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nicolenicole
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Hi all
I am about to file for divorce. Any gals in similar situation? Hope you can PM me or reply so we can share n support thru this difficult time. My email is [email protected]
Nicole
I am about to file for divorce. Any gals in similar situation? Hope you can PM me or reply so we can share n support thru this difficult time. My email is [email protected]
Nicole
hi,
I've been married for 10yrs n hv 8yrs old boy.
due to inlaw & other issues,we've been sleeping in the different rooms for a yr.I can't bring myself getting close to him,neither does he make any effort.
we don't communicate except things regarding my boy.I am a SAHM & hv had 4 miscarriages.
Can anyone advise me?
1) If there is no love in marriage,shld I carry on?
2)My hb is very individualistics & pampered.He used to be taken care.I am tired of doing so.
3)I've been asking myself often & this is not the life i wanna.I wanna someone who could share everything under the sun with me.But I couldn't do that with my hb coz he is very difficult to get closed with.He wasn't liked that during courtship.
4) he is a mummy's son,his mother calls him almost everyday.They share everything.And I am not in a good terms wf his parents ever since my last miscarriage.
5) we also do not share common goals in life.In fact,I doubt he has any goal coz everything of him is almost catered by his parents.
-I am keen to hv 2nd kid but he doesn't
-he is very money-minded,but i am not
-he is boring but i wish to hv occasional travel & meals as couples once a while.Proposed b4 but he is not keen.
I ever proposed to him to live separately,stated reasons that he could take care his parents n focus in his job.To be frank,I would rather stay wf my mum than him.
I've been married for 10yrs n hv 8yrs old boy.
due to inlaw & other issues,we've been sleeping in the different rooms for a yr.I can't bring myself getting close to him,neither does he make any effort.
we don't communicate except things regarding my boy.I am a SAHM & hv had 4 miscarriages.
Can anyone advise me?
1) If there is no love in marriage,shld I carry on?
2)My hb is very individualistics & pampered.He used to be taken care.I am tired of doing so.
3)I've been asking myself often & this is not the life i wanna.I wanna someone who could share everything under the sun with me.But I couldn't do that with my hb coz he is very difficult to get closed with.He wasn't liked that during courtship.
4) he is a mummy's son,his mother calls him almost everyday.They share everything.And I am not in a good terms wf his parents ever since my last miscarriage.
5) we also do not share common goals in life.In fact,I doubt he has any goal coz everything of him is almost catered by his parents.
-I am keen to hv 2nd kid but he doesn't
-he is very money-minded,but i am not
-he is boring but i wish to hv occasional travel & meals as couples once a while.Proposed b4 but he is not keen.
I ever proposed to him to live separately,stated reasons that he could take care his parents n focus in his job.To be frank,I would rather stay wf my mum than him.
on top of that,he always criticizes me.Perhaps i am sahm,losing respect.I can't go bk to work coz i am only caregiver to my son.
the prob becoming obvious n serious these 2yrs.During the first few yrs of marriage,as we were busy with our jobs & still hv occasion meals as couples,so didn't hv prob.
Perhaps my inlaws & miscarriages play contributing factors.He also started to accuse me.I feel hurt when he always "assume" & "accuse" me with something i've not even think b4.I always tell him if i am so evil,then why married me at the first pl?
I wanna move on my life.If it is an agony to stay in a marriage with a man who doesn't share his live,does it worth to carry on?
Shld I stay in a marriage for sake of my son & divorce when he gets older?
the prob becoming obvious n serious these 2yrs.During the first few yrs of marriage,as we were busy with our jobs & still hv occasion meals as couples,so didn't hv prob.
Perhaps my inlaws & miscarriages play contributing factors.He also started to accuse me.I feel hurt when he always "assume" & "accuse" me with something i've not even think b4.I always tell him if i am so evil,then why married me at the first pl?
I wanna move on my life.If it is an agony to stay in a marriage with a man who doesn't share his live,does it worth to carry on?
Shld I stay in a marriage for sake of my son & divorce when he gets older?
Hi avocado...
I do not really know how is your situation so i try not to comment much...
