babygalore09
Member
To sisters are childless at the moment:
After my abandoned IVF cycle about less than 2 months ago, I got back to life with my hubby without thinking about ivf and children and frankly, I have been happier and living a fulfilling life. After miscarriages, ttcing, failed ivf which equated to many roller coaster rides, I am very determined to embrace life without the baggage of ttcing or always thinking about having a child. That is not to say that I have given up, it is to say that I have refocused my life all over again in making my hubby happy and myself happy, with or without kids. In concrete terms, it essentially means I am at the stage of:
1. Loving my work
2. Spending a lot of time on hobbies
3. Keeping healthy for the seek of myself/my hubby and not because of having kids
4. Being able to be surrounded by pregnant woman and not feeling much of a difference except admiring their sexy maternity clothes.
5. Being surrounded by babies and end up admiring their chubbiness and feel like squeezing them.
6. Not thinking that infertility is by any means a handicap or any reason to sulk about.
7. Just loving life and my mere existence on this earth.
To have reached this stage, its important to:
1. Pick up new interests.
2. Be confident of our purpose in life, and not indulge in self-pity.
3. Surround ourselves with supportive and loving people who won’t judge us for our childlessness.
4. As for the inevitable presence of critical people who question why we have no kids, I won’t hang out with them as they waste our time by feeding their lack of confidence on our self-found happiness.
I would like to use to thread to provide a platform for communication for woman like myself who wants to live a fulfilling life with or without children. Hopefully such communication can also offer some consolation that it is perfectly normal to be childless not by choice and still happy. If we are lucky, we can form a group (actually I would rather not use the word support group as it make us sound so helpless) that:
1. Can become genuine friends because of our similar experience and similar outlook on life.
2. Can talk about many aspects of life (including pets, hobbies, hubbies, ttcing included but not exclusive).
3. Share tips on how to cope with childlessness and live well.
4. At the end of the day, when another sister has a baby, be genuinely happy for her (them).
I don’t know how this thread will end up becoming but lets try. But don’t throw bad eggs at me if I cannot come to this thread that often due to workload. But I certainly hope this thread can be a platform for the sisters out there who are at the moment childless to make new friends with other childless sisters and share tips on how to cope.
After my abandoned IVF cycle about less than 2 months ago, I got back to life with my hubby without thinking about ivf and children and frankly, I have been happier and living a fulfilling life. After miscarriages, ttcing, failed ivf which equated to many roller coaster rides, I am very determined to embrace life without the baggage of ttcing or always thinking about having a child. That is not to say that I have given up, it is to say that I have refocused my life all over again in making my hubby happy and myself happy, with or without kids. In concrete terms, it essentially means I am at the stage of:
1. Loving my work
2. Spending a lot of time on hobbies
3. Keeping healthy for the seek of myself/my hubby and not because of having kids
4. Being able to be surrounded by pregnant woman and not feeling much of a difference except admiring their sexy maternity clothes.
5. Being surrounded by babies and end up admiring their chubbiness and feel like squeezing them.
6. Not thinking that infertility is by any means a handicap or any reason to sulk about.
7. Just loving life and my mere existence on this earth.
To have reached this stage, its important to:
1. Pick up new interests.
2. Be confident of our purpose in life, and not indulge in self-pity.
3. Surround ourselves with supportive and loving people who won’t judge us for our childlessness.
4. As for the inevitable presence of critical people who question why we have no kids, I won’t hang out with them as they waste our time by feeding their lack of confidence on our self-found happiness.
I would like to use to thread to provide a platform for communication for woman like myself who wants to live a fulfilling life with or without children. Hopefully such communication can also offer some consolation that it is perfectly normal to be childless not by choice and still happy. If we are lucky, we can form a group (actually I would rather not use the word support group as it make us sound so helpless) that:
1. Can become genuine friends because of our similar experience and similar outlook on life.
2. Can talk about many aspects of life (including pets, hobbies, hubbies, ttcing included but not exclusive).
3. Share tips on how to cope with childlessness and live well.
4. At the end of the day, when another sister has a baby, be genuinely happy for her (them).
I don’t know how this thread will end up becoming but lets try. But don’t throw bad eggs at me if I cannot come to this thread that often due to workload. But I certainly hope this thread can be a platform for the sisters out there who are at the moment childless to make new friends with other childless sisters and share tips on how to cope.