Sisters,
I have been MIA for about a month as was dealing with both bedrest and than back to work and really busy. Will speak more about it later..
Gan
I popped by the IVF thread just now, did not read through carefully but saw and glad that you are doing so fine. Lost track of how advance you are in your pregnancy, should be nearing end of first trimester? After that, you would have crossed a milestone and you can then enjoy your pregnancy better and better..yeah, not easy with every step but it will be a good reminder for us not to take the baby and any happiness that comes along for granted. Now I kept telling myself that I don't think I will be a typical mum who will compare my child to another child because of what we have been through to get them.
Elle,
If you happen to pop by here, hope you are doing well and so is baby
Bought a lot of stuff liao? For me, not started on the shopping because so many other things to take care of. Thanks for your blessings, I have been really taking care of myself and so is my hubby…heeeee..
Danad,
How are you doing sister? You have every right to be angry with you MIL and ask her to go fly kite please. Over the course of time, I realise MILs treat us like child bearing commodities still in this day and time. When you are not pregnant, they will ask "when, when when". When you are pregnant, they will ask "boy? Boy? Boy?" heheeee..My MIL used to bug my hubby when I would conceive. Now I am expecthing, she cannot reconcile that I am most likely having a princess whom I am willing to stake my health on and cannot thank goddess of mercy enough for.
So bottomline, if MIL treat us like commodities, treat their words like farting. They will never be satisfied because we are somebody else's daughter and we can never win no matter how good we are. So practise right ear in, left ear out k sister…which I am practising too..
Lyn is very right, love yourself more than anything else and before you know it, you will be a mum, lots of abydusts to you..
Lyn,
Hey, glad you found the right formula to deal with the "kaypoh chis"…heeheeee…actually we really don't owe anyone any answer as its our own lives, I would say when in comes to the department of having babies, the only person we need to reach an agreement with its our partner and people who common sense should know that. As long as you are prepared with the right attitude for such probing questions and have a clear conscience, you will and can walk away gracefully. I have attached the info on eggs for you here.
Tigi,
I can sense the light-heartedness in you
yes, your attitude will inspire a lot of sisters here
Even if with kids, have life all revolve around sending them to best schools, comparing grades with neighbours, jealous of other people kids going to better schools, forcing kids to studying, its such a meaningless life! With or without kids, as long as determined to lead a meaningful and life with good merits to ourselves and mankind, it’s the ultimate life. I know that is what you are thinking when you write the post
Faith, Tigi, Pink Martini
Whatever stage you girls are in, no matter how you are doing, all the best, give yourselves a lot of credit, treat yourselves well and babydusts..
Sisters,
I have had very bad bleeding from the placenta and eventually blood clot that was as big as baby then that eventually flowed out on its own. Seeing the piec of clotting, my gynae suggested that I cannot go overseas (was due for an overseas work trip) or I might not be able to find help there. So I went on some bedrest and mc. During this time, I told myself that what will be will be but never one day wanted to give up either. Its taking a very zen approach again, must try our best and not ask what the result is. During one scan that the gynae saw the clot, he commentted that my baby went to hide all the way at the top of my womb while all the tsunami (bleeding and clotting) were happening at the bottom. That baby still going strong and ignored the tsunami downstairs. So despite the "tsunami", I was thankful that baby is so strong and I was very proud of and inspired by her. It made me realise that babies are really very simple and brave beings who just wanted to survive despite the environment. And we should really learn to be like them. We adults are socialised so much by what is happening around us that we get distracted easily and forget the ultimate goal about living is to survive bravely, no matter what is happening around us and against all odds. And from that, I have a pet name for my baby girl, baby warrior and I believe we can also revert to that simplicity in life. Not easy to do but with constant reminder, its possible.
So here I am, trying to eat well for baby and back to my work place, trying to be a responsible worker although I can no longer work late like before. And also, after baby has settled down, I am back taking care of wellbeing of hubby as hubbies are just as important!
Sorry that I did not log on for quite a while as have not fixed home notebook and also very busy at work after resting at home.
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