According to wat i see snd how you describe it, i reckon wat you need now is an income source...
I do not want to describe myself as someone great, watever situation you are in i am sure you know very well yourself...
It seems like you had not much choices to choose from and i am the only one here who can help you with a home job and an income source.
I hope my intentions are clear and you are the exact example of people i am looking for and i know very well with your situation you really doesnt have much choice...
I believe when you post here, you are indeed looking for some form of help and your prayers are answered...
If this is not wat you wanted then tell me wat sort of "help" are you looking for ??
I am not here to mock you neither to "cash in" on your situation and make you feel worse... Let us, the forum know how to help... Most of us gone through wat you are going through now...
I do not really know how is your situation so i try not to comment much...
According to wat i see snd how you describe it, i reckon wat you need now is an income source...
I do not want to describe myself as someone great, watever situation you are in i am sure you know very well yourself...
It seems like you had not much choices to choose from and i am the only one here who can help you with a home job and an income source.
I hope my intentions are clear and you are the exact example of people i am looking for and i know very well with your situation you really doesnt have much choice...
I believe when you post here, you are indeed looking for some form of help and your prayers are answered...
If this is not wat you wanted then tell me wat sort of "help" are you looking for ??
I am not here to mock you neither to "cash in" on your situation and make you feel worse... Let us, the forum know how to help... Most of us gone through wat you are going through now...
blossom0501
New Member
Hi,
Chanced upon this thread and decided to post.
No offence to anyone but please all take a couple of steps to reflect on our lives.
We all owe it to our parents and more so to ourselves to lead a better life. Our parents brought us up hoping that we will all have a fulfilling life and not to treated by outsiders (be it your spouse) like refugees. We all deserve a better life. For things to be better, we have to change positively.
Life is never easy but if one can look at it as glass half full instead of half empty, it will not be as tough as one perceives
Good Luck to all
Chanced upon this thread and decided to post.
No offence to anyone but please all take a couple of steps to reflect on our lives.
We all owe it to our parents and more so to ourselves to lead a better life. Our parents brought us up hoping that we will all have a fulfilling life and not to treated by outsiders (be it your spouse) like refugees. We all deserve a better life. For things to be better, we have to change positively.
Life is never easy but if one can look at it as glass half full instead of half empty, it will not be as tough as one perceives
Good Luck to all
After reading all these, i would like to share my story too. I am a mother of three, 3yo, 2yo and 10 month old baby. Have been married for 6 years, but things really gotten so bad recently.
Troubleguy, you are a nice guy, how i wish my husband is like you. I am very disappointed with him.
He has left the house since 8 June 2012 when my elder boy had high fever(39.2). He was working night shift(start work at 6pm), the school called to inform him about the fever, he ignored and continue to sleep and left for work. When i discovered the missed calls, I rushed to school and brought him to see doctor. My elder son has chronic illness, if he fall sick, his blood count will dip to very low level. Subsequenly my girl and my baby also felt sick. I looked after three of them till i felt sick. That was one point that i got to change bedsheed almost every night, sometimes two times at night as my baby vomited each time he coughed. From that day onwards till today, he has never returned nor call nor sms to check on the children.
We had unhappiness frequently, everytime he choosed to run away from home and rejected all the calls. I said unhappiness because there was no argument, he simply refused to talk. I suggested marriage counsellor, he rejected too. This time round, as it concern children health and safety, i really cannot take it anymore. I broke down, had sleepless nights and slimmed down to only 47kg (my height is 168cm. I could not understand how he can be so heartless, really care nothing about his own kids. I was so upset that i brought all the kids back to malaysia without informing him and his family, and they really DON'T CARE.
Last time, when he wanted to leave the house, i will beg him, hug him not to leave, not only that he would not listen, he grabbed my arm and dragged me. In the end, bruises appeared on my arm and there was big bump on my head too. He did not feel sorry and can still make up a story for me in case people asked about the bruises. I wore long sleeves to work for three full weeks.
I wanted to divorce this time as i think he is beyond hope and it is really not healthy for my kids to grow up in such environment. This was not the first time he left home, i have lost count already. Because of his egoistic, family outing, holiday and photo shooting program were all burnt.
