How to move on with horrible husband

[1stzbaby]

there are just too many things to say about my husband. He think he is always right, petty, use hurtful words. Don't respect my parents . Never call them at all despite he will go to their house to fetch me and the kids.
I feel so sorry for my parents. Marrying such a guy. Even I am so unhappy with him every single day. I din want my parents to think otherwise.
I wish I can divorce him but he sure to snatch my kids away. So since I can't leave my kids. I have to stay on. I don't talk to him anymore, trying to stay low to avoid quarrels .
It will never work to talk to him coz he think he is forever right and problems lies with him.
Now he is sleeping. I see him. I can't help hating him. Every single thing about him I feel so disgusted. So much so that I wish he will have some accident or sickness and die away.
Am I crazy? Feeling really bitter.

 

[jayjayqueenie]

u tell him if he continue to treat him this way, u can sue him for verbal abuse.

i tell that to my husband. he is scared and he does not do that anymore.

singapore must come up with an awareness for verbal abuse !

 

[1stzbaby]

He is not scared of such thing. He will only become worst if I said such thing to him. :_(

 

[jayjayqueenie]

at least u warn him.

or do u have the courage to move out when he is not at home?

 

[timmerin]

I don't have the whole picture of ur rship w ur hubby. But since u decided to stay on for your kids, then work on improving your marriage. The best gift u can give to your kids is a loving family. So personally i focus a lot of my energy on forgiveness and love. Try to forgive and love more... try letting go of that hate and focus on whatever little positive thing u see in him and praise him and tell him u appreciate it. Nvm that he fell really short of ur expectations n u wished u hadn't married him. U already married him n have kids with him. Try this method for ur kids' sake.

 

[skmuak]

Read up on how to deal with narcissistic spouse. If u know the right ways to deter his offensive behavior, things may improve for u. All the best.

 

[Judy23]

i think you need help and support. hopefully you can start to build up your " bullets" by gg out to work. once you are at least able to feed yourself, move on to proceed with necessary legal rights. since your parents are taking care of your kids, i am sure your chances of having the custody & care and control of your kids will be higher.

however, if possible, try to work it out. for myself, i does what my partner do. i explained to my partner that what comes around goes around. he treat my folks as his own, i will treat his as mine regardless how bad are they. be a mirror image of your partner helps. if he turns abusive, go ahead and get a PPO against him.

 

[Cindize]

We are in same boat but mine has a lot more crap. The wolf in sheep clothing such a guy. Does a lot of crap behind my back and think I don't know but yet scold me for thinking too much and being insecure. I wonder how he sleeps at night. Then again I think he has no conscience.

 

[gladjo]

1stzbaby...not sure if u r working or stay Hm mum ... Ultimately u need to work n be confident n then u can be strong for ur kids. Hating him daily will not help but aggravated ur hatred then one day it will be explosive with collateral damage so...get hold of yourself for the sake of ur kids. Go read up your n know your legal rights in woman's charter ... Like they say, it takes 2hands to clap, whatever, start protecting yourself n your kids in the event his abuses take to the next level. His condition may be from his parents or some trauma in his youth that he build a strong wall by being abusive to all near to him. So he really needs help but help yourself first, build rapport with neighbours n friends ...lay the foundation for refuge should one day u need. And u must know your legal rights as a woman, wife n mother. PM me if you need help