In a idea world of course it’s better to settle amicably.I suggest talk openly to your husband without fear and aim for mutual divorce ..and look ahead..ofcourse if he is abusive or physical then can file a police report
But many a time those men although they did wrong they still wan to deny it.
To file for divorce, you need a reason. Then who wan to shoulder the party who is wrong.
And if you wan the man to comprise then you will have to agree on his term if not he will not agree to sign for divorce and hence we lose in bargaining for better term.
If you have evidence then you will not him to comprise to divorce and can go on to ask for better maintenance or division of assets