Two months ago, we supposed to bring his mother to Desaru with us, last minute, he had his stupid temper then he decided not to go. I alone brought three kids, two maids and his mother there. I did not want to disappoint my son as he has been waiting and count down for this trip. In the end, my son had a fall and it was quite serious. His right eye was swollen and lots of scratches on his face, my girl also felt from the bed at night. He and his brother rushed to Desaru the next day. However he refused to sleep in the room at night and rather risk the girl from falling down the bed again, i told him to go in, he walked out the room and stayed at the beach the whole night. The next morning, he decided to take the first boat back to Singapore but he took the car key with him. Brother in law called, he took a taxi back to the hotel returning the car key and went back to jetty to take the next boat. Could you see how stubborn his guy is. I have been tolerated for so many years and he really don't care about his family when his temper comes.
Tell me, should i leave this guy? Till today, he has never wanted to talk, i have called him, sms him but all no response. On 15 July, i sent all my kids away and asked him back to discuss our problem. He has no intention to talk at all, but he did mention he does not want any of the children, he does not even want to fight for access right. He wants the house back 100%, he is not thinking to give a shelter for the kids, he said "you bring the children back to Malaysia lo" I have recorded this conversation.
My concern now is most of the housing expenses is giro from his account, if divorce, finacially i will have problem. I do not wish to affect my kids the most. The elder two are in child care now, the baby is looking after by maid. From the years that i know him, I doubt if he will take any action if i don't take. Shall i go on like this, my children are with me in the matrimonial house and he stays with his mother. Shall i wait for another three four years then file for divorce? Though i am more tire i am much happier now.
Troubleguy, you are a nice guy, how i wish my husband is like you. I am very disappointed with him.
He has left the house since 8 June 2012 when my elder boy had high fever(39.2). He was working night shift(start work at 6pm), the school called to inform him about the fever, he ignored and continue to sleep and left for work. When i discovered the missed calls, I rushed to school and brought him to see doctor. My elder son has chronic illness, if he fall sick, his blood count will dip to very low level. Subsequenly my girl and my baby also felt sick. I looked after three of them till i felt sick. That was one point that i got to change bedsheed almost every night, sometimes two times at night as my baby vomited each time he coughed. From that day onwards till today, he has never returned nor call nor sms to check on the children.
We had unhappiness frequently, everytime he choosed to run away from home and rejected all the calls. I said unhappiness because there was no argument, he simply refused to talk. I suggested marriage counsellor, he rejected too. This time round, as it concern children health and safety, i really cannot take it anymore. I broke down, had sleepless nights and slimmed down to only 47kg (my height is 168cm. I could not understand how he can be so heartless, really care nothing about his own kids. I was so upset that i brought all the kids back to malaysia without informing him and his family, and they really DON'T CARE.
Last time, when he wanted to leave the house, i will beg him, hug him not to leave, not only that he would not listen, he grabbed my arm and dragged me. In the end, bruises appeared on my arm and there was big bump on my head too. He did not feel sorry and can still make up a story for me in case people asked about the bruises. I wore long sleeves to work for three full weeks.
I wanted to divorce this time as i think he is beyond hope and it is really not healthy for my kids to grow up in such environment. This was not the first time he left home, i have lost count already. Because of his egoistic, family outing, holiday and photo shooting program were all burnt.
Two months ago, we supposed to bring his mother to Desaru with us, last minute, he had his stupid temper then he decided not to go. I alone brought three kids, two maids and his mother there. I did not want to disappoint my son as he has been waiting and count down for this trip. In the end, my son had a fall and it was quite serious. His right eye was swollen and lots of scratches on his face, my girl also felt from the bed at night. He and his brother rushed to Desaru the next day. However he refused to sleep in the room at night and rather risk the girl from falling down the bed again, i told him to go in, he walked out the room and stayed at the beach the whole night. The next morning, he decided to take the first boat back to Singapore but he took the car key with him. Brother in law called, he took a taxi back to the hotel returning the car key and went back to jetty to take the next boat. Could you see how stubborn his guy is. I have been tolerated for so many years and he really don't care about his family when his temper comes.
