hh said it is not approved in Singapore yet. Therefore, I will have to go overseas to source for donors, because countries such as Malaysia, Thailand, US, etc have plentiful egg banks. This could be a challenge for me and I need more time to research on it and gather more info. Since I need more time, I might as well try dhea first.
You are right that the baby does not carry your genes, but he/she is in a way connected to you biologically, and connected to your hubby genetically. It's true that the child may not resemble you but in real life, I've seen many examples of children who do not look like their mum or dad even when they are conceived via the mum's eggs or the dad's sperm (or maybe they are not???).
As for adoption, I have a Caucasian colleague who adopted a Chinese baby after failing to conceive for many year. After that she conceived naturally with a boy. My friend's sister also adopted a girl and later gave birth to a girl. My friend's friend adopted a Thai Chinese girl and after that conceived as well. But please don't get me wrong. I am not saying adoption will lead you to conceive naturally. These examples just happened to be coincidental. My point is you can also form a happy family with adopted children if you truly love them and accept them. Whenever I look at the family photos of these 3 examples, they look just like any other family. My Caucasian colleague simply adores her little Chinese girl. Whenever she talks about her, her eyes will lit up and her face will glow.
Having said that, every individual has their concern and reservation. Whether you accept donor egg/adoption or not, there is no right or wrong. I don't mind the idea because I would rather have a child via donor egg or adopted child, than to be childless for the rest of my life and continue envying others. Whatever decision you make, it is important that you are comfortable and happy with it, and not live to regret it. Remember, only you can choose how you want to live your life
tsf0205
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Have not seen the gynae... This test was done in private... My DH has also seen tcm for 6mths last year and no improvement in his morph.... The numbers r within acceptable limits... But no use...Now morph become 0%... I'm devastated...supposed to start feb cycle... I guess it have to be postponed...
