hi there again ladies.
just logging in before i go work on my maths exam papers...
daisy,
don't be too upset my dear. these things are pretty normal. even though my son is still young, i rem that i gave my mom this exact kind of prob too wen i was young! i rem very vividly leh. that time i primary 4 somemore. i received a love letter (
haha.. lame! don't laugh hokay everyone) from my "boyfriend". i wrote back and wanted to give to him (
i said, don't laugh!! hahaha). but before i managed to do that, my mom found the letter!!! die!
i rem i was SO blardee terrified. my mom scolded me but she didn't harp too much on it. in fact she was rather cold abt it i rem. it made it even scarier cos i didn't know what she'd do next. i believe she told my dad. he didn't scold me either. he just became v cold and silent and had an air of disapproval. u can be sure that i tiptoed ard the house that whole week if not the whole month cos i wanted to make sure i didn't trigger any "explosions"
i was so scared. it discouraged me from much else.
sometimes, this kind of method can work..? i dono. it sure did its magic on me, man. i mean, i didn't stop talking to boys completely or anything drastic like that la, but knowing that my parents strongly disapproved made a HUGE impact. and on retrospect, the fact tt they didn't kick up a fuss meant that i didn't have a chance to rebel against them and do sthg that i wouldn't otherwise do.. u know what i mean?
talk to your daughter nicely. she needs to know u're there. if not, she'll think u dowan her and all the more she'll rely on external relationships. don't fight her, try to win her over. try not to give her a chance to rebel agst u ok?
again hor i say this, my son very young. i'm not talking fr mommy's perspective. just sharing my own experience abt a similar situation.
cheer up girl!