Tell me, should i leave this guy? Till today, he has never wanted to talk, i have called him, sms him but all no response. On 15 July, i sent all my kids away and asked him back to discuss our problem. He has no intention to talk at all, but he did mention he does not want any of the children, he does not even want to fight for access right. He wants the house back 100%, he is not thinking to give a shelter for the kids, he said "you bring the children back to Malaysia lo" I have recorded this conversation.
My concern now is most of the housing expenses is giro from his account, if divorce, finacially i will have problem. I do not wish to affect my kids the most. The elder two are in child care now, the baby is looking after by maid. From the years that i know him, I doubt if he will take any action if i don't take. Shall i go on like this, my children are with me in the matrimonial house and he stays with his mother. Shall i wait for another three four years then file for divorce? Though i am more tire i am much happier now.
pristinepinkie
New Member
Hi weiyao..i empathise with yr situation. Our hubb bear similar traits, like to avoid issues n throw all the 'burden' to us...
For me..my hubb had affairs n i decided enough is enough..im moving on with my two kids..i do not want to waste whatever youth i hv left on someone who is not capable of protecting me n my two kids.
If u felt that u've exhausted all your energy on this man, i suggest u search within yourself n ask what is it u really want in life..
I've decided i want peace , harmony n not crying slpless nights. My children will do well if i am strong. I refuse to let myself be trampled on again..
For me..my hubb had affairs n i decided enough is enough..im moving on with my two kids..i do not want to waste whatever youth i hv left on someone who is not capable of protecting me n my two kids.
If u felt that u've exhausted all your energy on this man, i suggest u search within yourself n ask what is it u really want in life..
I've decided i want peace , harmony n not crying slpless nights. My children will do well if i am strong. I refuse to let myself be trampled on again..
toyplaybox
Member
Weiyao, I agree w pristinepinkie and I have also taken the path that she has took.. Tho no adultries were committed, his temper and childish acts i could tolerate no more.. Dont treat divorce as the end, I see it as the light at end of tunnel.. I am happier now knowing what lies ahead and I'm glad that he's not included.. Sadly in my case, he's v much involved w my first child and has asked to see him on a regular basis.. Something which I can't deny till the court order decides.. I wish he was dead
pristinepinkie
New Member
Hey hey, how do i activate my pm?
Has anyone fought in court against lawyer Carry Gill from Harry Elias? I asked in some facebook groups, some say she uses very dirty tricks and makes parties to fight more in order to escalate the costs. Some say she is very aggressive, takes things very personal and attempts to emotionally destroy those who she fights against? any feedback please, what to be ready for?
1stworldview147
New Member
Revenge Your Ex
Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
Revenge Your Ex
Is this forum still valid?
Each day hundreds of men and women seek revenge on their ex-mates for a
variety of reasons, usually because they got dumped or where cheated on.
Revenge comes in many ways. It typically starts by using social media to
vent, and then escalates from there. Now sites like "Get Revenge On Your Ex"
for a fee will help you get pay back or revenge.
So what is the best way to get revenge besides slashing her tires, posting
nude photos of her and so on.
The best way according to the web site Right Choices 101 is to live your
life well. This is true no matter who you are seeking revenge on. Coworkers,
past bosses, bad friends or ex-lovers. Put your energy into succeeding and
enjoying your life, not wasting your time, energy and resources on revenge
that can end up costing you much more. Plus, when you seek revenge, you send
them a massage that you have not gotten over the relationship. It's much
better to show you are indifferent and don't care.
According to Kenneth Agee of A Foreign Affair, a service that specializes in
helping men find young beautiful foreign women, "The best revenge is to date
or marry a women 10 years younger than your ex. This will piss her off to no
end. No woman ever wants to be replaced with a younger, more attractive
woman. Just like a man never likes to get replaced by a guy who is wealthier
or more successful.
I will never forget one of my first clients we took to Saint Petersburg,
Russia." says Agee, "The client told me that two days on our tour was better
than two years of therapy. Having hundreds of attractive women fighting over
you gets your ex out of your mind pretty quick.
I personally went through break up when my ex ran off with another man. But
a short time later, I met a new lady who was ten times better. I ran into
that man who stole my ex and I gave him a big thanks. In fact, I could not
thank him enough. He was stuck with an older nagging women, while I was now
with a young, beautiful, caring women. Plus, my ex had gained about 100
pounds. I don't look at that fellow as any kind of enemy but as the person
who saved me from my ex and years of suffering." This is the best a revenge
when you win without lowering yourself.
Other sites like "Get Over Her Now" give practical advice and tips for
getting over a past relationship.
Top Tips from Get Over Her Now:
Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
young, skinny, fat, cute or ugly. This greatly helps you get back in the
game of socializing with the opposite sex. And it opens up lots
opportunities to meet their cute attractive friends in a more relaxed
environment. This also helps you build your game and confidence.
Improve yourself, start working out, get up early every day and exercise.
Buy new clothes. Dressing better makes you feel better and improves your
confidence.
Focus on work and getting a promotion or raise. Don't let a break up effect
your work negatively. Put that extra effort into work and it will pay off
with a better position and more money. This will also build your confidence
and help attract better quality women.
Any time you are depressed, improving yourself helps greatly. When you feel
depressed, don't sit and watch TV and then sleep-in late. Get out and do
something that will make you feel like you've accomplished something. Take a
class, go hiking, fix something you've been putting off.
Don't start drinking. Drinking will always have a negative impact on your
life. Don't drink while depressed or when you are trying to get over some
one. After all, drinking is for celebrating. So if you are not celebrating
something, don't drink. A quality women is not going to be attracted to
someone who drinks a lot or has a drinking problem.
Don't sleep in; sleeping late increases depression. Get up as early as you
can and go for a walk, take a hike, or go to the Gym. Research shows getting
up early and exercising can eliminate depression. You will have no game be
depressed.
Don't binge eat. If you start gaining weight, you will feel less self-worth
and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
attracted to.
Conclusion, the best revenge is when you improve your life so well that she
realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
Ironunicorn
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Hi this has been posted for a long time..u mind sharing what is your situation now? What you describe sounds like me and I have not been able to face the decision I should make...i'm planning to file divorce against my husband. We have been on cold war for the past one year. I have tried all means to salvage the marriage including counselling and asking my family members to talk to him but to no avail. He simply refused to communicate with me. If he needs to pass message to me, he will rather convey to the maid than talk to me directly. He treats the maid better than he treats me. In his eyes, i'm just a useless, stupid, dumb person, not able to do anything right.
I have 2 young adorable children. Just don't understand why he is giving me this cold treatment. He is just like a mad dog barking at me when i make him angry over the slighest thing. I am always subject to his verbal abuse and i am suffering in silence for the sake of my children. If i retaliate, it will make him even more annoyed and will scare my children with his screaming. I have the feeling that he just wants his children and it doesn't matter whether he has a wife or not.
i guess i really got to stand firm with my decision to proceed with divorce, otherwise the mental & emotional torture will make me collapse soon. I'm in the midst of sourcing for a lawyer who is experienced in child custody. I really wish to have gain control & care for both my kids and don't want them to be separated. But knowing his character, he will never give up his children. So the proceedings will definitely be contested. I really do not know if i have the stamina to go through the emotionally draining process. ALso, my maid's contract is ending soon and i don't wish to hire a new one. i'm thinking of moving to my mum's place with my younger child who is more attached to me. But he will not allow me to bring my child, in fact, he ever chased me out of the house when we had a heated argument previously and ask me not to come back. I don't wish to continue to stay in the matrimonial house and face his nonsense. I'm having sleepless night over this. BTW, can i file PPO for being abused verbally? I'm really worried that he will become violent physically with his nasty temper. What else can i do? need your advice please....
Hi this has been posted for a long time..u mind sharing what is your situation now? What you describe sounds like me and I have not been able to face the decision I should make...
I wan a divorce but thing are holding me back
I wan a divorce but thing are holding me back
Perhaps you wish to share what are holding you back?
